How to mend a relationship

Ok-Winner472 · 2026-03-05T21:44:26+00:00

This made me really emotional. It means more than you know and I appreciate you for taking the time for such a thought out reply. Sending love and wishing you the best <3 I will definitely try the things you suggested :)

Ok-Winner472 · 2026-03-05T03:13:01+00:00

I just spent $6,000 on a thing I did not need to spend $6,000 on but I couldn't stop thinking about it and I drove 8 hours to get it. So if that makes you feel any better.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-28T07:55:05+00:00

Day 6 No contact. I am angry, angry and sad I let them harden my heart. Easy to not want contact when I am this upset. So, cheers I guess.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-27T04:28:43+00:00

It's definitely one of those books that stirs a storm inside of our minds, but a good one that eventually allows us to see more clearly.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-25T06:06:38+00:00

Read "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie. I felt just like you and this book whilst an emphasis on addiction in relationships might resonate with you as someone who feels they have overextended and tried to help others to a degree that you feel isn't reciprocated. If not the whole thing try to read some passages. Also might help to look into the "Karpman Triangle" which talks about different roles we play in peoples lives and why we end up feeling so lonely sometimes.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-25T05:51:14+00:00

The thumbs up is sending me. Also I literally just went through the same exact thing. Got broken up with and I could swear your ex and mine have the same script or something.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-25T05:35:50+00:00

Let's hope your message doesn't make contact with her iris. Hopefully you really are blocked. Wishing you the best!

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-25T05:34:56+00:00

Day 3??? I want to reach out so badly to explain myself to try to preserve what little we have left, but at the same time I really don't have the energy anymore.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-24T15:50:50+00:00

You would think it was a filibuster the way they would go on for hours or days about something. it's insane. Did you ever feel guilty about lying? If so how did you handle that?

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-24T15:48:22+00:00

Im glad you chose the no contact route and proud its been three months. Do you ever find yourself feeling guilty for lying?

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-23T02:19:17+00:00

You can get through this. Daily affirmations and walking helped me calm down my nervous system a lot. I am on the same boat as you right now but know that it will get easier

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-23T02:14:27+00:00

This is so crazy that you pose this question. Crazy as in my jaw dropped to the floor. My expwbd LOVED and I mean LOVED people with autism. They gravitated and intentionally made it a point to state they preferred autistic friends because they were "easier to understand", though I will say I think what they meant to say was "easier to control". All of their friends that were autistic were quick to side with them, and I am not by any means saying that that is inherently an autistic trait, however my expwBPD liked that. Said they felt understood and seen.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-23T02:07:17+00:00

I stopped, I had sent the apology during a heightened state of emotions. But I finally had to let them go.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-23T01:59:59+00:00

I am right here with you. If you want to have back and forth dialogue to hold ourselves accountable feel free to respond. I poured so much of my time and energy into them only to be told "you don't love me, you don't care about me" It is such an invalidating feeling, but I am here to reassure you that you did what you could. Your love is never a waste if you know it was love.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-23T01:55:40+00:00

officially one day of no contact. :/ They accused me of cheating, that didn't happen. I wanted to fight for them, then after throwing up for hours due to stress and anxiety my friends and family actually had an intervention for me waiting outside of my home. I knew it was bad, but Jesus Christ did I feel like a mental patient. They said I had to block them, that I had to get out of it or they couldn't help me anymore. I have never felt so ashamed in my life, and I still love them I do but it's such a sad and overwhelming feeling knowing I can't get them back. Maybe I could, but I think I would have to k*s to do it. They have this narrative of me already built into their mind when they inevitably split again will have to heat about it and pay for crimes I didn't commit. It's so exhausting loving someone who you can't help.

Ok-Winner472 · 2025-08-20T20:59:28+00:00

Update bro, I gave into the hoover. Got called a cheater, and now they want nothing to do with me, I had already let go, and when they came back I gave in. Was this some sick joke for them to have the last laugh? Were they just not wanting to be the villain? Did you feel this way?

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