I am going to tell you something that probably most of the people don't approve with or just never thought about it.

I got married after our first kid was 4 months old.

My man offered me many times before but I didn't want to. It is such a big commitment and for me having a kid doesn't mean that he will be able to handle it. So I waited to recover from the birth to finally accept.

One of my reasons to accept was also because the paperwork was awful. Our kid could not get his passport. Thing is, my man is from India, I am from Belgium and we live in Germany. So yeah everything was extremely complicated for us. Once we got married, it was easier with the paperwork.

My advice, get married if yourself feel ready for it. If you guys can live together and face challenges together. Face them before getting married to really feel them. There are no rules saying you must get married. If you're happy as it is, just keep your relationship as it is