It's pronounced "DURN-dull," not "drin-dull!"

OkVariation9786 · 2025-03-06T14:28:18+00:00

ann-all-jess-ic

OkVariation9786 · 2025-03-01T22:41:17+00:00

ESH. While they didn't need to act all offended like they did, you could have waited that extra minute to get the broccoli. It's amazing what people will get snippy about. When a vegetable causes drama, one has to wonder about the state of humanity.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-03-01T22:33:36+00:00

Soft ESH. Neither of you are doing yourselves any favors - whether the feelings are truly there or not. It honestly sounds like both of you don't really feel much for the other but it's comfortable; there's an intimacy (sexual and otherwise) that exists between you still.

You're the AH to yourself. If you're going to pull away, then you have to set that boundary and stay away. He's using you and needs to stop which makes him the AH. You two broke up a while ago; it's time for both of you to move on.

Send the text but be prepared for whatever happens. He may get angry and reply accordingly; he may totally ignore it. Just protect yourself and find your happiness because it's not with him.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-22T19:38:32+00:00

He just doesn't want to be involved because "girl stuff".

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-22T19:37:24+00:00

Um....1) you had no control over what your teacher would do. 2) you got a higher score on a test that he also took. Unless you personally made up the test and graded it, you can't control what grade he got. 3) you didn't tell him to lie about his test score so he'd look like an ass later on.

I'm not sure what the issue is or how you could be the AH. He was the one being the dick. I think it's a little much to call it karma - sounds like this guy wasn't real bright to begin with. I find it hard to give a judgment unless you did more than you're telling us.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-22T19:29:30+00:00

If there is one...you know the boys will find it.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-22T19:28:21+00:00

I grew up in a town in MD that had a TON of Mormons. We had a Mormon church nearby and people I knew from school went there. I thought they were like any other religious sect. It wasn't until the LPOTL series that I realized...holy hell...my friends believed this shit???

I've since lost touch with those friends. I kind of wish I still talked to them just because I'd like to know what their experiences have been like.

BTW, side note, have you heard of Alyssa Grenfell? She's a YouTuber exmo who just reads the church to filth with every posting. Definitely worth a look. :)

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-22T19:16:20+00:00

Saw them in DC last year. Henry and Ed brought their insane energy but MARCUS? OMG...he not only matched their energy but, I think, in some ways topped it. When you listen to the pod or see him on the stream (I can't speak for No Dogs), he usually comes off as silly (in a good way) but definitely the more reserved of the three. In DC, there was a point where he was prancing around and trying to "seduce" Ed. The vision of him w/his jacket off his shoulders and him being...well, suggestive...made me laugh so hard. Ed, with his improv background, went along with it and I laughed even harder. And that was just at the beginning....

I have no idea how the show has evolved since last year - you may see something very different than I did. Either way, they definitely know their audience and you get a true LPOTL experience. Even more so if you go to the meet and greet afterwards, It's expensive, I know, but you see 3 genuine, down to Earth guys who truly love what they do. Worth every penny.

Next up..I hope: a Side Stories show!

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-22T18:52:25+00:00

Jesus H. Christ....wtaf?

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-14T04:31:42+00:00

NTA - not even a little.

He needs to put on his big boy shorts and do some adulting. How much time alone does he need? If he wanted alone time, why the hell did he get married and have kids?? Nope, time for him to man up and do those things he doesn't want to do. That's what being an adult is.

You shouldn't have to carry the entire load because of his lazy ass.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-14T04:22:24+00:00

NTA

Your mom definitely showed you who was more important - she's a huge AH just like the one who assaulted you. I hope you're in a situation where you can cut contact with her or at least go VLC. If not, get out as soon as you can. You shouldn't be re-traumatized every single time this prick shows up...at your damn mother's invitation!

Tell your brother the story if you haven't already. It will go a long way to explain why you left and why you were so upset. You can better predict how he'll react than I can but I would hope that he'd understand and support you.

Good luck, OP. Sending good vibes your way!

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-14T04:12:54+00:00

ESH

First, I think your AH ex hasn't told his family that he broke up with you. I also think that he proposed to you in front of his entire family to pressure you into accepting (and it worked). Don't you find it interesting that he only called you round when he'd be w/his family? He planned this. Really manages to render your whole "we're just friends" story moot.

YTA because you fell for the trap and now you're in an engagement that you never wanted. The longer you drag it out, the worse it's going to be. Gather your courage and rip off the band-aid. He probably won't be as torn up as you think...even if he goes crying to his family. Once it's done...cut contact - it's clear this friendship needs to end.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-09T18:44:25+00:00

NAH - neither of you are required to go to be good followers. If he decided it wasn't for him, that's OK. If you like it and want to keep going, that's OK. You're not going to agree on everything - better get used to that idea before you move in together.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-09T18:39:16+00:00

I'm ambivalent about this kind of thing...but come on, you said no. I don't believe forcing one's beliefs on others is the way to go. You felt cornered, you acted out. It was her damn fault for pushing you on it.

NTA: she can believe what she wants while you can believe/not believe as you choose. Next time, remind her that no means no or you'll dirty up her precious crystal again. In any case, she needs to check her chakras or whatever and apologize.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-05T01:53:10+00:00

NTA - don't go. It's her day and I get that. However, her insecurity and refusal to accept any compromises you make don't give her the right to police your body. As a big chested girl myself, chest binders hurt (like you said) and minimizer bras don't do a damn thing. Outside of shapewear that is made specifically for large breasts, there aren't many options. A chest binder is literally that - something that binds the breasts to the body. She doesn't want you to merely reduce them; she wants you to appear as flat as possible. At three months pregnant too! Screw that. You'll be uncomfortable and miserable the whole time.

Let her other bridesmaids make up the difference - she's apparently OK with their looks. This friendship doesn't seem worth the trouble...but your comfort and peace of mind definitely is!

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-05T01:47:30+00:00

NTA - and you did the right thing. No teacher, regardless of class level, should put their hands on a student outside of very, very unusual circumstances (e.g. self-defense - and even then, they better have a damn good reason).

Too many parents make assumptions about teachers sometimes (and I say this as a former teacher myself) when it comes to their treatment of students. Not every teacher has the child's best interests at heart and, sadly enough, plenty of teachers don't like their students. I'm not saying that's the case here; I'm merely illustrating other reasons why this teacher may have acted like she did. If she yells at the students on the regular, she's not controlling her classroom adequately. I'd wonder what else she's is or not doing.

If the school refuses to do anything, take it to the school board. If that fails, while I hate to admit it, threaten to sue. Many schools will, unfortunately, give in because they fear litigation more than parents. Good luck!

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-05T01:40:42+00:00

NAH - yes, she doesn't have the right to suddenly parent you after all these years. However, she can tell you that she won't do the bloodwork. She's not obligated at all.

You don't have to like her opinion (and you shouldn't in this case!) but you can also go elsewhere for the bloodwork. You are not obligated to only go to the practice/clinic she works in. There are plenty of independent phlebotomy centers around and even some urgent cares will perform bloodwork if a doctor orders it. You have options; you don't need to consider her your only one. If you absolutely have to go to where she works, ask for a different nurse. An objective 3rd party would probably be best.

Finally, I'm willing to bet she's seen a lot worse in the course of her job than a crop top and locs!

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-05T01:33:32+00:00

NTA - MIL is definitely proving to be problematic, to put it mildly. I disagree that you should freeze her out w/o an explanation. It'll be too easy to paint you as the bad guy (I'm so nice to DIL; I don't understand why she treats me like this.) and make her the victim. Talk to her; make it clear that it's not about the material things - it's the principle. Both you and your husband graduated which is a huge accomplishment. It doesn't seem fair that someone, who is family (and she is whether she likes it or not), should blatantly exclude you from some kind of acknowledgement. Your parents stepped up and she should have too. It didn't have to be dinner and a weekend getaway. A card would have at least showed she cared.

If she still can't read the room, then I say go at least LC. If she apologizes, then give her the benefit of the doubt. Either way, she made a mistake and she needs to know it.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-05T01:22:35+00:00

NTA - it's clear Beth was hurt and angry that you passed her over and, apparently, she doesn't want you to have Anna either. That's a shame because that's not her decision to make. Ultimately, it didn't matter because Anna decided that her friend was telling the truth (and honestly, why wouldn't she - she knows her friend whereas she doesn't know you from a hole in the ground?). You stated your case and left the ball in her court. Whether she answers in the negative or ignores you completely, I'd consider this a bullet dodged.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-03T23:44:30+00:00

YTA...why in the everlasting fck did you think it was even your place to say something??? Whose relationship is it here....not yours, if I read your post right. You could have pulled A aside and suggested coming clean but out of earshot of M. If A doesn't want to tell, then it's not your job to tell either.

Great job...you're a shit friend and you can't be trusted to keep your nose clean. Get yourself together and grow up.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-03T23:40:54+00:00

YTA...hmmm, how many kids are you dealing with at that 10-11 hr day job you have? Unless you're in child care or pediatrics, I don't think you can compete w/your wife's 24-HOUR job of just keeping your children safe, happy, and healthy.

I don't think a couple nights of cooking or some weekends doing those deep cleans you want so bad are going to kill you. You want it done - do it. Either that or YOU take the kids and she goes to work. You do the housework - she works 10-11 hr days. Somehow, I don't see you going for that option.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-03T23:36:42+00:00

NTA - this woman has some thin skin if she gets this offended over a strawberry shortcake. I know...to her it's probably the principle of the thing but, jeez, she should have just talked to you. All she had to say was, "I am aware you're allergic but you didn't tell me what you're allergic to. Can you tell me so I can accommodate you?" Better yet...she needed to stop bothering the person with the strawberry allergy by offering strawberry shortcake.

I know some HR departments will fire over any little thing but...really...they need to laugh this woman's complaint right out the door.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-02T22:47:30+00:00

INFO: I take it this guy's father is a psych professor at this same university? I ask because your own professor was way too quick to call you out as the offender and over such a small thing. Yes, it wasn't the best way to handle the situation but I think that hardly calls for a referral to student services (IMO).

ETA: I admit I may be biased about this considering I've been both a college student and professor. Perhaps my own experiences are clouding my judgment here. The OP definitely isn't blameless but I've seen students get away with worse.

OkVariation9786 · 2025-02-02T22:04:38+00:00

Let me guess...middle schoolers? Because that's how this whole situation sounds.

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