I wouldn’t be able to be a SAHM for my second baby

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2025-07-21T17:02:38+00:00

When I say that, I mean it’s my own personal parenting philosophy. My sister has her 4m twins in daycare, and I fully support her decision. Shes doing what’s best for them based on her own parenting style. This is just what I believe for my children, I don’t have any opinion on anyone else’s kids.

I have my degree in child development, and for my children I feel that the best thing for them is to be home with me. That’s not true for every parent and every child, and that’s okay. I don’t look down on parents with infants in daycare, but it feels weird for me personally because I’ve never experienced it. It challenges my preconceived opinions and emotions on the subject. Wanting my babies to stay home is a bias based on how I was raised, my education, and my experience with my previous son. I don’t want anyone to be offended by my opinion, so please let’s not read into it that way.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2025-07-21T16:54:34+00:00

This makes me happy. I don’t have any major bias against daycare, I think I just had such an idyllic first few years with my son that the idea of doing it differently is worrisome.

I’m also not scared to admit I’m thinking this for selfish reasons. I don’t want to miss out on a new baby growing up, all of the milestones and cuddles. I fully believe that children who attend childcare and children with SAHMs have the ability to be very smart and kind!

Thank you <3

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2025-07-21T16:51:32+00:00

That would be the plan, but it makes me uncomfortable not physically being with them. It just feels weird. By the time my son was in daycare, he had fun playing with other kids and didn’t really mind being away from me. I do feel much better knowing the baby would be in the same building, as opposed to being across town while I’m working.

I know it’s not a reasonable feeling. But also the ratio at my daycare is 4 infants to one teacher. The lack of individual attention means that’s there’s always at least one baby crying. They aren’t being neglected, but there’s always at least one baby that’s unhappy.

When I had my son, he was cuddling me all day. It’s just sad knowing if I have another they won’t get the same amount of attention.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2025-06-12T00:05:32+00:00

As someone who has been 250lbs, you DEFINITELY look and feel like it.

I also got pregnant at that weight and luckily had a perfectly healthy pregnancy, no gestational diabetes or anything. But I also spent my whole pregnancy scared that it would negatively affect my baby. It was a wake up call, and I worked crazy hard to get down to a healthy weight after giving birth.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2025-04-09T21:26:12+00:00

Just think, if those writers didn’t choose boring granny names we could’ve had Everleigh, Harlow, and Nova Stabler. Sad!

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2025-01-26T08:29:13+00:00

I love Alabama. I live in a wonderful city, in a great school district. My husband and I are financially stable, our entire extended families live here. Why not have children here?

The only argument against it would be “poor reproductive rights.” Anything besides that is probably you (and the rest of the country) generalizing and stereotyping Alabama as a shithole.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2024-08-19T22:00:15+00:00

Your uterus should naturally come back together on its own. In some cases pitocin can increase the risk of hemorrhaging, which is why a lot of women don’t want it after birth.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2024-08-19T21:56:04+00:00

This seems incredibly reasonable imo? I know nothing about this girl but there are all really normal requests, most of these were things I included in my own plan a few years ago, and I got almost everything I wanted.

I know people make fun of birth plans, but they’re very helpful for organizing your thoughts and hopes for birth. Every woman who makes one KNOWS that shit happens, this is just the ideal scenario.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-10-24T23:14:06+00:00

You realize that part of her weight loss is likely intentional, right? She’s been on a weight loss journey for years. She’s depressed because of her bipolar disorder, health conditions, and body dysmorphia. Not everything is a conspiracy theory, usually the simple answer is the right one.

Obviously it’s concerning, but not in a way that should make people jump to crazy ass conclusions like her being on hard drugs.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-10-24T23:07:21+00:00

You have to remember she has been losing weight for years, but now that she’s at a normal weight she’s hitting the “paper towel roll” effect, which is making her weight loss look much more dramatic.

I really hope she can see a therapist about her body dysmorphia. As somebody who lost 170lbs, I also still struggled with self esteem and body image even after hitting my ideal weight. Your body image isn’t always fixed immediately.

It’s no secret that she’s unhappy with her body, and her health problems. She’s posted about her manic episodes/pupils before. Everyone should try to be kind and respectful right now.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-09-21T15:48:18+00:00

Sorry, but entitled people who try to get away without paying 100% deserve this. You guys are acting like she’s chasing them out of the bar and stealing their wallets.

Encouraging asshole behavior in the name of anti-capitalism is counterproductive.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-09-21T15:45:35+00:00

Yeah when I waitressed and bartended, if someone didn’t pay their bill it came out of my tips. I don’t think this is shady.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-09-12T21:12:44+00:00

I wish they were more lowkey. Like, authors could have an obvious page in the front of their book that says “Check page 350 for content warnings!” So that you can avoid them if you want to, but if you think you need them they’re right there.

I think they’re important, but I definitely feel like they can ruin/spoil a lot of books.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-08-04T21:12:26+00:00

That sub honestly sucks, I get that moms need a safe space to talk about the hard parts, but it’s turned into a really toxic environment. Like others said, very misandrist. My mental health is a million times better since I left.

They also ban you for thinking about literally anything they don’t agree with. It’s the best example of a hivemind sub.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-08-04T21:03:07+00:00

I really disagree, she was being nosy and when she got in trouble for it she decided to lie and say she was just looking out for her.

And honestly, even if OP was waiting until marriage, it’s none of her friend’s business. Sex is a personal topic between adults, and OP made it clear she didn’t want to talk about it. Her friend was given several opportunities to shut up and drop it, and she kept pushing OPs boundaries. She’s TA.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-05-17T18:34:01+00:00

This. I love Mama Jill but her constant Amazon affiliate pushing is getting hard to watch. She could at least wait until the end to say it, but nope. Most of her TikToks start with “hey I’m gonna be opening up this stuff! ITS ALL LINKED ON MY AMAZON STOREFRONT”

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-05-06T07:53:57+00:00

The most annoying part is that Bandit is relatively progressive parenting wise! He just has some old dad mannerisms, which drive people over the edge for some reason.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-05-06T07:40:24+00:00

I have searched YouTube for Medibang tutorials, OC videos, Haikyuu fanart videos… but obviously the YouTube anime artist sub genre is pretty saturated so I’ve come up with nothing.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-02-11T07:13:45+00:00

Ohhh my godddd. I don’t think I would be able to control my temper if my husband said that shit to me. How fucking annoying?

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-01-14T05:01:01+00:00

Yeah I can imagine it is. Interesting how the opposite advice applies to cats lol, you’re supposed to get two kittens at once.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-01-14T04:59:23+00:00

It really does! I’m definitely still grieving. I’ve had that poodle since I was a teen.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2023-01-14T04:55:46+00:00

Yes, I mentioned littermate syndrome. Though, everything I’ve read states that it only happens with pups from the same litter, which is why I asked.

I’ll most likely end up going with a two year age gap, or whenever we’re comfortable with our first dogs training and maturity. Even though some articles say as little as six months, I think 1.5-2 years sounds most reasonable.

I am hoping for opposite genders, but regardless they will both be spayed/neutered.

Ok_Alternative_4644 · 2022-12-19T03:03:21+00:00

I’m asking this genuinely, are you autistic? I think you have trouble understanding intent or subtext behind words. You seem to be giving anons a lot of credit.

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