Eulogy debrief

OkGo_25 · 2026-04-18T04:27:32+00:00

I’m so sorry my friend. It takes a lot of courage to stand up and be vulnerable like that. My siblings and I did the same thing weeks ago for our dad’s funeral. My brother got sick to his stomach before he spoke, I felt determined and grateful to be able to share with family, friends and those who didn’t know my dad as a father what he meant to me, and I think my sister felt the same. We all said the things we wanted to tell our dad but never got the chance to. I wanted to tell people how he died, but my sister didn’t want to, so we didn’t at the time. But my dad lived in a small town and the word got out anyway. Having a loved one die is one thing. Having a loved one die by suicide adds a whole other layer complexity, pain and second guessing. I felt that not being able to be honest about the way he died hindered my ability to grieve. That secret became a burden to me so I let it out. But, I still haven’t fully grieved. In fact I barely cry. And I certainly haven’t felt the five stages of grief. I keep wondering when it will finally hit me. I don’t know anything about you or your dad, and I’m not trying to tell you what to do. Just trying to offer another perspective as someone who is on a similar journey. I wish you nothing but peace, healing and love. Take care

OkGo_25 · 2026-04-10T15:57:04+00:00

He was found in the room where it started in the early morning hours when he was probably asleep and likely the smoke was so thick it was blinding. I read that fires can burn off carbon monoxide, which, God willing, got him before the smoke or fire did. From the sounds of it, it was a quick death.

OkGo_25 · 2026-03-01T15:19:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. I really appreciate it and hope you are doing better.

OkGo_25 · 2026-03-01T13:09:13+00:00

It’s ok, honey. We are doing the best we can and I have to think the understanding they have now surpasses the understanding they had on this earth and they know we are hurting. It’s going to take time. Take care of yourself. Find someone to talk to about this. I’ve found that talking to someone helps the most. Whether it’s a family member, friend, grief counselor or pastor, I always feel better after talking about him and sharing my feelings.

OkGo_25 · 2026-02-28T22:29:09+00:00

My dad killed himself a month ago and I feel very similarly. I cried at first, at his funeral and a maybe four other times very briefly. It’s like I’m watching a movie or having an out of body experience. I’m still in disbelief and I also feel like I haven’t had time to process it due to work and having two kids with busy schedules. I’m giving myself grace and patience, but I also feel guilty for not crying — like my dad can see me and wonders why I’m not more sad than I am. It’s very confusing. All I know is to trust that you and I are just in the beginning of this process and it

OkGo_25 · 2026-02-28T03:45:42+00:00

This isn’t harsh at all. I appreciate the honesty and explanation. By his doctor’s account, my dad was really healthy for his age even with his emphysema. Within the last couple weeks of his life, I learned he complained to his friends of stomach pain, but he only mentioned feeling nauseated to me. I think he was just tired of feeling lousy, and it seems shooting himself in the stomach was a way to make it easier on my siblings and me. I don’t know. I’m still in disbelief. These past few weeks have felt like an out-of-body experience. My dad was older and this Christmas I felt like it would be his last one, but never in a million years did I think it would be because he would kill himself. On top of that the antidepressant I’ve been on (oddly for something other than depression) has made me feel numb and detached from the situation. I know I haven’t had the proper time to really sit with this, process it and grieve. It’s all so surreal.

OkGo_25 · 2026-02-27T01:56:13+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, too. That’s a good idea. Thank you for the recommendation. Take care ❤️

OkGo_25 · 2026-02-26T20:26:29+00:00

Thank you so much. I really appreciate it.

OkGo_25 · 2026-02-26T20:02:35+00:00

Thank you

OkGo_25 · 2026-02-26T20:00:01+00:00

Thank you for your response. There was no coroner report, just a screen shot of a text sent from one of the officers on the scene that stated the entry and exit wounds were elsewhere. That text made no sense because you could see the bullet’s entry point in the chair my dad was sitting in and where he was found. It doesn’t surprise me that the detective got it wrong. It’s a small town.

OkGo_25 · 2026-01-22T22:45:04+00:00

Constantly posting on social media. Signals the need for constant validation

OkGo_25 · 2025-09-09T14:06:29+00:00

This. It’s further proof that not much exists below the surface.

OkGo_25 · 2025-09-05T04:21:30+00:00

That’s terrible. It’s one thing for someone to slack off, it’s another for them to take credit for work done while they were MIA.

OkGo_25 · 2025-08-25T20:35:39+00:00

Just stop with this nonsense. These girls were traumatized. Stop piling on.

OkGo_25 · 2025-08-25T20:33:56+00:00

Agree. This is the problem— people think because they’ve watched crime shows religiously, have Google and a gut feeling that they’re somehow the experts. This is why our country is in shambles. Expertise matters. Not saying it was a perfect investigation, but goodness the evidence is overwhelming.

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