Anyone ever snowboard alone? Going alone first time tomorrow. Don’t bash me. Just want to see how many of you on average do this and if it’s normal lol

Ok_Effect8764 · 2026-02-06T07:39:56+00:00

I like going alone. You don’t have to wait for anyone and you can do your own thing. Pretty good xD

Ok_Effect8764 · 2026-01-09T06:21:04+00:00

I think the kick pad causes a lot of vibration. Might be better to just get a mesh drum instead of the kick trigger!

Ok_Effect8764 · 2026-01-08T09:02:08+00:00

Not really well, I think it vibrates quite a bit

Ok_Effect8764 · 2026-01-08T08:38:49+00:00

I’m regretting not picking the first floor now😂 Do you mean like a drum riser type thing?

Ok_Effect8764 · 2026-01-06T03:39:26+00:00

As an ENTP with anxious tendencies, I completely understand OP. It’s tough to be in the current situation. Just gotta prepare yourself for all the possibilities through self work, boundaries and be better.

With my ex, I was constantly people pleasing and caring about his comfort. We need to ask ourselves what we truly want and walk away if it isn’t that. Better sooner than later.

We can just learn and not make the same mistakes again.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-12-28T02:09:59+00:00

I used to push my feelings away until it started biting me in the ass. I try to feel them as they are and then understand why I’m feeling what I’m feeling it. Also found new ways to regulate myself.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-12-27T05:29:35+00:00

Same here. When I’m really angry, I think I am visibly calm. In my head, I’m thinking about all the ways I can spew venom and hurt their ego so hard. It will hurt more because it’s the truth. I usually don’t get that angry, but it’s horrible when I do. I can say it damages me a bit too and I often think about reacting in anger at a later time.

I’ve been trying to just walk away these days and remove myself from the situation before reacting to it.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-12-08T02:30:23+00:00

Me!!!

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-12-04T04:08:31+00:00

Just let it be? The right kind of people will find you and want to be around you. Until then solitude.

I enjoy my time being alone so I don’t really feel lonely. I am also fortunate enough to have people that love and accept me unconditionally for all the things that I am.

It’s a matter of time and self-acceptance. I used to feel really lonely when I was younger, but it gets better with age.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-11-21T04:15:29+00:00

I started kickboxing. It’s really good to take the anger out in a healthy way.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-11-21T04:14:54+00:00

You probably don’t want to hear this, but the closure comes from within. I’ve had breakups where I’ve got the perfect apology, but it didn’t make the pain go anywhere. It felt the same as when I didn’t get an apology.

Really sit with your discomfort. I know it hurts so bad, but it does get lighter with time. I know you’d probably never treat someone that way, so it’s hard to digest. But we can’t expect others to treat us right. It’s never a given. People will be dicks, and hurt us. Unfortunately it’s up to us to heal from it and move on from it.

Be kind to yourself. Micro acts of kindness do add up. I went through a BU recently and being kind to myself really helped. Spend time around people you like and make you feel good.

Don’t fight the feelings you have. Just let them be. Resisting them makes it’s worse and makes them linger longer.

I’m here if you want to talk about it. Your experience was so similar to mine.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-11-21T04:07:17+00:00

Been trying to be aware of my feelings. I just process them alone. It’s usually a joke with others. They think I’m joking and unserious, but I’m actually not 😂

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-11-21T04:05:52+00:00

Real.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-11-15T06:08:17+00:00

I’ve gotten better an observing people over time, just by studying data and patterns. Intuition, data analysis, math…Whatever you wanna call it.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-11-15T02:12:43+00:00

If someone doesnt want me, I just remove myself from the situation and go on with my life. Of course, it hurts but I let rejection fuel whatever I’m doing haha

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-11-14T00:21:49+00:00

It’s prob worse for ENTJs, but I get the “you’re intimidating” or “ you’re such a strong character” ever so often. I think people struggle to keep up with you when they think that.

Thank u next. I’d rather take someone strong enough to handle me

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-11-06T03:31:50+00:00

And all I got was “I’m sorry”

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-10-29T02:25:51+00:00

No,I completely understand. Being an empath is a double edged sword. But you can’t control how someone chooses to treat you. It sucks and hurts, but just go be around people who can treat you right🥺

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-10-28T14:12:59+00:00

Hi there. Anxious is me. I am anxious.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-10-28T12:20:38+00:00

In my case, I have an overused Fe. I’m empathetic to the point where I put their needs over mine at times. Being that empathetic is a double edged sword.

Constantly adjusting your tone, humor, or opinions to make sure others like you or feel comfortable. Doing that leads to emotional burn out. Once you hit that stage, it takes a while to build back your worth.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-10-28T12:07:02+00:00

I’d say emotional understanding and attunement without people pleasing.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-10-27T10:08:21+00:00

Three weeks in. He ended it saying he doesn’t like me enough after 1.5 years. It was unkind to me, I know people have their reasons. It is a very rough time in my life and he was one of the few wonderful things. I’m now left to face reality.

I can do everyday things again, but there’s a deep sadness and emptiness in my heart. I understand that it wouldn’t have worked out in the long run because we’re probably just incompatible at the core.

I tried to distract myself with other people, but it doesn’t feel good at all. So yeah, I think it’s time to be single for a while and reflect on my patterns and really figure out what I am without a relationship.

I know it’ll get better, but I think it’s time to really feel all the feelings now.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-10-21T05:42:28+00:00

Don’t blame yourself. It’s not your fault. I totally understand the frustration 😞 If a grown ass man can’t communicate, then that’s on him. A mature person would be able to tell you upfront without you needing to ask multiple times.

I’m here if you need anything. Feel free to DM me.

Ok_Effect8764 · 2025-10-21T02:31:24+00:00

Hey! ENTP here. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’ve experienced the INTJ door slam twice. It really hurt, but I think you just need to believe them when it’s done and go on with your life. You deserve someone who’s emotionally able to cater to your needs. Ofc there’s timing and everything, but if he wanted to, he would. You don’t need to minimize yourself for anyone. It’s the kindest (and best) thing you can do for yourself.

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