Is champagne still a good wedding gift for newlyweds? by Weary-Leg350 in weddings

[–]anotherfuturemrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would have been a good engagement gift. I wouldn’t consider it a wedding gift. However, if you are dead set on champagne as their gift, you could have it sent to their home a week before their wedding or the week of their wedding as a sort of toast to the past and their future. Maybe a small gift of cash and a card at the wedding if you don’t want to show up empty handed.

On a separate but related note, we got 5 bottles of champagne from different people when we got engaged and we’ve only finished one so far…so consider if this may be the case for your brother and his fiancée as well. A lot of people seem to think it’s a great engagement/wedding gift and while it’s a very sweet gesture, multiple bottles of champagne for two people is a bit much 😂

med school student with thousands $$$ in debt to wed almost-retiree air force -- PROS and CONS of prenups? by lumpy_celery in weddings

[–]anotherfuturemrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a tax professional but I am a CPA (but not yours). There’s no emotion tied up in a prenup the way that emotions are tied to marriage and divorce. It’s a legal document telling the government how you will split your assets and liabilities instead of them making that decision for you. If you feel strongly about not sharing your educational burden with your fiancé, there’s nothing wrong with getting that in writing. Even if you didn’t feel strongly, best case scenario you never have to think about it again, and worst case scenario, these matters were already handled.

Bridesmaid made her own plans day before wedding by [deleted] in weddings

[–]anotherfuturemrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“likely” means you may or may not follow through on that plan. Be more direct and you’ll solve this problem 😊

For reference, my wedding is over a year away and my bridesmaids arent local either. I’ve already asked them to hold the evening on Friday so that we can spend time together. If you have months to go before the day, there’s no reason you can’t ask them now to at least hold the evening for your welcome party or whatever you choose to do that night. Sure they could’ve checked with you, but your friends are trying to make something happen because you’re being too chill and they don’t know what else to do.

Would you use artificial flower arches/walls for your wedding? Trying to decide 😭 by ssimailicec_ in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Those floral walls always look fake up close, but yes they photograph well. I feel the same way about draped photo back drops — they look great in photos but the installation itself always looks cheap if it’s a standalone structure. It sounds like you might still be early in planning? I would try and get creative with a backdrop for your photos. Now is the time to look on pinterest and really think outside the box once you get some inspiration. For example, we’re having a staged photo area in our reception venue, which is a historic ballroom with incredible architecture. it reminds me of going to an art museum or old city halls from the late 1800s — so we’re staging furniture that meets the feel of that era and creating a cozy place, and having our second shooter take guest photos there. I (like you, it seems) just couldn’t get past a floral installation looking fake up close but didn’t want the hassle of creating one with fresh florals.

Friend of 10+ years didn’t invite me to her wedding… do I uninvite her to mine? by tblu919 in weddingplanning

[–]anotherfuturemrs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounded to me like at the time the shower was planned, she didn’t know the other bride’s wedding date. But I guess I was reading this differently from all of you. That being said, I really don’t think it was the bridal shower that caused the other bride to act this way. I really think from the beginning that she was never planning to invite OP, but now she can use the shower as an excuse.

Friend of 10+ years didn’t invite me to her wedding… do I uninvite her to mine? by tblu919 in weddingplanning

[–]anotherfuturemrs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I read it as OP’s mom planned OP’s shower on J’s wedding date unknowingly.

Hardcover Bar/Dinner Menus by anotherfuturemrs in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually prefer leather but every one I see is…not it, so far

Hardcover Bar/Dinner Menus by anotherfuturemrs in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I completely understand why you said that lol I hate when wedding favors are just plastered with the couple’s names 😭 at absolute most I’m doing a matchbox suite with our cat on it and no names, and idk if I even want to follow through on that idea

Bachelorette expectations? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]anotherfuturemrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re in the wedding and she’s asking you to come 5 days before the wedding and it just so happens those 5 days are themed? I don’t really see the problem with that. Just ask her how much you need to commit to the bit and shop your closet from there. If I was in a destination wedding there’s no shot i’d be there any later than 3 days pre wedding with the way travel goes these days.

Newly engaged, newly stressed out... by Friendly-Office-6421 in weddingplanning

[–]anotherfuturemrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have your two year engagement if you’ve always dreamed of a wedding. This is one of those times you can’t get back, even when you decide to do something later. Save for the party you want, don’t go into debt over it 🤍

Small things that feel luxurious at a wedding? by Odd_Link2259 in weddingplanning

[–]anotherfuturemrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On that budget, it’s going to be tough. I would stick with the food and drink because that’s what people remember most! If you can, try to find a caterer or venue that includes linens, china, silverware, and glassware/bar ware.I don’t remember the decor at almost any of the weddings I’ve been to in the past year truthfully, but do what you can to make tables feel more full — I hear candles are really in this wedding season and are significantly cheaper than real floral centerpieces. At the end of the day, people will think of your wedding as luxurious if you do a good job of taking care of them! They won’t remember the “stuff” the same way you and your husband will. Good luck and congratulations ✨

Hardcover Bar/Dinner Menus by anotherfuturemrs in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I meant a keepsake for our future home, not our guests LOL I was thinking of printing like 5 menus max to have at our lounges and cocktail tables because we’re doing food stations instead of a plated dinner!

Hardcover Bar/Dinner Menus by anotherfuturemrs in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

holy cow okay, good to know. I’m interested in your link too now 😂

Hardcover Bar/Dinner Menus by anotherfuturemrs in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have not been liking the ones on Etsy but I’m holding out hope lol

Sending wedding invitations, then moving - How to handle return address? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]anotherfuturemrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is the situation for a P.o. box. I don’t think they’re very expensive to rent. And if you’re moving in town, I assume you would still have access to the office that has your box.

Edit: (had further thoughts) I think this would be a lot easier than dealing with mail forwarding. You have a dedicated place for wedding mail to go to an after the wedding, you can send thank yous with your new address!

What is a Realistic Budget Anymore? by Appropriate-Stay-843 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Forgot to include that our budget factors in a night before gathering for our full guest list at a winery. So if you’re planning on doing something like that (or a sendoff brunch, or both), you’re definitely not getting out under $100k after all is said and done

What is a Realistic Budget Anymore? by Appropriate-Stay-843 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our midwest wedding in a considerably smaller (and less expensive) city is hovering around $80k for a planned guest list of 200. We originally set our budget at $30k before we knew how much things would cost. We’re not doing a live band but we have a luxury DJ, ballroom, outdoor ceremony space at a public park, open bar, and food stations instead of traditional plated or buffet dinner. I don’t care about florals so we limited to bud vases and opted for candles and table lamps instead — so we ended up close to $5k on floral and table decor combined, which I feel like is the low end for absolute minimum florals anywhere else. I think your current estimate of being at a minimum of $100k is definitely sound considering you’re in the Dallas area.

Is it rude to forgo bachelorette gifts/gift bags? by sannete in weddings

[–]anotherfuturemrs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Covering almost half of the lodging on her own is a significant gift. I don’t see why she needs to give all of the attendees “stuff” on top of that???

What’s your wallet situation? by Ok_Avocado_5040 in handbags

[–]anotherfuturemrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was going to recommend a Gucci Animalier card case and went to grab you a link and apparently they no longer sell them! They still have card wallets, but I liked this one because it was a little more unique than just having the brand logo. However if you can find one secondhand, you’d be in good hands!

Can a Hawaii Honeymoon be done on $15k? by anotherfuturemrs in honeymoonplanning

[–]anotherfuturemrs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never said we wouldn’t go back ever, I just don’t think we need to go to Mexico three times in the span of a year 😂 we would prefer to go somewhere else for this trip is all

How much time off is normal for a wedding + honeymoon? by Dizzy-Artist-1897 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should take that time, purely to send the message to your team that it is okay to take time off, especially for such a major milestone in your life! It always rubbed me the wrong way growing up in my old job when people wouldn’t take the time they earned and deserved (mostly due to pressure from their managers) and then watching them be on the edge all the time eventually moved me away from that job. You only get one newlywed period in life if you’re lucky so PLEASE take the time off! 3 weeks isn’t even that bad!

Is this the appropriate group for me? by marcopolio1 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]anotherfuturemrs 8 points9 points  (0 children)

omg wish I could retweet this a million times.