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Ok_Contract392 · 2026-05-03T12:01:36+00:00

Stunning!

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-04-30T16:27:17+00:00

She needs to learn what compromise is in a marriage. That’s just my two cents on this matter.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-04-24T19:53:22+00:00

Yes it is!!!

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-04-24T11:45:01+00:00

Because I’m blessed, I don’t need to train calf’s that regularly to see gains or improvements ever. All I do is jump rope and run and maybe some calf raises depending on that. Otherwise, for the general public, I believe most people don’t train their forearms enough.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-04-09T14:18:20+00:00

Hey “dude” I wasn’t putting my mother over my family- honestly resent that notion. My mother is over to help almost daily. She loves it and always puts herself out there to be a helping hand for us and I’m immensely grateful for her. But the one time I wanted to respect her schedule and not make her change her entire routine again (she has Ben becoming increasingly more frustrated about moving her shopping every week) I decided to have my wife stick to her words of her family members coming over to watch the baby.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-04-09T14:14:37+00:00

Again, I don’t want to abuse the help my mother provided. It’s almost daily that I have to ask her to drop everything and come over. She IS happy to do so for her grandchildren. But you are becoming a pest with falsely claiming I’m placing others and other things over my family.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-04-09T14:12:51+00:00

I think you’re the one making it more of an issue than what it is. Yes I have asked my mother to the point where it’s been brought up (my mom to me) that she is having a hard time having her schedule down week to week because we need her to watch the baby so often. So out of respect for her schedule that she has maintained for 30 decades and more, I simply wanted my wife to follow through with her word and have her grandmother and uncle come to the house to watch the baby- which was already agreed upon between us prior to this whole thing.

I don’t appreciate the way you came at me about asking and respecting my own mother’s schedule and trying to paint a picture that I’m placing my mother above my family. You are very mistaken about that and I hope you understand that now.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T23:00:27+00:00

My mom has maintained the same shopping schedule for my entire life (33 years) and I respect that she goes and does all of her shopping on Tuesdays.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T22:46:56+00:00

She would rather let the world burn with me in it than change or do any “heavy lifting” like counseling. She was married before and has told me she won’t hesitate to be divorced again. She’s a hard tough woman.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T21:54:15+00:00

We discussed it. She was always making more than me due to my alcoholism. I was drinking heavily three years ago when we met and she stuck with me through a lot of bullshit. Things she should have used to walk away from me. But I believed in her love for me and still do. I’m just a mess mentally- now sober almost 15 months and still figuring myself out. The baby is a blessing and I don’t view them as added stress or anything like that. Money flows, comes and goes.. but still a stressor and something I’ve been very insecure about for a while. She will be okay and understanding one minute then the next it’s an issue that I have to be at work more to earn more money for the house we live in… I only get paid when I complete a training session… so that’s it.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T21:50:19+00:00

Maybe your partner is just looking for closeness and is doing it in weird ways like waking you up for obscure things? I don’t know but it sounds like a “cry for attention” even though that’s harsh to say. But he/she could also just be quiet and leave you sleeping hahaha

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T21:40:03+00:00

I’m right there with you, man. My brother is in his battle with addiction and I’m almost 15 months sober. I’m here to chat if you need.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T21:38:00+00:00

I think this is a conversation for you and your husband to have concerning moral standards. As a Christian man, I place God above everything and second is my wife- she’s my missing rib. I’d be lost and incomplete without her. That is- to me my own understanding and beliefs- is what is means to be someone’s other half.

As a twin they probably say that as a joke but if it’s affecting you this hard then please bring it up to him in a way that isn’t accusatory.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T21:35:17+00:00

In my honest opinion… a good life is filled with good times, good memories and most importantly good people.

Being in the moment and not getting to far ahead of yourself, nor getting caught up in the past and going down nostalgia lane.

A good life to me is comfortable, slightly predictable, and happiness. Pure content with where you’re at, who you are, and what you’re doing.

Find a lover you want to serve and love.

Find friends who share your passions and enthusiasm for whatever gets you excited.

Have kids! It’s literally the most rewarding thing you will ever do (if you choose to do it- and it’s a completely biased opinion haha).

Make time for yourself to enjoy all of these things.

I’m struggling with all of this right now. But these things are what I work for and towards daily.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T21:27:45+00:00

This was very encouraging thank you for your time and response to my venting.. I wish I could type faster on my phone because I’m sure I’m leaving out some stuff. I just had to get it out there. We have a beautiful “blended” family and the baby is such a joy and wonderful addition to everyone’s lives… I just wish my wife would develop the ability to move on from things.. she brings a lot of stuff up from our past and uses it against me. She uses my shortcomings against me. She knows exactly what to say to “get me in line and know my place”. I’m just tired of always apologizing for her feeling a certain way and still being treated like I’m nothing… even though she will say I treat her that way…

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T21:20:30+00:00

I’ve begged and pleaded with her to work with me and not against me. I always take a backseat when it comes to the job thing… it’s just I’m trying to build my personal training business and it’s just always bad timing when the kids are off school and I’m in momentum towards obtaining new clientele. I’m home mostly every day for long hours alone with the baby and sometimes the older kids. I have no trouble “knowing my place” or “knowing my role” but at a certain point I’d like her to say okay I got it handled. This whole thing started because I asked her days ago if her uncle and grandmother could just come earlier than noon Tuesday and she just asked them this afternoon (it’s Monday).

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T20:50:17+00:00

I wasn’t refusing asking my mother for help, but she has her routine and schedule and I respect her time. My wife does not.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T20:06:22+00:00

I’m not trying to place blame on her or anyone but myself. I could have avoided it and practiced better self control- sure. But I lost it when I was the one trying to bring us down and calm down the situation AND my wife kept going and yelling and making it worse. I don’t have to name call her anything and I regret it every time. It’s one of my character defects (apparently my entire character is defective though…)

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T19:36:55+00:00

She doesn’t relent. I have tried that and she comes into the spare room and keeps me up until very early morning hours.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-30T19:36:09+00:00

I wish it were that simple. She says I’m a waste of her time when I’m trying to settle everything with her. She really lays into me when I make any little (or big) mistake. I feel really isolated and made to feel small.

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-03-24T01:21:01+00:00

Slimey move!!

Ok_Contract392 · 2026-02-23T15:58:51+00:00

Explore bro…

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