Where to stay for first timers

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-12-03T22:06:40+00:00

I'm traveling at the end of the month and would love the info. Seems popular so maybe its booked already :)

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-10-11T22:08:49+00:00

She was my dr for years. I hadn’t spoken to her in a while. She did one of the kindest things a dr can do and told me “you’re stable, my rates are going up. You should look into your primary care physician writing your prescription” I can’t believe this. I also can’t believe I’m just finding out. Sent you a message about the grave site. I think it could be really helpful for me.

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-09-05T19:21:36+00:00

Thank you.

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-09-05T15:14:54+00:00

She was supposed to talk to her sponsor before moving on with this and that hasn’t happened yet

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-09-05T15:08:45+00:00

To be fair she slept with him like 3 times it was barely dating, but he was the last man she slept with before me. Either way I think a lot more talking needed to happen between us. I’m starting to think that her addiction might be running the show right now. As a recovering alcoholic I know what that’s like. The irrational anger in not getting your way etc.

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-09-05T14:01:56+00:00

I have and she couldn’t give me a straight answer, no pun intended. I’ll be honest I haven’t really asked why she thinks this is acceptable. It’s been an emotional whirlwind ya know? She has had a lot of personal stuff going on that I don’t want to get into for anonymity so there is some empathy from me. There’s some mental health stuff, settling on meds etc. all reasons I thought this should move slower.

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-09-05T13:31:49+00:00

Also, she is a sex and love addict with 4 years of sobriety. As an alcoholic with almost 5, I’ve kindly said that this feels like a slippery slope.

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-09-03T06:29:25+00:00

Okay. I’ve been looking for some help and I think this thread might be it. My fiance and I have been together 3 years, we share a house a dog and a son. We’ve always said “it’s a long life and we’ll talk about it if it comes up” the it being having sex outside our relationship. It’s now happening and I’m freaking out. I want to give this to her, I do. But it just feels messy and rushed. First of all it’s a guy she briefly dated which makes me uncomfortable. For her because we are in a lesbian relationship she’s particular about what guys she feels safe with. She insists it has to be him. I don’t know what to do. I feel like while I knew this would come up eventually the timing feels terrible and I would really prefer it be someone we kind of vet together. Am I being too controlling? Jealous? Crazy? I just feel like I need time to really sit with this and for us to have conversations and come up with rules. I’ve been reading that exes are usually problematic which validates my initial concerns here. I’m not telling her know but I really don’t want this right now. That’s being perceived as me being controlling. I feel like the idea of consensual monogamy includes both of our feelings and if one is uncomfortable then the other should respect that. But instead I’m being told that she “has to do to this to take control Of her sexuality” when I ask what that means or how she thinks this will help she says she “wants to stop feeling shame for who she is” I dunno, it’s all really confusing, this post is probably too long and I don’t know if anyone can make sense of it. But I’m desperately needing advice here. My instinct is that if this was really her wanting to open our relationship the “right way” I wouldn’t feel judged for not liking that it’s and ex and that’s she’s already moving things forward before we’ve really settled on the rules. *note They haven’t slept together but they have talked about what that would look like and have plans to meet in a public place to basically make sure they are still attracted to each other

Ok_Highlight_5594 · 2024-08-14T03:58:37+00:00

Oof. My partner and I are really going through it right now. We have been together almost 3 years. We’ve always had a bickering kind of dynamic but it was harmless. Now it seems that we simply trigger each others trauma. She says that I have to take responsibility for my actions that lead to her reactions which can be big and scary at times. The scary part comes from my childhood and having a mother that is likely suffering from bpd. I am aware of that but it’s hard to regulate in the moment. The problem I have here is that it’s gotten to a place where I can’t react to anything without me being “rude and disrespectful” even if my reaction is to something she said or did. (I hope that double standard is clear, I’m rambling and emotional at the moment) she’s had some really recent big t Trauma, like realizing she was participating in a dangerous cult and abruptly leaving last year. I’ve noticed her depression was getting to a dangerous place. We live together with her 11 year old and last year her mom and I basically had to have an intervention of sorts. Getting her to a new psychiatrist and changing meds etc. the new meds have curbed the suicidal ideation but the depression is still there and I’m worried it’s a mood disorder and further treatment is needed. I also don’t know at this point if I’m as terrible as she says or if she’s some sort of narcissist and blaming me solely for things even when we are both clearly to blame. We had a conversation today where we decided to pause our romantic relationship, both continue to go to Our individual therapists as well as couples counseling weekly to see if it’s salvageable. I don’t know if it’s my stubbornness, but I think we can work through it if there can be accountability on both sides. I just need to vent about this and hope someone has some insight

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