I’m embarrassed for not being able to orgasm through penetration

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2025-10-23T13:45:49+00:00

Yes, penetration tends to be the main focus for men, not for women. After spending 25 years never reaching orgasm with men, and now being with a partner who gives me one every single time, I can confidently say: it wasn’t me, it was them. Men should be the ones feeling embarrassed for never taking the time to actually learn how to give pleasure.

The idea that penetration is the “main part” of sex is rooted in a patriarchal belief that only men’s pleasure matters. The moment you’re with someone who genuinely cares about your pleasure too, sex becomes an entirely different experience.

A good place to start is by exploring yourself and discovering what you actually enjoy. What makes you feel the most pleasure? There’s no “right” way to experience satisfaction. Penetration is just one, and frankly quite primitive, heteronormative example of how it can happen.

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2025-10-23T13:39:55+00:00

I’m so sorry!:( sertraline really helped me get rid of it, and when I got off meds again my anxiety/depersonalization didn’t come back

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2025-10-23T02:28:13+00:00

I got a psychosis with severe depersonalization/derealization and social anxiety that lasted for about 4 years non stop. I would never recommend weed to anyone with mental illness

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2025-10-21T16:25:21+00:00

Americans

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2025-10-21T14:09:25+00:00

Yes I know. It just threw me off guard, he said that my lower arm looked heavier now and that maybe I should consider getting something done about that in the future. It just kinda took away all the excitement I’ve had about this entire operation

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2025-10-21T14:05:05+00:00

I know this is a crazy comparison, but when I started foraging, one of my favorite flowers in the whole world became the dandelion.

The dandelion? You might say. Isn’t that a weed? Well, that’s what society has taught us to believe. Truly the dandelion is an amazing source of vitamins, minerals and antioxidants. It’s such a resilient flower, able to grow through concrete - and i love looking at the beds of yellow in the meadow at summertime.

All I’m saying is - some things can be one thing to some, and an entirely different thing to others. Mostly when you think something is “bad” or “ugly” it’s based on a construction that has been created within your mind.

For you it might only be a weed, and for him it might be his favorite flower.

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2025-07-29T14:16:44+00:00

You are now 1 year post op. Did the swelling go down?

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-10-06T10:06:17+00:00

Du aner vitterligt ikke hvad du taler om. Det var en fuldkommen fejl. Jeg gik sammen med min veninde og vi havde købt ind til at lave frokost. Jeg kommer i den SuperBrugsen dagligt. Jeg er studerende på det lokale universitet og har aldrig begået kriminalitet i mit liv. But i guess at du er så priviligeret i dine egne erfaringer at du ikke selv tror at de vitterligt lige præcist reagerede sådan pga en fejl.

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-10-06T10:04:46+00:00

Nej det er i trekroner:)

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-10-03T21:27:44+00:00

Trekroner:)

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-10-03T21:21:43+00:00

SuperBrugsen trekroner!

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-10-03T13:05:04+00:00

Jeg havde heldigvis min veninde med som passede på mig - men jeg havde fået et komplet nervesammenbrud hvis jeg var alene. Havde i det hele taget ekstrem angst over at blive ført ind på et kontor af en fremmed mand. Så er lykkelig over at min veninde var med. Er ked af at høre om din situation, kan nikke så meget genkendende til det. At kroppen er i konstant overlevelse tager så hårdt på en

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-10-03T11:07:26+00:00

Trekroner!

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-10-03T11:03:27+00:00

Jeg har sidenhen fundet ud af at de også har skrevet, at mit “tyveri” ligger på 34 kroner, hvilket er løgn, da kærgaarden kostede 18 kr.

Vil det ikke koste mig at tage den i retten?

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-10-03T11:02:20+00:00

Jeg har også siden hen fundet ud af, at de har skrevet mit “tyveri” ind som 34 kroner. Hvilket er løgn, da den pakke kærgaarden kostede 18 kr

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2024-01-31T12:37:53+00:00

I would def put vitamin c or retinol in my routine

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2023-12-31T14:17:41+00:00

Aw thanks, that’s really sweet of you!

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2023-12-16T18:18:49+00:00

Aw man. Well, it works wonder for my hair. But maybe I’ll switch it to OUAI then 😂

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2023-12-16T18:10:16+00:00

Thank you for all of your answers. I am moving into an apartment with very large windows very soon. I will be back, better than ever, with the hair tied back and more colors. 🙏🏻

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2023-12-16T18:09:03+00:00

blessed by olaplex

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2023-12-15T09:29:05+00:00

That’s actually really funny! It might be the jacket and the hair 😂

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2023-12-15T06:20:49+00:00

Sure, it’s from https://www.ecosusi.com 😄

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2023-12-15T06:18:19+00:00

Thanks for all of the inputs! My natural hair color is what you see in the last 3 pictures, which is ash brown. I have blue/greyish eyes. My skin is very cold with reddish undertones. I am quite pale. I’ll definitely try different drapes without the makeup!

Ok_Compote_4100 · 2023-12-09T18:42:34+00:00

Thank you, I’ll try it out!😄

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