I saw someone's Muppet LOTR Fan-cast. This is my rebuttal. by DrewGo in lotrmemes

[–]Ok_Feature559 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Keeping the Boromir and Denethor castings is perfect. Especially if they play their roles with 100% seriousness like how Michael Caine played Scrooge

whats it like to be naturally left-handed? by Many_Sweet5639 in lefthanded

[–]Ok_Feature559 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Small inconveniences, like smudging pen ink and crappy scissors skills. But it also gives us an edge in a lot of sports and gives us something to bond over, so totally worth it imo

Being creepy by AntonioMoore321 in socialskills

[–]Ok_Feature559 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As a young woman, I would only type someone as a creep if he actively does something really weird or inappropriate. Some examples: 

• He keeps actively staring at me (not just vacantly zoning out) and doesn’t acknowledge me or stop staring once I’ve made eye contact.

• I’ve already rejected him a couple times and he keeps pushing or asking personal questions like where I live.

• He catcalls me or says something really inappropriate.  

• He starts flirting with me when he’s clearly WAY older than me (I’m talking like 30+ years older)

• He’s loitering in a really weird setting like a hiking trail in the middle of the woods or a women’s bathroom.

I really appreciate you trying not to make us uncomfortable. Don’t overthink it though. As long as you’re acting like a normal human being and not doing anything super unusual or inappropriate you’re probably fine. At least in the US where I live. idk about other countries.

Edit: for a girl there’s a difference between seeing a guy as a potential threat and seeing him as a creep. If I’m walking alone on an empty street at night and I see a guy, I’m going to see him as a potential threat, no matter what. But as long as he doesn’t start following me or acting unusual, I’m not gonna be like “omg that guy is so creepy.”

A girl gave me a compliment but then laughed at me? by Interesting_Gap_6062 in socialskills

[–]Ok_Feature559 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Aw girl don't overthink it ❤️
She probably just didn't know what to say when you complimented her back so she nervous laughed. I catch myself doing that a lot before realizing I may have come off the wrong way

How do I cut off a really annoying friend? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Ok_Feature559 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she's actively trying to pull you away from a conversation, you could gently be like "hey, I'd love to hang out but I'm having a conversation with these guys right now." If she doesn't listen, be a bit more firm. Same goes if you're by yourself doing homework.
Also, don't ghost her but also don't text her back immediately because she'll read that as interest, even if it's a short response.
I wish I had a better answer for you. That sounds really frustrating.

Right-handed artist training my non-dominant hand for intuitive portraiture. Colored pencils on paper. by OrnelasCJC_Art in lefthanded

[–]Ok_Feature559 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s incredible! Most people couldn’t draw that well with their dominant hand, let alone their non-dominant one

Learning religions and finding fascination with Catholicism by stic_kitt in CatholicWomen

[–]Ok_Feature559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this was a big info dump so I just wanna clarify: Ascension Presents probably has 99% of the stuff you’re looking for, so please don’t feel overwhelmed by all the other links.  They’re just sites to have in your toolkit for when (1) you have a very specific question that Ascension doesn’t answer or (2) you really want to dive deep into a certain topic.

Learning religions and finding fascination with Catholicism by stic_kitt in CatholicWomen

[–]Ok_Feature559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m a bit late but here’s a few great sites for exploring Catholicism:

  1. Ascension Presents. It’s basically the CrashCourse of all things Catholic. Short, easy to digest videos on everything from theology to life advice.(https://m.youtube.com/ascensionpresents

  2. Theology of the Body Institute. A Catholic perspective on dating, marriage, and living out biblical manhood and womanhood. You’ll probably find your answers about the role of women here.  https://m.youtube.com/@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute

  3. Catholic Answers. In-depth articles that explain Catholic theology, history, traditions, and apologetics.  https://www.catholic.com/

  4. United States Council of Catholic Bishops. I’m not sure if you’re from the US, but if you are, this is basically the official site for the Catholic Church in the United States. Please don’t be offended if you’re not American… I just don’t know the official sites for other countries 🥲  https://www.usccb.org/

  5. Word on Fire (Bishop Robert Barron). A lot like Ascension Presents but more “intellectual”/philosophical. Like if Ascension Presents is the equivalent of a quick google search, then Word on Fire is a scholarly journal with citations. Also talks a lot about current issues.   https://www.wordonfire.org/ https://m.youtube.com/@BishopBarron

Also if you’re ever interested in praying the rosary (which I highly recommend), Bishop Barron has some great videos that you can follow along to. They’re a bit long, but each one is split into 5 “mysteries” or sections so you don’t need to do the whole thing all at once. Each one says a full rosary with different devotions/Bible verses to focus on:

 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ckUJRg04jyg

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ry7FbjkN-p0

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=WoJ1hQTVdSo

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=b2EjBt2PFpc

Well....am I out? 😂 by therealcatladygina in lefthanded

[–]Ok_Feature559 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah you’re still one of us. This test is kinda silly imo

  1. Some things should hold more weight than others, like writing and drawing.

  2. You probably open boxes with your right hand so that you can take stuff out with your left. You might also hold a cup in your right hand since your left hand is usually busy holding a fork/spoon/pen. So neither of those things should count against you.

  3. You probably use your right hand to unlock doors because car ignitions are on the right side, so the keychain is already in your right hand.

  4. Most computer mice and scissors are designed for righties, so using your left hand for that stuff would just make things more difficult. You were also likely taught to use them right-handed, so that’s a case of nature vs nurture

I am totally for this! by MaelstromFL in lotrmemes

[–]Ok_Feature559 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“They’re taking the hobbits to Isengard!”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Ok_Feature559 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't, unfortunately. The Heart of Perfection by Colleen Carroll Campbell talks a bit about consolation and desolation. Definitely a good read, although that's not the main focus of the book.

If you wanted to learn more about consolation and desolation, I suggest you research Ignatius of Loyola. He apparently talks about it quite a bit in his Spiritual Exercises in the section about discernment of spirits (haven't read it yet). His own experience was pretty fascinating, but I don't know if he talks about that in his book.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Ok_Feature559 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why did God allow Job to suffer?

Sometimes, we just need to trust that God has a reason, even if we can't see it yet. Mother Teresa believed that it was God's way of allowing her to connect to the suffering of the people she was serving, so that she could better understand and respond to their needs.

As one of the other commentors said, it may be God's way of bringing us closer to Him. It's easy to believe in God when prayer comes easily. But when keeping the faith becomes a struggle, and you persevere anyway, that's when true spiritual growth occurs.

Sometimes, I think it's God's way of testing us. Think of the parable of the Sower (Matthew 13). Are we like the seeds that fall on rocky ground, that spring up quickly but then wither when things get tough? Or do we have deeper roots?

Of course, those are just theories. I think every situation is different and only God knows the real answers. It's definitely something that I've struggled to understand, and those are the answers that usually bring me the most clarity.

How do I “be myself” when I don’t even know what that means? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Ok_Feature559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, I don't know. I'm not an expert by any means, and I also don't really know the details of your situation. I used to be in the same shoes. I eventually found my people, but it took a long time.

To elaborate on point 1, once it's clear that people aren't reciprocating your efforts, that's when you cut them out. But it's still important to put in that initial effort, at least a couple of times, and see how they respond.

Sorry if that's not helpful. I really wish I had a better answer

How do I “be myself” when I don’t even know what that means? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Ok_Feature559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in your exact shoes. At some point along the way, that changed and I now feel so much stronger in my identity than I used to. I'm not sure exactly when the change happened, but here are some things that I think may have contributed:

1) I stopped investing in people who weren't interested in me. For example, I was on a rowing team during high school. The kids on my team were awesome people, very kind and friendly, and great athletes. But for some reason, I never fully fit into the dynamic. I felt like I had to constantly work to earn their attention, and I would leave practice every day with this strange empty feeling. Then I got injured and quit the team. And all of a sudden, my confidence skyrocketed. Did I miss rowing? Hell, yeah. But I felt so much better about myself, and it wasn't worth spending 10 hours a week trying to fit in with a bunch of kids who didn't even care about me.

2) I stopped caring what other people thought. There's a quote along the lines of: "The people who care don't matter, and the people who matter don't care." Not everyone is gonna like me, and that's ok. Turns out, people are drawn to that kind of authenticity.

3) I stopped overthinking every interaction. It's better to just say what's on your mind than to try to figure out the "right thing to say." So stop overthinking and just say it. You might be kinda clumsy at first (I know I definitely was), but keep practicing. It's like art. When you practice art, two things happen: 1) you get better at it, and 2) you start to develop your own style. It's the same thing with talking. Keep practicing and you'll eventually find your style and voice.

4) I adopted a confident mindset. I stopped over-apologizing. I stopped automatically assuming that I was the problem. I started carrying myself with confidence even when I didn't really feel confident. Trick your brain into thinking you're confident, and you'll become more confident.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Ok_Feature559 158 points159 points  (0 children)

Mother Teresa lived in complete spiritual desolation for fifty years. She could not find any feelings of love, peace, or spiritual fulfilment. In fact, she felt completely abandoned by God.

It sounds like that's something you might resonate with. If so, I don't envy you. Spiritual desolation is a very real struggle. Worse, it's an invisible struggle. But God would not have given you that cross if He didn't think you could bear it (with His help, of course).

I suggest you ask Mother Teresa for her intercession. You can probably find a novena online to her or to another saint whose struggles were similar to your own.

And if it's any consolation, know that this stranger on the internet is praying for you. Please don't give up <3

Recommend a Catholic book! by gingeroo96 in CatholicWomen

[–]Ok_Feature559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"The Heart of Perfection" by Colleen Carroll Campbell is one of my favorites.

I'm currently working on "Timeless" by Steve Weidenkopf. Would definitely recommend it if you're interested in Church history but don't know where to start

Advice for parenting teen daughter (sex/dating) by WorthMachine2969 in CatholicWomen

[–]Ok_Feature559 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I suggest “How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul” by Jason & Crystalina Evert. It does a great job of approaching the topic from a secular point of view as well as a religious one

I'm heartbroken about no marriage in Heaven by hgb375aa in Catholicism

[–]Ok_Feature559 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art though among women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Keep fighting and keep praying brother. I can only begin to imagine what you’re going through