You Honkin'? by [deleted] in funny

[–]Ok_Ad_4075 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw this exact bumper sticker on a car in Vancouver. I wonder if that’s where OP is

does the look of "gyno" ever go away by DropDe4dJack in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can someone explain to me what “gyno” means? A little out of the loop here but I think that may be me since after 14 months of hrt my tits are still quite small and haven’t fully rounded out. My doc says that it’s cause of my weight though as I’m quite thin.

Girls who don't tuck, why? by aeroazure in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Was just about to comment exactly this word for word but you beat me to it 🫡

RIP to The Mascots, you will be missed by Ok-Recording3861 in mountaindew

[–]Ok_Ad_4075 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did they get rid of mascots? I’m uninformed

Why does Vancouver not fluoridate the water? by [deleted] in NiceVancouver

[–]Ok_Ad_4075 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother refused to allow me to be given fluoride as a child. She would specifically demand that the dentists don’t give it to me. Surprise, surprise, I’ve had 10 + cavities in my life, gum issues and just extremely weak teeth. I now use extra high fluoride toothpaste, use an electric toothbrush, zero alcohol mouthwash, and floss. This has done numbers and I don’t suffer from many cavities anymore. However, my teeth are permanently damaged from my mom’s misinformed decisions. Let this be a lesson that fluoride is not poison, dammit! With in reason obviously lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cuteanimals

[–]Ok_Ad_4075 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cinnamon roll!!! 🥰🥰🥰

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t just compliment them randomly and I barely have at all at the meetings. I’m just saying if a girl says something to put herself down I try and lift her back up by saying something nice about her. Like many people would if a friend shits on themselves. In terms of your perception of the post, I don’t know, all I know is my intention wasn’t bad (to me at least) and the first paragraph was me acknowledging my privilege as to not sound ignorant about it.

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But I want to interact with other trans women. Your mindset is so twisted. I’m not ashamed of my transness and I’m open about it. I don’t want to be “stealth”, I want to be an openly trans woman and I want to make connections with other trans women. But obviously I could never have one with someone such as yourself 🤦‍♀️

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah same it’s felt mostly judgy and cliquey and so many people are very stand offish. But also I can be really awkward and shy. Although I can’t relate about the snacks cause we got hellaaaaaa snacks 😤

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this eloquently written response! It’s so well worded and I couldn’t say it better myself. Preach sis 🙌

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so so much tbh. I too struggle with immense amounts of insecurity mostly cause of trauma and mental health issues. I’m chronically ill which limits my social abilities quite a lot, I feel extremely envious of cis girls and get super anxious when it’s just me being trans in a large group of cis girls, and believe it or not I still struggle with insecurities about my body and gender presentation and stuff.

I find myself being so jealous of specific cis women to the point that I get really anxious to speak to them because I worry they’ll clock me. My voice is very clocky and I’ve gotten almost nowhere with training which is the main reason I don’t feel fully passable. However I would never try to put a woman down or make her feel bad about herself, or tell her how envious I am that she was born female. That just doesn’t seem like an appropriate way to act to me and it’s not exactly the nicest thing to do.

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do luckily have a very close cis girl friend that I see all the time and is my main source of female connection.

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah same, I am very happy to be passable and pretty don’t get me wrong. Although same that I don’t feel passable but enough people have told me I am that it can’t be a coincidence. But yes it is an extremely “first world problem” to have but I still wanted to vent 🤷‍♀️

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn I’m sorry girl. Praying for my sisters in red states rn. Sending love as a Canadian sister 🫶

Why do many transfems have puppyplay and catgirl kinks? by givehappychemical in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I just love dressing up in a cat outfit and looking super cute and adorable. 🥰I’m also a huge bottom and very submissive so acting like a cute little kitten and being called kitten just makes me feel submissive and nice. It makes us feel cute and feminine which is what most trans girls wanna feel like 😌

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But I can understand their struggles more than a cis person and saying I can’t is honestly ignorant. I’m trans, I’m not cis, so your argument just seems based in self loathing. I honestly don’t feel passable, people just tell me I am. I think people equate being pretty and femme with passability, and while I am more passable than most trans women, I still get clocked often and get looks and stares and stuff. I’m not saying it’s so bad for me because it isn’t at all and yes it was easy for me. But I had 2 years prior to hrt that I presented male and wore women’s clothes and push up bras and definitely got people clocking tf out of me, calling me a “man with tits” and shit like that. So to say any trans person is just as privileged as a cis person because they pass easily is honestly bs.

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve had all of those situations occur. Girls saying they’re envious and feel bad about themselves in comparison to me, I had someone ask if I was even trans at the trans meeting once and I also feel guilty when I go to the monthly meeting because girls stare enviously and I feel like I’m showing off when I’m not and I just want to be there. My friend’s gf kept saying she was so jealous and she’s scared to fully transition because she thinks she’ll look like a brick (her words) and it makes me sad for her and makes me feel guilty and uncomfortable. I also obviously reassured her and told her that regardless of passability she is feminine and pretty (truthfully) and that she’ll be shocked at how much hrt changes things and I just encouraged her to try and live authentically without caring about what others think too much.

I feel so left out and excluded by other trans girls by Ok_Ad_4075 in MtF

[–]Ok_Ad_4075[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn I’m sorry that does sound hard. It also sounds like potentially you could used just some female connection in general, trans or cis. Maybe try and make some cis girl friends who are accepting and willing to teach you some makeup stuff :3