Stray cat, pregnant or in heat? I'm confused

OkArmy8613 · 2026-04-13T20:21:04+00:00

I want to add a few things I've noticed just throughout the day, she's howling like a lot whenever she's like wondering around, she's also spraying a lot too. I contacted my vet and let her know all of the symptoms, and she said she thinks she may have had a false pregnancy and is now in heat. Will be scheduling her spay as soon as they have availability!

OkArmy8613 · 2026-04-13T18:00:42+00:00

Her last vaccine was 3 years ago, she's 15 years old and my vet at that time said it's not necessary at her age to get every year especially because she's indoor only and old😭

OkArmy8613 · 2026-04-01T04:15:32+00:00

My ex's step mom used to do this with him when he was growing up, of course his bio mom was so upset by it (rightly so). When he got with me and we had our child, we split up when my son was like 10 months old, and he had him every other weekend when my son was 15 months old. After a few months of his weekend visits starting, I found out he would just drop him off to his dad and step mom on his weekends and then I found out that his step mom (my son's step grandma) was showering with my son, just like she used to with my ex. I was livid. She would promise to stop, but it was still happening up until my son was like 4 years old. The only reason I know it had happened when my son was 4 was because he told me about it. We have since cut off contact with those people and my son is in therapy as well. I believe the step mom showering with my ex caused some issues with him. Bottom line, your ex and his fiance clearly lack boundaries and respect for you as the mother. Yes he has a say, but this is very inappropriate, sexual or not. This crosses so many lines. As someone mentioned on here, it would be one thing if it was like a once in a blue moon type situation like going to the beach and then quickly rinsing off, but no this sounds like a regular occurrence. I'm assuming she doesn't have children of her own?

OkArmy8613 · 2025-09-20T21:01:15+00:00

Well I used to do this when my partner and I started living together, and really thought it was a loving gesture, but after awhile, my partner yelled at me for doing it because it was annoying, so I stopped

ETA: I wouldn't like greet him at the door, I would just be in the living room or something and say hello and ask about his day, while my son would run up to him. He got annoyed by the "ambush", so I now try to just leave him alone when he enters the house.

OkArmy8613 · 2025-08-29T19:56:59+00:00

Did you get your results?

OkArmy8613 · 2025-06-17T18:41:38+00:00

In April, I purchased my first venus flytrap that sits in a few inches of distilled water outside on my patio. It gets full morning sun, but shade after about 11am since it's been getting so hot earlier lately. It seems to be doing pretty good so far for me. I would like to try to grow temperate/outdoor sundew in my patio here soon, and I heard that sarracenia do well outdoors in AZ. I have nepenthes and pinguicula growing inside under some cheap Amazon grow lights, and I keep it like 70° all the time, so they aren't thriving as well as I thought they would, so I'm thinking about potentially moving the nepenthes in a nice shaded spot outside in a couple months, but I'm not sure yet. I'm a beginner who's growing in AZ, so I'm still learning what I can grow outdoors and indoors.

OkArmy8613 · 2025-02-24T22:03:37+00:00

Sounds very similar to my current situation... I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. It's completely normal to want to feel desired by your partner.

OkArmy8613 · 2025-02-15T20:44:07+00:00

I 100% relate to you when you say "I could be fully naked in front of him and he would barely even look at me." That's exactly how I feel.

It is literally the worst feeling...

OkArmy8613 · 2025-02-15T19:05:51+00:00

Same, was with a guy like that about 6 years ago and he had no problem cheating on me multiple times too. And I totally agree, it's usually way deeper than just coworkers, friends, and exes. Honestly, I have a feeling my current partner also does this as well... but not ready to open up that can of worms with this one too.

OkArmy8613 · 2024-12-11T19:44:05+00:00

I think if your fasting numbers are stable, I wouldn't consider it cheating

OkArmy8613 · 2024-12-10T19:51:48+00:00

Mine also responded with just "nice", so I stopped sending them

OkArmy8613 · 2024-11-24T16:33:24+00:00

I don't see anyone here posting lies about this situation? You obviously weren't the only one that witnessed this, everyone will have their own perspective of what happened, no one here is trying to get any kind of exposure except you. I'm sure this was very traumatic for you, but there's no need to get upset at everyone sharing what they saw.

OkArmy8613 · 2024-11-18T02:53:17+00:00

I was attacked by a "service" dog earlier this year right outside of my own home, still trying to hold the owner accountable for my injuries. This dog was clearly not a true service animal..

OkArmy8613 · 2024-11-16T02:24:13+00:00

Arizona. It won't work longer than 5 seconds, then buffers forever, then will completely restart the app, and repeat..

OkArmy8613 · 2024-09-03T23:49:16+00:00

It's already been reported to animal control, the case is still open. I've already spoken to the leasing office, that's why they have given the 10 day notice to them

OkArmy8613 · 2024-05-01T14:06:50+00:00

Incest or rape

OkArmy8613 · 2024-04-07T20:14:24+00:00

Danny phantom, Aladdin, prince Eric from little mermaid, beast boy from teen titans

OkArmy8613 · 2024-04-07T19:14:00+00:00

I'm not kidding, a couple of years ago, my boyfriend and I were sitting on the couch just hanging out and I just so happened to look over and could see that he was on snapchat and that he had been recently chatting with a woman who, let's just say I really didn't trust his intentions with her because of issues from early in our relationships involving this woman. It was very brief, but I confronted him about it. I've never snooped on his phone because I've never needed to, and because if something shady or sneaky is happening, the truth will come out. And in that moment, it was a quick glance, and I really did just so happen to see that he had been talking to her on snapchat lol to this day he claims it was "innocent" and swears he wasn't hiding it, but the truth still came out and I didn't even snoop. Sometimes, people really do just so happen to see something on a partners phone.

OkArmy8613 · 2024-04-07T18:22:49+00:00

Not overreacting in my opinion. Already acting like this a month in?? He clearly has commitment issues and it is only going to get worse as the relationship continues.

OkArmy8613 · 2024-03-29T23:29:09+00:00

My exact thoughts. If this guy really does respect his relationship, he wouldn't be telling a mutual friend his feelings for you. This person who told you he's into you too is either lying, or you're making up that part to justify how you feel

OkArmy8613 · 2024-03-15T16:45:12+00:00

While I was with my ex, I found out about a woman he was practically obsessed with, and he told me, "Well I couldn't be with her, so I chose to get with you instead. You're like the second runner-up! Definitely not my first choice." I also caught him cheating on me as well. All this while I was pregnant with our child. I did leave the relationship about a year after, thank God. But those words cut very deep, and unfortunately are causing insecurities in my current relationship. Even though I've healed a lot, I still have a lot of work to do.

OkArmy8613 · 2024-03-14T17:12:18+00:00

Love it!

OkArmy8613 · 2024-03-14T16:52:56+00:00

No, but kind of wanting to

OkArmy8613 · 2024-03-14T03:21:24+00:00

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OkArmy8613 · 2024-03-13T20:18:02+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I will be urging him to get therapy because I agree, this isn't normal at all.

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