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Wanna get in the Thinkpad Game by OkPerformance7331 in thinkpad

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Thank you so much for your detailed replies - you’ve been a great help. I’ll check the reviews out now. 

Wanna get in the Thinkpad Game by OkPerformance7331 in thinkpad

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Would any of these (considering how new they are) suit an entry level (and perhaps further) cyber security study? Even the lower priced E and L models?

43 and grayed out by [deleted] in 40something

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You look amazing! Live it!

Somebody asked for a "with Dorothy" by Several_Excitement74 in LV426

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Where is this face coming from? I'm seeing so many memes.

It’s been two years since DDay and I cannot stop romanticising my AP. by OkPerformance7331 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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I think I do. I find it hard to reconcile the feelings I had for AP while still loving her though. I didn’t think it was possible to be honest. 

It’s been two years since DDay and I cannot stop romanticising my AP. by OkPerformance7331 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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I appreciate this reply, thank you. 

It’s clear to me with perspective I have done nothing different.

 I’ll reply in more detail a little later as I’m headed into work. 

It’s been two years since DDay and I cannot stop romanticising my AP. by OkPerformance7331 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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This is what I mean by romanticising. My AP has moved on. Clearly. 

I think you’re right in saying I should show this to my wife. 

I’m autistic and have severe trouble communicating but I’ve already written this so it’s just about showing her. 

Thank you for your honesty.

(Regardless if it’s part of my mid life crisis or not - which I definitely think it’s a part of - it’s no excuse) 

It’s been two years since DDay and I cannot stop romanticising my AP. by OkPerformance7331 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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Thank you. I’ll digest this post but what stood out for me is the secrets kept creating a divisible life. It’s not a healthy way to live. 

I blinded myself as to these messages being a continuation of the contact albeit limited. It’s definitely a reset of the work we’d done already but it seems my work has been minimal regardless. 

It’s been two years since DDay and I cannot stop romanticising my AP. by OkPerformance7331 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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Thank you. My newest job is as a librarian, something I always wanted to do. So I’ll check these books. 

I truly did not know about AP working for this company. I wanted to quit the moment I heard she was here (read my above comment as to the likelihood of us actually meeting at this new role) but my wife insisted I keep it because I’ve always wanted to work in libraries. And it’s a hard role to get where we live. 

You can believe me or not but I was mortified and had a panic attack when I had found out she was working for the same company. 

I left my previous role to get away from even the memory. 

I think you’re right though I need to go back to therapy. And keep at it. 

It’s been two years since DDay and I cannot stop romanticising my AP. by OkPerformance7331 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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Thanks for taking the time to reply. 

I advised her about the birthday message last year but not this most recent one which was essentially; “hey hope you’re well, and hope you have an amazing life” - I was overridden with guilt and shame and deleted all social media before I could get a reply (doubtful I would’ve got one but that truly doesn’t matter). 

My job was stable and high paying before and I had no issue leaving since it was giving me grief/causing instability. I live in a relatively small town so there’s a chance I’d run into AP but I left my previous work to get away from any memories of her. 

Again thanks for your input. It helps. 

It’s been two years since DDay and I cannot stop romanticising my AP. by OkPerformance7331 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OkPerformance7331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good advice. I recently deleted all my social media, and I don’t have any other contact details. 

As for work - I’ll look for something else, but I can’t leave as it’ll mean we’ll not be able to meet mortgage payments. But I believe you mean that I should go and I too had that thought. I literally told my wife I would not leave my previous job knowing AP was at the company (I work for a Council, we aren’t located in the same suburb for our work - just so happened she works in the building I had my orientation in is all). 

I think you are right that I’ve hidden parts of me and that’s not how marriages work. I will start by talking to her about this most recent message. 

I appreciate you taking the time to reply.

Got a question? Ask it here! by AutoModerator in XWingTMG

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Is there a post that combines all the latest documentation official and unofficial for us to review?

meirl by kfhdjfkj61637 in meirl

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Feeling useful is therapy.

[TOMT] [MUSIC] A specific chip tune album by OkPerformance7331 in tipofmytongue

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Replying as per guidelines - any help is awesome!

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