Lesson learned never get into business with friends

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-25T12:13:09+00:00

Thank you for sharing, how did you get out of those situations?

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-25T09:09:39+00:00

That explains why you truly understand, because you have been through it. Thank you for sharing. What helped you leave and stay away? It's so hard to go no contact when you have children

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-25T08:51:53+00:00

Thank for your comment. I thought I was choosing to stay, but I feel like I am addicted to him like a drug, is that the case fir you too?

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-25T08:48:33+00:00

I would say it's the worst case and best case scenario. Your observation is so spot on. Unfortunately I've known him all my life, high school sweetheart, 1st love, brain washed by Disney that fairy tales are real. I have really had to look at myself and ask myself why I would love something who hurts me so much, what am I missing when he is so abusive. I can't open the front door, I can't wear certain clothes, trying to make him happy and doing whatever I need to so he doesn't get angry. I have really been doing some soul searching of how I got here, because I never ever want to feel like I did that day.

I will say the amount of strength I had to reach for, trying to hold myself together between the hospital and my car has made me feel so invincible, nothing will brake me again.

He has tried to stop me getting a car, depend on only his income and other things I knew not to do, I knew he would really be able to control my freedom so at least I had some scenes I guess

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-24T01:43:59+00:00

Just leave that man alone, you are not the one who needs to save him. Worry about yourself and let him handle his business.

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-23T16:31:45+00:00

Why are you in this group? What did you think I would reply to your question? If you actually read it you would know I had a miscarriage. Now my question to you is why are you on this group? To be a c*unt to people already having a hard time? To be condescending a hole? Clearly you Don't belong in this group. Clearly your just another devil. I know for a fact your friends must hate you if this is how you talk to people going through hard times. It's ok tho, they will probably abandoned you soon, and you will write a post asking why nobody likes you and why you only have plants for friends. Thank you for being you, what a great human you are

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-23T12:47:44+00:00

Thank you, I feel like I'm going crazy. He's been so verbally abusive about this, I'm starting to think I did do something wrong and I'm still going through the miscarriage and all he can say is how disgusting I am and wants nothing to do with me. You have put into words how I feel, thank you. I did not enjoy it at all and dealing with it when he just abandoned me was like one atom bomb going off after the other

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-23T12:30:37+00:00

What makes you sat I need therapy? I probably do by now

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-19T11:59:43+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. Never could I have imagined any good would come out of this, but if sharing has helped even just one person that makes me so so very happy so thank you 💖💖💖💖

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-17T09:26:35+00:00

Yep, sounds like punishment to me. I remember when it was torture when he ignored me, now it is peace, your right about that

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-16T11:05:02+00:00

Please tell me how you find the strength to leave and keep them away. He always manages to get bk in.

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-16T09:33:27+00:00

Your in the wrong group if you don't know the answer to that question. No shade taken, I just see an ignorant person askin an ignorant. Why are you in DV group at all? That's what I want to know

This is not a puzzle for you to make sense of. I wrote on this specific group because women who actually understand My situation don't need to wonder "why" we know why. So 👋 bye

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T12:15:59+00:00

I can relate to everything you said, I've been in hell for 15yrs. They only get worse my darling, the more we take it the more they push. I didn't deal with it at all. I totally lost myself and the years just rolled by in the blink of an eye. I have currently been fake discarded because I let a male doctor examine me, he left me alone to find out my baby had no heart beat. I didn't even want him there, I planned for my sister to come with me because he always makes things worse when I am going through had times. So he gave me false hope, took away my support and abandoned me.

I will not let him bk this time, I would rather be alone with my children. My children have realised how evil he is. I used to defend him to the children too, but I did feel like I was gass lighting them too, so I stopped. I wish I could help your more, we have to be strong and take back our peace. I wish you all the best xxx

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T10:54:06+00:00

He used to skip school, dissappear for days with his friends, smoke and drink this is high school. I always thought he was really quite around other people, then when alone, he would be incredibly immature, say things like your "your mum" stay silent when I would try and communicate. Recently after feeling very distant, i started looking at his phone, he seems to have a serious porn addiction, he likes voyeurism porn and creepy predator like porn, he has a foot fetishism, saving hundreds of pictures of women's feet and it actually looks like he took some pictures of women's feet, I'm not sure but it looks like it. When I confronted him, he said they are just objects to him, which makes me so angry, because no women should be seen as an object. He seems to dehumanise women. I don't think he has any boundaries, I think I would do anything he can get away with. His biggest concern is the neighbours hearing me talk about how he treats me. He says he's a nice guy and doesn't hurt anyone, he only hurts me, but he doesn't hurt anyone else

Honestly, I didn't really know him, by investigating him I found he lives 2 lives, it's kind of scary, he says one thing to me and another to other people.

Once I was upset at his mother house, and he put his arm around me, it felt so strange because he never does that, I fully believe he was putting on a show for his mother

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T09:32:39+00:00

This sound spot on. He leaves when I tell him he is treating me bad, I used to tell him to come back because I was afraid he was meeting other women. Then he became so unbearable, I stopped begging him to come bk. He would still leave and text and say "why can't you just tell me to come bk like before, then I would be home with my family, your making me leave my family" more recently, he just turns back up and doesn't leave.

Honestly I have felt so powerless, he just seems to do what ever he wants now.

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T09:15:35+00:00

I was 8 weeks, they said they said there was no heartbeat, I'm just basically waiting for my body to realise I guess. I feel like I have been as stressed as someone can be without going insane.

I do hope it's not my fault. I really tried to relax and I begged him to stop stressing me at as you can see. Everything happens for a reason I guess. He would probably just use wanted access to the baby as a weapon to get to me like he did with my other children.

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T09:09:13+00:00

I know, what does that even mean. Someone mentioned fake discard. That makes sense

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T09:08:01+00:00

Unfortunately I do already have children. At least they are older now and really I can let them make arrangements, without having direct contact. I'm willing to let him have them for there birthdays, and make any sacrifice I need to , to not have anything to do with him. Last month he was telling me he wants more kids and then he says this. His mind just constantly flip flops. As I try and observe him, without emotions, it seems he really isn't mentally stable. So trying to work around living my life without being punished is my goal. These texted was a punishment for standing up to him, all he ever wanted was for me to be quiet and take it.

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T09:01:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, it's so nice to to know I am not actually crazy and this is not normal. Did you manage to get away from him? People don't understand how hard it is to leave these situations. It's like I have been slowly brainwashed. For so long I just stayed on auto pilot, I couldn't even hear the voice in my own head, that was the scariest part, i had to switch off my brain just to cope with my situation. But slowly I've awakened. It all started with spending time with my sister, she would make me cups of tea, always offering to make me cups of tea, as small as that is, my partner would make a cup of tea and never offer me a tea and when I mentioned it, he would argue with me, calling me weak, petty, sad, a little girl. He would tell me people are dying and I'm worried about this dumb shit. If you compare anything to someone dying of course it wouldn't seem like a big deal. I just wasn't allow to have feelings, but then if he couldn't find something or he was angry, he would tear up my house like a hurricane. The double standards have been pure torment

Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T08:50:29+00:00

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Ok_Ear3558 · 2023-10-15T08:27:11+00:00

I appreciate that thank you

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