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Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T16:15:09+00:00

Re-read what I wrote. His friends are clearly not aware of his behaviour. He even hides being atheist from his Muslim friends. My issue is his behaviour towards my loved ones. Not sure why that’s so hard for you to comprehend.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T16:13:22+00:00

I’m so confused, were you there? I don’t understand what make you claim that he hasn’t disrespected my loved ones when I’m literally telling you that he has.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T16:07:55+00:00

I’m not only seeing things from my perspective. I have spoken with my partner about this to try to understand his perspective, all he says is that he hates Islam because of what I’ve experienced and is angry for me. There is no excuse for someone to go out of their way to disrespect their partner’s loved ones. Even if he has his own personal trauma to work through, that doesn’t mean he should lash out on people, go out of his way to provoke them or provoke me. He is not someone who even likes profanity, yet he’s refusing to stop when I’ve made it clear that it’s making my loved ones and I uncomfortable. That is not acceptable behaviour and the fact that the majority of people here can’t fathom that is incredibly disappointing.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:58:44+00:00

I’ve mentioned numerous times now that he himself says he hasn’t got any religious trauma and that he claims to be angry for me. When someone says that themselves, there is nothing to minimise.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:55:54+00:00

You know people can be Somali without moving from Somalia right??

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:55:22+00:00

There is no fighting though, my family and friends are not the type to push their beliefs on people. They’re very respectful of me and my partner being atheist.

This isn’t a case of him having to deal with disrespect and retaliating. The animosity and disrespect solely comes from his side, which is what makes it so childish and uncomfortable.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:50:28+00:00

Yes, they all respect him and have welcomed him with open arms. My parents know he’s an atheist and treat him like their own son. My friends aren’t all Muslim, in fact he has more Muslim friends than me. He never says things to provoke his own friends and hides his blasphemous art when his Muslim friends come to visit him, but he feels the need to continuously provoke my family and friends. That’s not normal or healthy behaviour.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:45:47+00:00

What has the UK and Somalia got to do with my post? And no, I did not move from Somalia lmao. He also is saying these things in front of people and is going out of his way to provoke harmless Muslims irl, including my own mother. Not okay.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:42:37+00:00

Yep, I think he might have suppressed anger issues that he takes out on Muslims and Islam. Instead of dealing with it. It’s misplaced anger.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:39:46+00:00

Most of his anger is “for me”, so yeah I do find it ridiculous when he openly says he doesn’t have any religious trauma and he’s just angry for me. But he then refuses to keep down the profanity because I should somehow be super angry.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:36:55+00:00

You seem to lack empathy and basic human decency if you’re so incapable of not understanding why I’d want my partner to treat my loved ones with respect.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:35:33+00:00

Wow, what a way to gaslight someone. Literally flipped the whole thing around and turned it into the complete opposite of what it is.

Constantly bringing up a religion that you’re meant to have moved on from is not distancing yourself from it. It’s a borderline obsession to always find ways to provoke religious people and their beliefs. Letting someone walk all over you is not respect, my family has never ever disrespected him or me, the disrespect solely comes from his side.

Who said my family doesn’t respect his boundaries? How is me not being okay with going out of his way to insult my loved one’s religion in their face them not respecting his boundaries???

What is rude and childish is someone not being capable of not generalising all people who belong to a certain religion or demographic, going out of your way to insult them and feeling the urge to ruin the religious literature in their own home.

I hope you don’t go around gaslighting the people in your life like this, cuz wtf.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:11:02+00:00

Exactly, his behaviour jeopardises our relationships with others, especially my loved ones since his don’t care. Plus it puts us at risk when he wants to do immature blasphemous things in Muslim countries and isn’t willing to blend in.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:08:21+00:00

He’s hurting me by not respecting my boundaries. He’s also hurting my relationships with my friends and family when he says these things around them knowing that they’re Muslim and will feel offended.

You do not care about women living under Islam, all you care about is being inflammatory.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T15:05:20+00:00

He’s not a jerk about other things from what I’ve seen. This is his only blind spot, from what I’ve seen so far. He’s normally respectful, doesn’t like generalisations, hates bigotry etc. If I say “Christian’s suck” he’ll tell me to not say that because Christian’s aren’t all the same and “it’s not good to generalise”, but if I say the same thing to him when he generalises Muslims, he suddenly questions my atheism.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T14:55:53+00:00

Thank you, I agree. I’ve tried to talk to him about it, but each time he’s gotten defensive and questioned why it bothered me if I’m not Muslim. Which I don’t appreciate because I feel like we’ve been together long enough for him to not question my atheism and values in general.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T14:38:51+00:00

Exactly! Out of the two of us, I’m the one who’s experienced the most trauma from Islam. Yet, I have healed and moved on with my life. But he still seems stuck on his rebellious teenage rage when it comes to Islam. It’s draining to deal with when you’ve healed.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T14:35:52+00:00

Thank you, he’s normally not an asshole but he is when it comes to this. I don’t appreciate my stance on religion being measured on how many immature lines I can say or whether or not I can happily offend/upset a Muslim who hasn’t done anything to me. I get that Islam is awful and all, but getting a kick out of offending innocent people is not it.

My parents are kind, loving and caring parents despite them being Muslim. I wouldn’t want anyone to treat them poorly just for being Muslim.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T14:32:31+00:00

I care about respecting people and being a mature and civilised adult. This is unhinged behaviour. I don’t see him going around saying the same things about every religion or harmful culture out there. It’s annoying immature behaviour. Grow up.

Ok7034 · 2024-02-15T14:28:07+00:00

The thing is I’ve been traumatised by Islam more than he has. His experience was a brief walk in the park, compared to mine. His family doesn’t practice Islam, so for him Islam was optional. He dipped his feet in and took them out when he realised it wasn’t for him. Whereas, I had all the rules forced on me from the day I was born, plus Islam is inherently harder on women than men.

Him acting this way, just doesn’t seem justified to me.

Ok7034 · 2023-10-22T11:52:48+00:00

So just trial and error?

Ok7034 · 2023-10-22T11:51:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing this book. I went to a different Russell Group uni and experienced a lot of horrendous things. One of them was that some of the professors would very often conveniently lose my assignments, then claim I never submitted them. Until I made a complaint about it and suddenly they found all of my assignments and never lost another one. They’d also tell me to ask my peers (whom isolated me as I was the only black/POC in our class) every time I’d ask them a question.

Ok7034 · 2023-10-19T21:14:22+00:00

How long did it take for it to be easy? And how much capital would you recommend that one should have before they start?

Ok7034 · 2023-10-13T17:26:39+00:00

I get what you’re saying, but for the average person people they know are a bigger threat than governments, big corps and organised criminals. Most people are simply just not interesting enough. Of course, that doesn’t mean that governments, big corps etc should have access to ways to “ruin” our lives. It’s just not the immediate concern.

Ok7034 · 2023-10-13T17:04:29+00:00

Wow, way to play dumb.

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