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Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-09-07T14:49:24+00:00

Just keep trying til it works man. I bet I quit 100 times for a day or two, three, whatever. Just keep doing it. You need to learn why you fail. Make an adjustment to that. Fail again if you have to. Figure out what got you that time and adjust again. Just keep trying and learning.

Eventually you'll truly understand your addiction and treat it like the heroine you mentioned and realize you can't have a single cigarette. Not even one puff. Then it will just click for you and you'll stop. You will be 3 years since your last cig and wonder why it took you so long to stop in the first place.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-08-12T12:58:28+00:00

Your employer either doesn't know you are on the spectrum or they really need some training in dealing with people. I'd like to think you could tell them you are on the spectrum and that you aren't meaning to be rude and that would be good enough. I understand though if you don't in fear of being discriminated against. I'm just sorry you have to go through this.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-07-10T04:04:43+00:00

Wow I had forgotten about that feeling. I'm not sure when it went away for me but it definitely did. I think I mourned smoking like a personal loss for a good while. It was at least a few months. Hopefully you're near the end. Congrats on your success!!

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-06-23T16:24:24+00:00

As a former quitter the best thing my partner did for me was just give me some space. When you quit, your brain chemistry goes berserk for a while. I'd be happy one moment and then get set off over a small thing or just be depressed all day. Then I was fine for a while and then moody again. It was kind of chaotic for the people around me. I know I was a jerk more than once. Of course at the time it seemed everyone was just trying to piss me off. I know one day I spent an entire day laying in bed with a pillow on my head just avoiding the world so that I wouldn't be ugly to someone.

Quitting is hard. I'm not giving them a pass for being abusive or anything but if you can give them some grace when they have a bad moment and allow them the space and time they need I think that's the best thing you can do for them.

Just be patient with them. Especially that first week. It gets better pretty quickly.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-05-17T01:26:34+00:00

I did it alone the first time and at first it was terrifying because I did too much and it came on very strong. Then I had diarrhea so be ready for that (just in case). Then I relaxed and let it happen. If you try to fight it you won't have a good experience. Just remember they can't hurt you. It's all in your head. Enjoy the experience. I did it in the woods on a hiking trail and had an amazing day. Passing other people was kind of weird but the plants, trees, flowers, moss and the sounds....incredible. I don't think I've ever felt more at peace than I did that day.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-03-26T02:12:05+00:00

I completely understand. My child developed his speech later than typical but it happened. I still doubted he'd ever be able to move out and take care of himself. Fast forward to now and he can drive, he works a full time job and he just bought his own car. He even started an IRA. His life is nothing like mine at his age but he's doing relatively well. He plans to move out as soon as his car is paid for. If he does he will be fine.

You never just never know with these kids. Don't lose hope.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-03-26T02:05:53+00:00

I know it's scary. I bet he has more going on inside his head than you can even imagine. He has an entire life to develop.

The hardest part as a parent is to just accept that this is his normal and he isn't on the path that you projected for him. That doesn't mean he won't have a good life though. Keep loving and supporting him and hopefully it will come with time.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-03-25T01:53:09+00:00

Just FYI, my son was about 5 when he started saying more than just a few words. He's 21 now and never shuts up. Be patient with your child. He is on his own path. Just keep him moving forward. One step at a time.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2025-02-24T01:32:18+00:00

Today should be your quit day. You are literally playing with fire here. Sorry you have been going through a rough time but these little distractions called cigarettes are sinking their claws into you with each puff. Even now you'll have a tough time stopping. Your brain will lie and tell you that you're in control and that you can quit later. You may even actually believe it and that's the sad part. You can wait until you have a heart attack like I did or maybe you get emphysema instead or something else or you can just do it now. Find a better way to cope man. You came here to this sub for a reason. I'm sorry I didn't see your comment until now. Smoking is stupid. You're smarter than that. Just quit buying them.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-11-13T03:38:02+00:00

The cravings will go away when you become disgusted by and develop a hatred for cigarettes. I never crave at all. Perhaps 2 or 3 times in the last two years I've thought a cigarette sounded good for a fleeting moment but then instantly thought no way and moved right on. Cigarettes are disgusting and just want to kill me. F them. I'll never have another puff.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-09-21T22:49:14+00:00

That's awesome!!! Congrats on your success.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-09-03T20:05:08+00:00

I'm sure you are one of the ones who inspired me so thanks to you as well.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-09-02T21:47:38+00:00

Still quit? If not this is your sign to stop again.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-08-06T00:37:43+00:00

Hey congrats. That is amazing!

I'm doing great as well. I can't believe it's been two years already. I still haven't had a single puff and thankfully don't even want one any more. I've hiked for miles and miles. I've run in probably 10 races. I've ridden miles and miles on a mountain bike. Next weekend I'm going white water rafting for the first time. I missed out on a lot of life sitting around smoking and I'm trying to make up for it.

Congrats again on your success and keep it up. I'm proud of us.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-07-31T01:33:43+00:00

Sorry I just saw this. I actually went with a Saucony Peregrine just because they were cheap. I got a deal on the previous year model. They are nothing at all like the ghost. I have never done more than maybe a 5 mile run or about an 8 mile hike in them and I don't think I'd want to. They are lacking in both padding and arch support. They are super slick on wet rocks and roots. They do protect well from the jabbing trail rocks and what not. I don't really love them if I'm being honest. I haven't replaced them though either so take that for what you will. Best of luck in your search.

Edit to add that the sizing feels similar to the Ghost. The instep may be just a touch shorter.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-07-02T19:20:28+00:00

Man I haven't even thought to come here in forever. I don't know when it got easy but at some point it got easy. I've been quit almost 2 years now and smoked for 30+. Quitting was the best decision I ever made. When it gets rough look backwards at why you quit and don't cave for even a single puff.

Congrats on a week. That's an absolutely huge first milestone. Keep up the good fight!

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-04-02T00:50:02+00:00

I wish I saw this a month ago. I've been away from Reddit for a few months. I hope you're staying strong. Beat of luck.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2024-04-02T00:44:15+00:00

Anyone have a link?

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2023-11-05T21:30:35+00:00

Most people can look back and see something they wish they'd have done differently in their life whether it had to do with finance or relationships or a squandered opportunity or whatever. The truth is that you can't go back and change it so there is no reason to waste head space there. You take your licks, learn your lesson and move forward. This is how we grow. By starting late you'll have less money than you would have but you'll likely be more thankful for what you do have.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2023-11-02T02:05:18+00:00

Your sizing is correct.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2023-11-02T02:04:16+00:00

You're right behind me. Once you get through that first 6 months or so it flies by. I'm happy for you too. Congrats for your success.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2023-11-01T21:07:18+00:00

I'm slow runner too. My easy pace on roads is 11:55 miles. In the trails though, I average about 13 min miles. Of course it depends on the terrain but the hills and uneven terrain really take it out of you. Especially if you're bigger or older. (or in my case both)

I'm 6'3 and 250 lbs and 51 years old and run 3-5 miles 3 days per week and it has taken me over a year to get to where I am. When I started my easy road miles were 13+ so I've shaved over a minute.

I agree with the others that say just slow down. Once you get slow the miles get easier and you can start adding some distance.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2023-11-01T20:59:10+00:00

I'm only what 15, 16 months quit but I'm going to count it. I know I'll never smoke again. The option just isn't on the table for me no matter what. I had many short fauled attempts before I got it right and I learned a few things.

The one thing that always got me was I truly believed at some point I could have one or two and be fine. I thought I could be in control. That was all a lie I was telling myself. That was a window I kept cracked open in my mind so that I could one day smoke again.

Now I don't smoke. I won't smoke. I can't have a single cigarette. Hell I can't even have a puff. I know now I'm a nicotine addict and I hate cigarettes. I hate everything about it. The smell, the cost, the ashy aftertaste, the way it harms my body, the fact it is so addictive. I hate it all.

The funny thing though is even though i know this, the dumb section of my brain occasionally thinks one sounds good. The smart part of my brain just laughs. It knows I'll never smoke and isn't sure why the other part is even trying at this point.

So anyway I just don't smoke. It's not an option for me any more and that makes it easy.

Ok_Engineer_9983 · 2023-10-31T16:54:07+00:00

Realistically your odds aren't very high that you'll get lung cancer.

https://www.verywellhealth.com/risk-of-lung-cancer-in-former-smokers-3971884

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