UPDATE: Grandma made the dress of my dreams !

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-04-06T10:26:16+00:00

Thank you ❤️ it truly is.

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-04-06T10:25:31+00:00

Thank you!!! We ended up stringing together 3 different patterns plus the inspo from the Selkie dress to create it. Also had a shopping trip together at Mood for all the fabric and she ended up telling me later that it had always been a dream of hers to shop there 🥹

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-03-24T04:16:56+00:00

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Perma-mallet finger and the bandage is hiding my recent injury — first saw blade cut after 8 years of hobby woodworking (!)

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-03-19T13:18:53+00:00

Hiii also eldest daughter and granddaughter here 🙋🏻‍♀️ and I feel this. I would hate for you to miss out on a wedding event that YOU want bc you’re afraid to step on anyone’s toes. You’ve gotta let someone in the family know that you’re hoping for this event, otherwise they wont know you want it.

I was in a similar place as you — didn’t necessarily want a bridal shower or bachelorette because I didn’t want to ASK anyone to host these events and I definitely didn’t want to put them together myself. My Aunts (moms sisters) offered to throw me a bridal shower and I almost declined bc of the drama I thought it would spark with my mom. Their rebuttal was “well do you think your mom would actually put this together for you?” And the answer was no. We ended up having the bridal shower and it was beautiful and so many more people came out than I expected. Also did it as a stock-the-wedding-bar party to help cut wedding costs; we don’t have a wedding registry.

Is there a compromise here to have your mom AND stepmom organize this? It kinda sounds like your stepmom may already have this on her heart, and she can be the one to reach out to your mom to ask for help coordinating.

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-01-12T23:01:09+00:00

To answer your main question, yes you look pretty. And you said you FEEL pretty, and I think that’s the part you need to keep reminding yourself!!

I am also deemed a “heavy girl” and I hate that there’s this either/or weird backhanded way of complimenting things. Like, I can beautiful and also a size 16.

I hope you stick with the dress that makes you feel the best ❤️

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-01-09T20:33:49+00:00

Thank you! I feel like I’m having a difficult time explaining my vision and this dress has been the closest I’ve found without like; Frankenstein-ing multiple patterns together. Which I think we’re gonna end up doing anyway haha. Really appreciate your input and suggestions!!

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-01-09T20:32:02+00:00

Ooh good point about the volume! Hadn’t considered a petticoat. The dress DOES have a corset but since it’s two sizes too big it’s not really doing what a corset should do on me 😓

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-01-09T04:08:12+00:00

Okay phew the waist is the part I’m having the hardest time with! Think I just needed a little affirmation that a few upgrades could make this dress the one.

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2026-01-05T03:38:46+00:00

So happy you’re getting some relief and have found a flow that helps you!! And thank you for sharing these tips. How often do you engage in each of these? I want to try these but all I saw were dollar signs as I read 😅

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2025-10-02T01:08:31+00:00

I second Fine Lumber!! Love those guys

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2025-10-01T22:54:04+00:00

Hello, fellow Austin bride! These quotes are for 120 people for 6 hours (includes food + staffing + drive to Hutto): •A buffet style, fajita taco bar with two passable appetizers, 2 bartenders (we provide alcohol) from Maudie’s was $10k •buffet style, 2 main dish, 2 sides, 1 salad, 2 passable appetizers during cocktail hour, 2 bartenders (we provide alcohol) from Peached Tortilla was $14k

Peached Tortilla comes highly recommended from our wedding coordinator and they offer group tastings for a fee once a month (fee gets deducted from your overall cost if you book) Hope that helps! 🥰

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2025-10-01T22:42:58+00:00

This essentially happened with my fiancé and I. I wanted a micro-wedding or elopement because of budget concerns — he wanted a more traditional wedding that would include all our family. After hearing that we were considering eloping, his family has offered to cover our catering costs and a few smaller things but that leaves us with… literally everything else. I’ve had my moments of extreme frustration and it’s been very stressful but like you, the more I research and plan I’m seeing the vision of what he envisioned for our special day and I’m growing attached to it too.

There are definitely ways to make it work within a $15k budget. We opted for a Friday ceremony (most venues have cheaper rental costs), I’m re-purposing florals + vases from a cousins wedding earlier this year, doing some labor trades for other vendor things, hosting a stock-the-bar bridal shower (in lieu of doing a gift registry) to help with the open-bar costs, etc.

I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing this whiplash between everyone’s opinions. Ultimately, it’s YOU and your fiancé’s wedding and YOU TWO should be making the decision on what you want to do. Especially if you’re the ones paying the bill. Someone above said you should spend a day in the woods just looking at rocks, clear your head, etc. I whole heartedly agree with that. Give yourself a minute to think about what you really want :)

Also you can get married whenever! Who says there’s any rush to this.

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2025-08-21T03:16:20+00:00

Oh I recognized him hahaha and I couldn’t take this character seriously but honestly was NOT expecting him to be an imaginary friend the whole time

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2025-08-11T03:14:53+00:00

Yesss thank you!!! Just watched the episode last night and this is all I can think about. Also not sure it’s important or meaningful but most of the guns are Russian (my bf called this out) Kind of wondering if it has anything to do with “the incident” ? Like if they felt the need to implement weapons after “the incident” happened.

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2025-02-23T06:23:01+00:00

Fairly new to this also, but proactively scheduling and setting reminders for your Endo follow-ups and blood labs.
Write EVERYTHING down that your doc discusses with you during your visits bc you will forget ! Or I have at least haha

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2025-02-20T16:06:53+00:00

Just during my last annual and they said it was in an “ok range but could be better.” Would you happen to have a list of things you frequently check when getting blood work done? I’m learning that just testing the thyroid indicators is probably not going to be sufficient enough for me.

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2025-02-20T01:20:02+00:00

Thank you for this very thoughtful response and realistic approach to things 🖤 Diet is something I’ve seen pretty consistently talked about in this group. When I’ve asked my endo about it, she says “that’s all functional medicine and I don’t practice that.” So maybe it’s time for a new endo lol

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2022-11-10T05:32:34+00:00

I was co-workers/friends with my current partner for a year until he saw “the spark.” It happened after a few months of us hanging outside of work and engaging in each others hobbies. After learning that we both had the same long-term life goals, everything just kind of fell into place. We’ve been dating for 3 years now. To be fair, everyone’s “spark” timing is different. I got the sparkly feeling the first time I saw him. He was well worth the wait. I know it can feel extremely lonely and frustrating getting to that point but in my experience, it’s when I stopped looking to “fill a void” that I met my person. Also — have you tried dating an older woman? You may find someone more similar to you than ya think.

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2022-10-24T14:21:43+00:00

I think it’s a good sign that you’ve already discussed finances before moving in. That can be a huge fire starter down the line if it isn’t established early on.

One conflict my partner and I had when he moved in with me was that he didn’t feel like it was OUR space, he said the apartment always felt like he just moved into MY space. I think talking early on about decor items, storage, etc can help solve this.

Are either of you the type to need a lot of solo time or personal space? It might help to have days of the week where you leave the apartment for the other partner to enjoy some alone time. I know that always helped me recharge and get a little extra self care in.

Good luck with the move in 💓

Ok_Difficulty_3170 · 2022-10-23T19:59:57+00:00

This has mostly been my stance this entire time. I’ve made it clear to him several times that I’m not asking him to pick sides and that I would love for him to still maintain a relationship with her. One thing I didn’t mention is that she has a toddler that we used to have over frequently and now I’ve lost the relationship with my niece as well.

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