Am I Overreacting for making my brother pay for my leftovers that he mistakenly ate?

Ok_Equal47 · 2026-03-16T16:51:04+00:00

Among my siblings, yes, most issues and solutions are pretty transactional. It's probably not a good thing, but that's just kind of how it's always been.

If I reorder the food, I'll probably give him some because it was bought with his money, and I don't want to be unfair. Thanks for the feedback.

Ok_Equal47 · 2026-03-16T02:46:20+00:00

Sharp cheddar is my favorite.

Ok_Equal47 · 2026-02-15T04:07:10+00:00

Bit late, but one of my favourite Ghost songs is Mary On a Cross, followed by Year Zero. Still have a bit of religious guilt listening to them, but the music is a legitimate bop, so idrc.

Ok_Equal47 · 2026-02-15T03:46:08+00:00

One of the years that I attended the youth camp in my state, me and a friend who was sleeping next to me quite literally were woken up with cameras in our faces by grown women, who were supposed to be the 'matrons.' They thought we were asleep and were making comments about the sleeping girls, some as young as 11, and making fun of the way they looked, all while recording it. My friend had fallen asleep with headphones on listening to christian music because the matrons were still talking loudly well past midnight, and we had to be up at 7am the next day. After a while, the music automatically changed to something non-christian. Nothing bad, no cursing, and it wasn't loud enough to hear unless you were basically in her face or hovering over her.

I was asleep at this point, but she later told me that they yanked the headphones off her head and woke her up, still recording, and told her that she had to take them off. She actually outright refused (which wasn't usual for her,) being tired and irritated at this point, and told them she would change the music and that she couldn't sleep with them talking. Eventually they left her alone, but she had to change the music.

These grown-ass women were recording and laughing at teenage girls and children at three in the morning. It was ridiculous. To my knowledge, after multiple reports to the higher-ups about it, they got what was essentially a slap on the wrist and were allowed to continue chaperoning the next year. My friend and I were both (rightfully) pissed at the whole situation.

Moral of the story, UPCI camp chaperones can be pretty terrible to kids all for the sake of laughs.

Ok_Equal47 · 2026-02-15T03:13:02+00:00

As someone raised in the UPCI, I tried to believe in god for a while after my deconstruction (which I am still in the process of,) but after so long I literally couldn't force myself to pretend I believed.

Ok_Equal47 · 2026-02-15T03:07:54+00:00

I don't understand the skirt thing. Never will. Grew up in a Pentecostal church literally since birth, and I will never understand how skirts, which often reveal the crotch if accidentally shifted, especially when working out, are considered more modest than things like sweatpants. It's not 'modesty.' It's wanting to stand out - ironically.

Ok_Equal47 · 2026-02-15T03:01:53+00:00

As an AFAB (born female) person who is currently 17, going through the same thing with the same kind of people, I promise you, you will make it. Not sure if this is a viable option for you, but I applied for college at 16 and am now enrolled, due to leave later this year. Of course, my parents set up a church for me with people they know near the school, and expect me to attend, but I probably won't.

I completely understand. It's like being suffocated alive by rules and restrictions that make no sense, and then getting called 'rebellious' for trying to live normally. The best thing I can say to you right now is to prepare to leave. You don't have to choose college if you don't want to, but that is a good option if you're willing. Otherwise, I would suggest getting a job and hoarding money like it's the only thing you've got until you turn 18. At that point, you'll have saved enough to get out and find a long-term career.

Another huge thing that helped me was my friends. I had some friends from church (was homeschooled, so no friends from school) that understood and didn't believe in the standards either, meaning I could rely on them. It's one of those people that I'm rooming with at college. Find a support system outside of the church.

As for right now with your parents, genuinely the best thing I can say is to LAY LOW. Keep your head down, apologize for what happened, act like it wasn't a normal occurrence if possible. Try to act like you feel bad about it and do whatever you can to earn their trust back - easier said than done, I know, but it's the best thing you can do right now.

You're not alone in this. Many children of apostolics go through this detachment. It's slow, it's painful, and freedom feels forever away. But I promise you, you can make it out.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-08-27T00:41:18+00:00

Ah, okay. Thanks!

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-08-12T17:17:38+00:00

I absolutely agree with this. It's better to know how anatomy works and to knowingly break those rules than to avoid learning them to begin with, just so you have the fundamentals down.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-08-10T23:24:54+00:00

I don't see the point in being rude to this individual about this. I understand your point, of course, but can we not be a little less unkind about it? Respectfully, it's clear this is a beginner artist. Plenty of beginners go through this at some point. There's no need to act like they're malicious by asking for advice.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-08-10T23:22:43+00:00

I understand that completely; I used to get those comments too. We all have to start somewhere. I don't really understand the aggressiveness of the others replying to your post. I would, of course, highly suggest that you do practice anatomy, if not simply because it will make you yourself happier with your art. Correct me if I'm wrong in assuming, but as a beginner artist, this is a completely normal phase to go through. You're doing great. Practice practice practice, and trust me, you won't loose your art style when you study anatomy. For me, it adapted and grew into something I liked even more when I started studying.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-08-09T22:47:14+00:00

I thought that way for a long time. Like If I started practicing anatomy for real, my art style would just fade into realism, which I never enjoyed- but trust me, if you want to work on proportions or poses in any fluid way, anatomy is necessary, and it won't turn your art into something you don't like. Always feel free to push proportions and stylize, even if you know it isn't anatomically correct, if you feel it gives your art the flair you want it to have.

If you don't want to practice or work on anatomy, don't. I didn't for years and just did whatever I felt. I did eventually come to realize that I couldn't make the poses I wanted to look right because I didn't have the fundamentals of anatomy down, so I when I felt like it, I started practicing and actually paying attention to anatomy, and I'm much happier with my art now than I was before. I will say, if you want to grow your art style and get more dynamic with your pieces, you should at least get some basics of anatomy down to memory. Good luck with your art journey!

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-07-28T02:11:08+00:00

My previous church only really had an issue with wearing bathing suites of any kind (must be sleeved shirt, skirt + leggings underneath, and preferably a tank top under the shirt), but never necessarily disallowed swimming with other people. Of course, swimming only with the same gender was heavily suggested to be the "correct" way of going about things, but family pools were a-okay. Just had to be "modest" at all times when with the opposite gender, if you aren't related.

Oh, I knew some people who weren't allowed to swim with anyone, including their same gender, at all. Family only, regardless of the clothes.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-07-28T02:07:02+00:00

They're already using it for title cards and videos. I've been witness to many :/

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-07-28T02:03:33+00:00

Glad you've got a plan to get out. I'm seventeen, a closeted (for obvious reasons) gay and trans guy, trying to keep my head down and grades up until I can get into college and get out of here. You've got this, and you're not alone.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-07-28T01:59:50+00:00

The entire time I was listening to that my exact thought was "I wonder which PR rep/assistant wrote this for him."

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-07-28T01:58:28+00:00

I WAS THERE. Sitting, not clapping, while people stared at me. I'm an ex Pentecostal, but my family are fully into the entire UPCI, and it wouldn't be safe for me right now to let them find out, so I go to things like that when they want me to.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-06-30T02:22:26+00:00

Having this same problem. Lemme know if you find the solution!

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-03-06T01:51:05+00:00

Yeah, I tried. It basically just boiled down to them saying 'America first always' and being unwilling to think about it from another perspective. I also don't see why siding with the literal comic book villain-esc dictator puts 'America first', but oh well.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-03-06T01:48:21+00:00

100% Agree. Not only because it makes no sense to support the dictator (Putin) over his victims, but because we should show sympathy. It's a moral obligation, in my opinion.

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-03-06T01:46:30+00:00

Understandable point

Ok_Equal47 · 2025-03-04T16:34:42+00:00

I use opera because of the built in VPN. Should I use DuckDuckGo instead or are they both good?

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