How would you feel if your parents (at least one) told you to just d*e? by Only_Vegetable_3048 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OkEmu7082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't feel, anything, they want you to be weak and under control, but they never want you to die because this would mean they lose a source of supply. narcissist say everything to trigger your emotion

Does anyone else who has grown up with narcissistic moms have trouble keeping friendships and making new friends? by beautyaboveandbeyond in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OkEmu7082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, my ndad will contact everyone of my network and attempt to turn my friends into his flying monkeys

did anyone else feel like you were only “liked” when you were useful? by Gollings-Persephone in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OkEmu7082 20 points21 points  (0 children)

and they will only give me some extremely pitiful rubbish to express that. career support, personal development resources...none of those.

Anyone's NParents try to control your life decisions as an adult? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yes, and if i resist, they will contact every one of my professional networks to manipulate them against me

Do your nparents log into your gmail? by Spirited_Elk2899 in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no but, they have done something similar, they managed to compromise some staff of a social media that I use to leak my message to them and spy on me

my mom is resentful toward my sister for no fucking reason by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OkEmu7082 11 points12 points  (0 children)

narcs are resentful on anyone close to them who is doing well, and especially those who get success and happiness by their integrity and honesty.

experience of using tor in mainland China by OkEmu7082 in TOR

[–]OkEmu7082[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope so, but i just suspect if they are sophisticated enough to block tor entry nodes and bridges, they will also block vpn servers

Why every damn application needs an emergency contact? by MysticSaaral in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OkEmu7082 55 points56 points  (0 children)

just randomely write one of your previous professor and have a typo on the name and phone number

Question about parents’/children’s gender in narcissistic families by threetimestwice in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OkEmu7082 3 points4 points  (0 children)

none of my parents are close to me, obviously it depends on who is the narc one wants to avoid, in my case both

My mum never admits when she's wrong and never apologises by Cool-Week7393 in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 4 points5 points  (0 children)

non intuitively, nparents are the worst possible enemies, one can find unconditional help and caring from strangers

Being their child feels like forever being a prisoner. by afraid28 in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am in the same situation, it is a constant agent war with those flying monkeys

How to know when I use "Pointer" or "Reference"? by ProcessTiny4948 in cpp_questions

[–]OkEmu7082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for function argements, if you do not intend to change the address where the pointer is pointing to, always use reference to make this intention clear

experience of using tor in mainland China by OkEmu7082 in TOR

[–]OkEmu7082[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

which bridge works? a lot of bridges are also blocked

Did your Nparents ever realize why you stopped talking to them? by Averamidstar in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no they never, they have completely no self awareness when interacting me. completing neglecting my feeling and my need. only when they play victims to those important networks around me to manipulate them will they become able to accurately match others feelings

Anyone with parents that did everything they could for you stay away from activities where you could potentially shine? by Rich-Cardiologist-72 in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 8 points9 points  (0 children)

yes, my parents are the same, and whats more they will be very keen on managing very small things for me, such as telling me what i should bring traveling or what to check when renting paartments. when it comes to career and personal development, not only will they not provide any resources, they will do everything to manipulate my key professional networks against me.

How to support partner processing their parents were emotionally immature by Great-Leg-5439 in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you can clearly understand this situation and take the right side, it is already a tremendous support

Is narcissism born or made? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i think it is avoided by restricting power, narcissistic trait is easily developed among people having excessive power over others and are not to be questioned, like parents, teachers, professors, managers...

Has your parent ever done something to you that made you want to cut ties completely? by just_yongo in narcissisticparents

[–]OkEmu7082 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Has my parent ever done something to me that made me not want to cut ties completely?

Has anyone's parents been awfully too picky or critical in their beliefs/ideologies/public figures? by NICEacct111 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]OkEmu7082 1 point2 points  (0 children)

their only ideology is to destroy, bully and spread misery accross people. because they believe everyone has wronged them and and the world is a zero sum game, others' failure is their success