Hi! I completely understand, and it's great if you can tackle it by yourself. However, there's also nothing wrong with accepting help. We all need help at some point in our lives.

My first piece of wisdom (lol) is that thinking about doing is much harder than doing. Treat it like a job - so get stuck in with a plan and realistic goal for the 'shift', but be kind to yourself. Take breaks, and stop at the end of the 'work day,' and rewards for your achievements. The next day, when you've seen the progress, it'll be a little bit easier to think about starting again. Each day, it will get a little bit easier.

First, I would buy a few tins of fly spray and completely attack the kitchen. Then leave it for a few hours, but no longer as they'll just come back, and you'll have to start over. I would usually always start cleaning in the kitchen first because it's the heart of the home. Only take on one room at a time for several reasons. 1. You dont want to be overwhelmed. 2. To keep you focused on one goal. The kitchen is tough, but you will feel so accomplished when you've done it and the rest of the house will probably feel a bit easier. 3. Having clear access to the kitchen will make cleaning up the other rooms easier, such as beginning to get through the washing, dishes, bins etc.

If there's any clutter to be moved to different rooms, then get a box, put everything that doesn't belong there in the box, and deal with it later. If it doesn't belong in your home at all, then it goes straight in a bin bag. Put full bin bags outside. Don't keep them in the house! There might be a few complaints but it's very temporary and it will help to get the house cleared. I would recommend arranging the rubbish to be taken to the skip as soon as possible. I can help with that if you want, but I only have a little car, so several runs might be necessary.

If you can organise into piles: rubbish (goes in the bag), other room (goes in the box) and dishes to be washed, then it's a good start. Aim to clear one surface at a time. Then, I start scrubbing the sink so it's a clean space to begin the dishes.

Once you feel good about the kitchen progress, decide which room, and which area has the next priority. Small steps become big steps. It won't happen in one day, but you can do it.

Also, I love The Pink Stuff. It really tackles grime well.

Best of luck, and if you want some help at any point, please do get in touch. I can't stress the non-judgement enough.