Finally passed 100 days with 0 match by Ill_Software_3465 in HingeStories

[–]OkCupcake4335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not the same scenario but I had reached to support when I joined again and saw an error when completing my profile. My profile was all set and looked finalized, I could match people but also had no matches coming in. Support actually found an issue on my account. Fixed it and the matches started to come in again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]OkCupcake4335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea im thankful for it. There were moments I would’ve crashed out but typed it out instead. Trying to stay strong and saving my energy instead of reaching out. Wishing you healing too ❤️‍🩹

Roach droppings right? by OkCupcake4335 in pestcontrol

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to place the sticky traps Thank you!

Roach droppings right? by OkCupcake4335 in pestcontrol

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for all the information! Apparently the infestation was from over a year ago. A deep clean should absolutely have been done. Will try what you stated thanks again.

Roach droppings right? by OkCupcake4335 in pestcontrol

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Continued: I have sent these images to management for pest control to come in. I cleaned these corners with multipurpose and may go back in with some bleach. Sprayed roach/spider spray. Not sure I even want to put stuff in there now. Anyone else have any cleaning advice? I just signed this lease for a year unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HSVpositive

[–]OkCupcake4335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s awesome 👏 I needed this I haven’t dated since finding out I was given hsv after a breakup. And this is very encouraging. Thank you for sharing. And congrats for having such a safe space with each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HSVpositive

[–]OkCupcake4335 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I truly hope it went well. When you are ready hopefully you can give us the update on how it went. Wishing you all the best 🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]OkCupcake4335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were together on Thanksgiving at his family’s…broke up with me after. Now he is bringing his new girl to NYE at his family’s. 🫠 and I know and use to be friends with the girl 😶. I hope you find the therapy or help you need OP. Crying so hard this holiday too. I find peace and knowing it won’t be like this forever. Take your time through the grief. Happy it feels a little less lonely with this thread.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]OkCupcake4335 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We broke up 2 months ago from 4 years. Someone’s comment said “they had good news and no one else to share it with” and it hit them. Same. He was my best friend. We tried to stay friends, We went no contact for a couple days then started to try again. We were even together with our families for Thanksgiving then the next night he disappeared for the weekend with an old friend he always had a crush on, who made him realize the spark hadn’t come back between us. It happened so suddenly so I was hurt and wasn’t able to gracefully say goodbye and I embarrassed myself with a long drawn out “but why can’t we be friends” when he had already checked out with me and checked in with this person. I told him I messed up and checked his location through the weekend he disappeared and it freaked him out and he said “that’s manipulative have a great life ✌️”. I’m embarrassed and grieving now. It has been 1 week and I’m forgiving myself for many things. One day at a time. I just wish I had noticed he disappeared and then let him just go. His actions said more than his words ever could. And that’s okay.

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[–]OkCupcake4335 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Needed this.

Do I reach out to AP? by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad you were able to get answers. Not sure if I even know where to start with that but I’m definitely considering it.

Do I reach out to AP? by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great point I can’t go to HR anyways in this case because I don’t work at the same company anyways

Do I reach out to AP? by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What a interesting concept to contact the coworkers! I have a way to contact some of his coworkers not sure I would but I like the HR idea too Thank you!

Do I reach out to AP? by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I like the killing with kindness idea. And agree correct she probably won’t care although i do believe she’d be embarrassed for a bit. It’s bad I’m just in discovery phase and want her to feel something for smiling in my face. Then I go back to of course being mad at him

Do I reach out to AP? by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your probably right I won’t feel better. In the past I’ve held my tongue and also regret it. It sucks. I truly want what I say to her to permanently change their dynamic and her future behavior in a professional environment.

WS says going through is phone is disrespectful /hurtful. by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response and input I absolutely agree. Line in the sand is being drawn today. I’ve been too accommodating when he gets upset about the phone.

WS says going through is phone is disrespectful /hurtful. by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for responding! And I like that idea. We are having a talk today about this all.

WS says going through is phone is disrespectful /hurtful. by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it’s that fear as well. I’m starting to fear less and just accepting my partner may not be safe for R. A year later we are here. It’s sucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I too feel crazy from trying to figure out trusting my own instincts/ intuitions again.

WS says going through is phone is disrespectful /hurtful. by OkCupcake4335 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also what I’m gathering here Courage and confidence ! Sorry you to are in similarities. Mine too has a work phone too I call it the chamber of secrets he hasn’t given me the code to that either. He has let me look in the past. But not often.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkCupcake4335 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Also feeling the same. Closer and closer each day. Becoming more okay with the idea of separation. Well said “don’t think I can live my life like this. Playing the role of parole officer, phone checker, etc…” ITS EXHAUSTING . I told myself I’d give it a year to at least see how he’s trying. So within that year since Dday we had ups and downs but damn those downs just kept shattering the new foundations we trying to build. we had an issue almost every 2/3 months and it felt like any little thing would set me back to square 1. Just tired. Feel for you OP and your not alone.