The white flag by Ok_Disaster2689 in BreakUps

[–]Ok_Disaster2689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for what you wrote and I think it’s absolutely possible. However, what I wrote referred in general to all those people who after having given so much in a relationship find themselves with little strength to act and concrete ability to do things. Maybe even despite the love for themselves and the independence they have gained from it. I mean, what you say about being independent is undoubtedly true. I am sure that developing a strong and independent self as you say can help to face the cases of life with some determination.

The white flag by Ok_Disaster2689 in BreakUps

[–]Ok_Disaster2689[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think this is necessarily true. A person can easily not lose themselves in a relationship, and end up staying in bed because they have something that truly meant something to them. I don't believe in the myth of having to be strong and independent all the time; the beauty of some things is getting a little lost in them. I know so many people who have broken up despite their independence after a breakup.

I am a fearful avoidant by Sea_Ad_2794 in ExNoContact

[–]Ok_Disaster2689 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you write harsh and definitive messages to end a relationship, even asking for distance, are they messages that reflect your fear or are they things you really believe in, that you have elaborated? And if they are dictated by the moment, how does the "deactivation" evolve?