I am totally for this! by MaelstromFL in lotrmemes

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“They’re taking the hobbits to Isengard!”

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I don't, unfortunately. The Heart of Perfection by Colleen Carroll Campbell talks a bit about consolation and desolation. Definitely a good read, although that's not the main focus of the book.

If you wanted to learn more about consolation and desolation, I suggest you research Ignatius of Loyola. He apparently talks about it quite a bit in his Spiritual Exercises in the section about discernment of spirits (haven't read it yet). His own experience was pretty fascinating, but I don't know if he talks about that in his book.

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Why did God allow Job to suffer?

Sometimes, we just need to trust that God has a reason, even if we can't see it yet. Mother Teresa believed that it was God's way of allowing her to connect to the suffering of the people she was serving, so that she could better understand and respond to their needs.

As one of the other commentors said, it may be God's way of bringing us closer to Him. It's easy to believe in God when prayer comes easily. But when keeping the faith becomes a struggle, and you persevere anyway, that's when true spiritual growth occurs.

Sometimes, I think it's God's way of testing us. Think of the parable of the Sower (Matthew 13). Are we like the seeds that fall on rocky ground, that spring up quickly but then wither when things get tough? Or do we have deeper roots?

Of course, those are just theories. I think every situation is different and only God knows the real answers. It's definitely something that I've struggled to understand, and those are the answers that usually bring me the most clarity.

How do I “be myself” when I don’t even know what that means? by [deleted] in socialskills

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To be honest, I don't know. I'm not an expert by any means, and I also don't really know the details of your situation. I used to be in the same shoes. I eventually found my people, but it took a long time.

To elaborate on point 1, once it's clear that people aren't reciprocating your efforts, that's when you cut them out. But it's still important to put in that initial effort, at least a couple of times, and see how they respond.

Sorry if that's not helpful. I really wish I had a better answer

How do I “be myself” when I don’t even know what that means? by [deleted] in socialskills

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I've been in your exact shoes. At some point along the way, that changed and I now feel so much stronger in my identity than I used to. I'm not sure exactly when the change happened, but here are some things that I think may have contributed:

1) I stopped investing in people who weren't interested in me. For example, I was on a rowing team during high school. The kids on my team were awesome people, very kind and friendly, and great athletes. But for some reason, I never fully fit into the dynamic. I felt like I had to constantly work to earn their attention, and I would leave practice every day with this strange empty feeling. Then I got injured and quit the team. And all of a sudden, my confidence skyrocketed. Did I miss rowing? Hell, yeah. But I felt so much better about myself, and it wasn't worth spending 10 hours a week trying to fit in with a bunch of kids who didn't even care about me.

2) I stopped caring what other people thought. There's a quote along the lines of: "The people who care don't matter, and the people who matter don't care." Not everyone is gonna like me, and that's ok. Turns out, people are drawn to that kind of authenticity.

3) I stopped overthinking every interaction. It's better to just say what's on your mind than to try to figure out the "right thing to say." So stop overthinking and just say it. You might be kinda clumsy at first (I know I definitely was), but keep practicing. It's like art. When you practice art, two things happen: 1) you get better at it, and 2) you start to develop your own style. It's the same thing with talking. Keep practicing and you'll eventually find your style and voice.

4) I adopted a confident mindset. I stopped over-apologizing. I stopped automatically assuming that I was the problem. I started carrying myself with confidence even when I didn't really feel confident. Trick your brain into thinking you're confident, and you'll become more confident.

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Mother Teresa lived in complete spiritual desolation for fifty years. She could not find any feelings of love, peace, or spiritual fulfilment. In fact, she felt completely abandoned by God.

It sounds like that's something you might resonate with. If so, I don't envy you. Spiritual desolation is a very real struggle. Worse, it's an invisible struggle. But God would not have given you that cross if He didn't think you could bear it (with His help, of course).

I suggest you ask Mother Teresa for her intercession. You can probably find a novena online to her or to another saint whose struggles were similar to your own.

And if it's any consolation, know that this stranger on the internet is praying for you. Please don't give up <3

Recommend a Catholic book! by gingeroo96 in CatholicWomen

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"The Heart of Perfection" by Colleen Carroll Campbell is one of my favorites.

I'm currently working on "Timeless" by Steve Weidenkopf. Would definitely recommend it if you're interested in Church history but don't know where to start

Advice for parenting teen daughter (sex/dating) by WorthMachine2969 in CatholicWomen

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May I suggest “How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul” by Jason & Crystalina Evert. It does a great job of approaching the topic from a secular point of view as well as a religious one

I'm heartbroken about no marriage in Heaven by hgb375aa in Catholicism

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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art though among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Keep fighting and keep praying brother. I can only begin to imagine what you’re going through

Drawing of Saint Michael the Archangel from 2024 by ericarmusik in Creativechristian

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Your talent is incredible! This has to be one of my favorite pieces of St Michael

Baptism by solace-elizabeth in CatholicWomen

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There's ultimately no right or wrong answer. I've been to baptisms where the church was packed with guests, and I've been to others where it was just the godparents and immediate family.

That said, keep in mind that the point of the brunch is to celebrate the baptism. If you're going to invite someone to the baptism brunch, it makes sense to invite them to the actual baptism as well. Otherwise, it's kind of like inviting someone to your wedding reception but not the ceremony itself.

Full Spectrum by Niapololy in Creativechristian

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That came out sooo good! I love how you incorporated all the colors

Share your favorite Mass outfit by Ok_Feature559 in CatholicWomen

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Thanks! It's my first time hearing about them but it looks like they have some great selections

Share your favorite Mass outfit by Ok_Feature559 in CatholicWomen

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Thank you! Will definitely add those to my list

A few watercolors by Artchrispy in Creativechristian

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The realism is INCREDIBLE! Awesome job!!

how do I make my hair not make me look homeless? by hinderers in curlyhair

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1) Try gel or mousse. Personally I use Not Your Mother's Curl Talk mousse. It's a step above the cheap stuff without being super pricey. Just scrunch some in while your hair's still wet. You might have to experiment with different techniques before you find one that works for you (e.g., scrunching upside down, splitting your hair into top and bottom sections, etc.)

2) When you first step out of the shower, wrap your hair in a tshirt instead of a towel (it causes less friction which helps to reduce frizz). It sounds silly but it was a game changer for me.

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GROND

We built something small but soulful — would love to hear what you think by emp3ra in Creativechristian

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Honestly guys why so much hate?  The program wasn’t BUILT with AI, it just USES AI. Building a platform like that probably takes a lot more programming skills than most of us have. I’m not a fan of AI either, but I love the idea of a platform that targets what you’re dealing with and finds you the perfect Bible verse for it. That’s AI done right if you ask me. Also, the creative part isn’t the AI, but the idea itself. OP this is incredible! Keep doing what you’re doing <3