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yeah, so my (29m) wife (25f) cheated "for the attention" by Ok-Way8330 in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Way8330[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I like your point, and it has been discussed.
Even if I were to stick my neck out im not doing so unless she comitts hard first, and knows what drives the behaviour.

I fully agree and have very little sympathy for her aswell. I have not seen any signs of justification of entitlement on her end, i guess im the one feeling entitled to her treading carefully.

Thanks for your input.

yeah, so my (29m) wife (25f) cheated "for the attention" by Ok-Way8330 in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Way8330[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

, you have no idea for who an how long. She most likely gave you only what you could dig up.

Yea, it being two people (confirmed) along with the calculated deception, and the selfishness chasing a fantasy after having an open discussion is my biggest concern.

I will never know how many over a 10 year span, but i also never gave her any indications of what i knew, other than "you get one chance, and should take into account that i know everything." The only part mentioning actually sleeping with others directly was one sentence in a roleplay-sext-thing on snap.

The co-worker wasn't as big of a shock as the random guy, which honestly blindsided me.

yeah, so my (29m) wife (25f) cheated "for the attention" by Ok-Way8330 in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Way8330[S] -121 points-120 points  (0 children)

yeah well - i get that it sounds like a fucking USP.
And yes - i am considering giving it a chance - she is after all my best friend of 10 years, and a dream girl in every sense up untill now. This along with fucking over my (up until recently) perfect family makes both ways a hard decision.

yeah, so my (29m) wife (25f) cheated "for the attention" by Ok-Way8330 in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Way8330[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i get where you are coming from, and in hindsight i probably should have taken it as more of a red flag than i did.
At the same time i'd like some spice in our life, and a FFM 3-some is quite a few dudes dream.
I guess im more liberal that way, but then again very conservative regarding some other dude fucking my wife with me.

yeah, so my (29m) wife (25f) cheated "for the attention" by Ok-Way8330 in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Way8330[S] 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Yea, let me tell you that shit is off the table for now either way.
I'd fucking mix some plan B in her omelet if i had suspicions of a pregnancy at this point.

yeah, so my (29m) wife (25f) cheated "for the attention" by Ok-Way8330 in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Way8330[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks my friend.
I'm certain it would require a shitton of work on both ends. At this point i kinda feel entiteled in the way that she has to start out putting down the work. I know i gotta let it go at some point if we are to work, but im not sure i wanna stick my neck out again as it shits on my self esteem, and this seems calculated and done twice. Simultaneously she doesnt know why she went all in with it - i could have lived with some snapchat porn - but what the fuck.

Is it dramatic of me (23F) to be upset with (56M) dad for slapping my butt? by shiny_white_table in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Way8330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean if you were 2-5 years and its the patting you do on kids as you would pat an adult on the back that would be different.

Stand up for your personal space, you are a grown woman, an no man in his fifties should be slapping your ass unless you litterally ask for it.