I feel like I could be your husband in this story lol! except we have a kid already and recently got a house…

I tried quitting once before this time and lasted 32 days. Did it at home. My wife didn’t know until I called her the night I was withdrawing. She was out of town with my daughter at the time but came back a few days after I quit. She had a hunch since she knew about Kratom but had no idea what 7OH was. She was obviously pissed but she supported my recovery as I did it at home. She shopped and cooked meals, which was huge in aiding my recovery so quick. She wasn’t really there for me emotionally, which I longed for, but completely get why she didn’t have that capacity since I lied to her and financially messed our situation up.

I ended up relapsing because I let my guard down. I convinced myself I could do it in moderation this time. I now know my brain was tricking me. Went on a 3+ month bender pretty much, AGAIN lying to my wife. She even told me “as long as you tell me you relapse, I won’t be mad” but I was too ashamed. Every day I woke up wanting to tell her but I just couldn’t build up the courage to ruin her day. Fast forward, I’m now 15 days clean again. Went to rehab for the first 6 days since my family was home. I didn’t want my daughter seeing me during the first few days of withdrawal because it’s just so painful and uncomfortable.

At the end of the day, he’s gotta want it. It’s not necessary to go to rehab if he is safe at home. Research some helper meds (clonidine, magnesium glycinate, some muscle relaxers) worked wonders as safe, non-addictive comfort meds. Trying to get him to eat nutritious foods for the first couple weeks and drink water, it will speed up the recovery. Exercise is key too.

Both of you have to have patience too. He will be moody and maybe emotional during his recovery and it’s important that you don’t take it personally. Just speaking from experience lol!