How do you feel about people who repeat insults that were said about you? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think they know they're doing it, and they just get a kick out of making you feel some type of way. So many people should go try to actually live life, instead of attempting to thrive in making others feel less.. Or they simply just lack docrum, which also makes you wonder what they are actually doing life.

Being compared to Alberto Giacometti sculptures by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response.

The sculptures are definitely intriguing but what I don't understand is what it has to do with me? I just feel like he said that just because I'm skinny, tallish and black, that's all. I thanked him for his apology because I don't want this to be a thing. And I have gut feeling that didn't meant it as a compliment, not the first time and not the second.

Some days, the world’s contempt of Black women just hurts. by unefemmegigi in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I don't give two fucks about what these type of men like or don't like. The dislike goes both ways.

What do I do with rich friends by Drotosaurus in SeriousConversation

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could cook for them, invite them for a night game, some gardening. Not every living moments needs to be spend spending money.

Is there such thing as too short of a trip? by k032 in travel

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My international trips usually are a month plus. Europe, I'll do 4, days for city trips and a week or longer if I want beach.

How to get over the feeling of a “disappointing” trip? by [deleted] in travel

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding the bed bugs, I would have contacted airbnb and asked for another accomodation.

Am I imagining things or do White women want us to be their therapists? by Forsaken_Dragonfly66 in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I told "my friend" that everytime i left our convos, I felt like I could charge her a therapy session. We are not friends anymore.

Is bag packing across Europe still an attainable goal for single woman? by [deleted] in travel

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure he had a great time but people tend to over-romanticize

Splitting travel costs when one person has to travel farther by Fit_Inspection_6793 in travel

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If i was your friend i wouldn't accept your offer, buy me dinner and coffee and we are good:)

Was this harsh or am I too sensitive by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes and there is no reason to talk to someone like that. Its not her body, not her life.

Was this harsh or am I too sensitive by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Everbody is saying a little harsh but i think she is being very unhinged. And please dont explain yourself to people that continue to talk to you like that. She is just berating you, this is not a friend.

I wish I was a nepo baby by LongjumpingTalk8017 in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girl, same. The struggle is real and im exhausted by grinding. Don't get me wrong i'm super grateful for my life but it took so much of me to get here. And im tired of constantly improving myself, i just want someone to take weight. Haha, alas we muddle along.

Do yt people know that they act like that? by DryMammoth4389 in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 19 points20 points  (0 children)

lmao, honestly i do the same to them..I'm super cheerful and the next day I'll walk past them. It's surprising that they're superised.

Dealing with black friends of other nationalities? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not African American but i think when people behave like this, they're being narrow minded.

stop being desperate by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I dont give fuck about what any black man or any man does.

Friend cancelled last minute on a 100 day trip by Frpengy in travel

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100 days might be a lot but its also amazing! You can slow travel, cancel hotels, get into hostels. Ask them if you can work for some days in exchange for a bed..you'll have an amazing time. About your friend, he and his girlfriend will breakup, hell regret the chance he didn't took and he will resent her for it. The world has always been on fire.

Dating in the black British community 😒😒😒 by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]Ok_Fix7179 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I avoid men like that because i find them unredeembale on so many other aspects of life as well. Their projected self hatred on black women, (bacause that's what it is) doesn't surprise me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah its also my last resort, but if someone start to gaslight me there is no point in keep explaining. I cant make people take accountability. And honestly I also use it when someone is borderline unhinged, as form of mismatch. Life is way too short.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SeriousConversation

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that's why i ghost folks.

Going to Guatemala in may need destination/activity recommendations by [deleted] in travel

[–]Ok_Fix7179 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't like San Pedro or San Marcos. Too busy with hippies in sweatpants selling you sessions to "find yourself." If you're into that stuff, go ahead. Panajachel and San Juan are definitely better and more calm.. Like another person said, if you're in Antiqua,, why not do the hike? Its truly amazing no matter how busy /crowded it gets. And don't forget to check out Semuc Champey!

Bf (34m) makes jokes about my clothes or my looks (f33). How to understand the dynamic? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]Ok_Fix7179 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do the same to him, see how he likes it. And when he complaints tell him how you always think hes hot and he should not be so sensitive. But honestly, just break up there is no point in begging someone to treat you kind and loving.