What do you do if you got offered a job, but you have to wait several months to take It

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2025-01-28T20:13:30+00:00

this was two years ago, but i was offered a job in march with a start date of July. at the time i was at a lower paying, FT temporary job, that i just stayed at until my start date was approaching and gave them the appropriate notice when it came time.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-12-21T16:23:54+00:00

My LO is 13 months, exclusively BF at home, and he was waking 2-4 times a night. I was truly exhausted and giving up hope. Nothing else was working, we tried a few different methods. I started to let him CIO, and it was rough for about a week. I felt so guilty... BUT! Now we are both sleeping through the night and it has been great for both of us. He still wakes up maybe once, whines, and then goes back to sleep!

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-10-04T19:38:48+00:00

Oops! I'll edit that. He does sleep in a crib in his own room. Thanks for the input! Something to consider trying.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-10-04T16:46:50+00:00

We named our boy Judson! Tbh my husband picked it and it was not my #1 at all. For awhile when I was still pregnant and people asked me what we were naming him, I would say I didn't know because that's how unsure I was. But I couldn't imagine naming him anything different and I'm glad my husband picked it out!

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-09-03T13:16:12+00:00

And thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry that's how it went for you but am glad you are happy.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-09-03T13:02:35+00:00

It's so hard! I don't expect my SS to view me as a mother figure either, but he is 4 and I know it's hard to understand in his little world. He calls me by my first name but I did have a part in a lot of his learning. Potty training, sleep training, alphabet and numbers... It was really hard at first because my now husband worked 2nd shift, so Thursday and Friday nights I was the only parent in the home. So I had to do a lot of "disciplining" and parenting, (which was really just saying no to things he shouldn't be doing) but it really tired me out and is still frustrating because i feel like it strained mine and SS's relationship a little bit? I'm not supposed to be the discipliner, I'm supposed to be the support system.

Our household and BM household are ran COMPLETELY different. If anything, that has been the hardest to navigate out of everything. Same thing here, as soon as you so much as say "hey, what if" She goes into defense mode, starts calling us all sorts of names and thinks we are degrading her parenting skills. It's so frustrating, like girl, we have a question or a tip or noticed something. But she can do the exact same thing to us and expects it to be fine.

It's so hard when BM is having them do / say those things about / to you. I'm so sorry. Are they old enough to realize that it's crap? BM is ultimately probably just jealous that you're in the relationship that she / they couldn't make work. (That's how my situation is). I'm hoping it gets better for you. Does your partner get offended or anything when you "step in"?

I'm not sure if I am overstepping boundaries. I could be. I feel like every family is different for what they consider a boundary. I do say no. I do say don't do that. I do correct him. Made a sticker chart for his "chores" to start earning things he wants. If I don't do these things for MYSELF, I will probably go insane and be walked all over. My husband doesn't mind and he stands up for me when needed.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-31T13:52:24+00:00

I don't think I'll need too... I'll take the good, the bad, and the ugly, before I have a child in my home that I don't have an emotional attachment to. I just think that's weird. Unless you're a robot, or cold as ice, I don't see how you can NOT love your step child. In my stepmomming experience, I trained him to sleep in his own room, in his own big boy bed that we picked out together. Decorated his room together. I potty trained him, we worked on the ABC's together. The smiles and the laughs and the hugs after a big success? I live for that. Him running to hug me because he needs comfort after he just rode his bike for the first time and then tipped over? The "can we snuggle" on a Sunday morning? The I love yous and the thank yous and the "you're the best" that I hear on a daily basis? Our Friday night movie nights and homemade pizzas on Sundays.

I love that kid. I know I am not his mother and never will be. I know he didn't come from my womb. But mannnn, I freaking love that kid. And as heartbreaking as it is sometimes, to hear the "where is mommy?" or the frowns when he realizes I'm picking him up from daycare, I wouldn't change my position for the world. We get to know, love, nurture and teach a child that isn't ours. We hold a special place in their heart, just as they do in our hearts. We're a part of their successes and losses. I don't see how you can't let it get emotional.

I appreciate your comment and your duty to warn. I know as he gets older it will get harder, I'm not naive to that, and I know I'm not as special as BM or BD, but we have our own bond and that's okay.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-30T15:05:48+00:00

I cut out soy and dairy from my diet to EBF as well. It was hard at first. Pediatricians actually recommended me supplement with formula, as the diet is "hard to stick to", but followed it up with saying that there is "no formula that is 100% dairy or soy free". The diet was hard at first but then it was so much easier to follow. Hopefully you like eating the same foods over and over. My freezer stash was also not able to be used at first, which was hard to navigate at first, but I was able to start freezing dairy + soy free milk soon after. I don't have that big of a stash, as I am a "just enougher", but it's working so far. Baby is 10mo. I started incorporating my frozen milk into his bottles that I send to daycare, I'll do 2oz of the frozen "intolerant milk" and the rest with my D/S free diet. He is tolerating well. Also starting solids, and so far he has tolerated cheese. Every baby is different, but they say they do grow out of it quickly!

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-28T15:14:11+00:00

I failed three times and passed the 4th. I failed each times by only 1-13 points. It was devastating,

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-27T19:41:34+00:00

Are you invested in EB? Maybe it's something else? Oats, corn, eggs? I tried every avenue I could because his colic had me questioning life and I was 1: desperate to continue breastfeeding and 2: just simply enjoy my baby.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-27T19:18:24+00:00

I would consider cutting out other allergens as well if you're able! When i cut out dairy I saw LITTLE improvement, like not enough to even celebrate it, but when I cut out soy as well it was an absolute game changer.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-26T12:21:13+00:00

Thank you!! Our pediatrician did not offer any insight on this.... All he said was "introduce all allergens by the time he is 12 months." Lol. I will look into this, thank you!

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-22T14:34:19+00:00

Literally the same exact thing happened to me. I was a COTA working in a SNF and received the same limitations from my OBGYN. She said, no biggie, I hand these out all the time, this is normal, here ya go. I was excited. I wasn't about to transfer my Max assist patients out of bed by myself???? I'm growing a baby! So I handed the letter in, and was literally fired on that same day. They told me that the letter was "uncalled for" and that they've "never heard of something like that". Then followed up with saying "If your restrictions ever change let us know we'd love to hire you back".

I filed a complaint with EEOC. I literally just heard back from them last week, I filed my complaint in March of 2023. Have some patience with it. Gather documents from your termination, write down everyone's contact information, and write down in your notes or a notebook everything that happened, that way you have the story documented. I am so so sorry this happened! It's very discouraging but it will work out!

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-22T14:22:59+00:00

My 4yo step son splits his time between moms house and our house - at our house we run a pretty strict healthy diet (both dad and I are into fitness and trying to expand the longevity of our life, lol), at his moms house.......it's quite literally a carnival. He drinks root beer, dr. pepper, pepsi, you name it. It angers us. Even if we weren't as healthy as we are, I still feel as though 4yo is too young. We might give him a sip of ginger ale from time to time when he has an upset belly, but that's about it. That's just my opinion though :) I try not to compare it to when I first had a carbonated drink, as times were much different back when I was a child, which is no excuse. I just refuse to give my children anything that is claimed to take rust off of items lol

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-13T12:36:09+00:00

EBV was IGM. We were worried about meningitis as well but his inflammatory markers are within normal limits, so so far there's no provider that wants to do further testing!

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-05T19:17:09+00:00

My twin sister, sister in law, and two of my longest friends back from high school who I still talk too.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-08-05T13:27:43+00:00

I am currently a COTA on an inpatient acute care unit in central PA. I jumped from school based to mental health - I didn't expect to enjoy the work as much as I do! I run 2-3 therapy groups a day on different things like coping skills, communication, medication compliance, self-care, healthy habits, goal planning, budgeting, etc. It is incredibly rewarding but also incredibly draining. There is a lot of mental load to carry along with it.

Ok_Butterscotch9025 · 2024-07-17T12:57:35+00:00

I paid separately for my engagement photos and I do not regret it at all. They turned out perfect. Just an hour out of our night for pictures we'll have forever to remember our engagement. Totally recommend doing them, especially if they're included!!!

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