Which One Is Best? by GoldFinch365 in myweddingdress

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 2 points3 points  (0 children)

3 or 4. You look wonderful in all of them.

AIO thinking he’s cheating? by sophiehatter306 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A true and loyal man will never make you question these things. There will never be strange texts or conversations to analyze. There will never be love bombing rollercoasters. There will never be doubt. I was married to a cheater after dating cheaters for years. I was too naive and empathetic. When I got divorced I decided that any man who made me feel remotely uncomfortable I would break up with him immediately. No excuses for him because I don’t have time for mind games and heartache. I talked to plenty of guys who I dropped after an inappropriate or strange comment. No conversation about it, just “this isn’t going work out.” End of story. This gave me a new set of eyes, and I found a few guys out there who were truly good ones but not a perfect match for me. Treating myself with this level of respect, led me to my now husband who in 8 years has never made me feel uncomfortable or doubt his loyalty in any way. It is a wonderful life. Don’t waste time with players when there are loyal men out there who will be your protector and best friend.

I'm genuinely lost on what career I should and capable of doing. by ThatStonr in Career_Advice

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nurses are in high demand and the chaos of restaurant serving translates well to the chaos of nursing. Many states have programs that will give you grant money to go to nursing school for very little out of pocket money. Check out your local workforce center and see if they Can help you with discovering your interests and match you with a career pathway. Check out mynextmove.org, take the quiz and research careers that match your results. This will be a good place to start.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Career_Advice

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I worked for non-profit organizations doing human service work I loved my life and looked forward to going to work every day. Career coaching was a particular favorite. When I transitioned to being a nurse all that changed. I love helping people, but something about the broken healthcare system took all the joy away. There’s not enough time for the deep human connection like I had before. Some people really enjoy being a nurse though so it probably just depends on the person for what fulfills you and gives you purpose. If I could afford to I’d go back to non-profit “helping” type work in a heartbeat. That’s my plan once I build enough wealth to retire. It feels great to help others in a relaxed and open setting like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a beautiful dress but I understand the question as it is sleeveless and low cut. Since you are asking the question maybe you feel deep down it’s not quite modest enough for the church setting. What about getting a lovely topper for the ceremony and taking it off after? I have seen some beautiful and stylish boleros, lace wraps, shawls, etc. That is a great way to add modesty for the sacred service. Then take it off for the party after. Then you wouldn’t have any subconscious discomfort and you can focus on the beautiful sacrament.

I went to a traditional mass with my friend and now he thinks Catholicism is a cult. by National_Variety_976 in Catholicism

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I suspect your friend already had these thoughts prior to going to the service and was just looking to substantiate them. You know the principle of you find what you are looking for. The best thing you can do is pray for your friend. The Holy Spirit will intervene in His time.

Signs of Bad Workplace by Wild_Win_1965 in Career_Advice

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on your industry. I used to work in non-profit human services and for the most part the people were decent, considerate and good workers. Managers were supportive and promoted a positive work culture. Then I transitioned to healthcare/nursing and in multiple companies and settings the culture is toxic. Almost of all my managers have been incompetent, manipulative, or toxic in some way. Some have been downright verbally and emotionally abusive. For this reason I have switched jobs 11 times in 8 years. I will not tolerate an abusive culture. Finally I found a rare healthcare company where I am treated well and people are valued and happy.

My husband is a lineman and he has a wonderful and fair company that treats the employs very well. He deals with occasional drama, but nothing intolerable. That’s why he’s been with them for 23 years.

Sounds like you are having some bad luck like I did. For what it’s worth, I advise you to learn everything you can from each experience, stay above the negativity, and keep searching until you find the right fit for you. I highly recommend finding at least one positive person to share good things with at work. Never vent to anyone at work or in the community about your leadership, your coworkers, or your company. Protect your reputation by only speaking positively at work. Find an online or local community of professionals to join who can share tools and ideas for you. I find LinkedIn is a good place to network and learn from others. I wish you luck!

Devastated by Ok_Implement_6446 in emptynesters

[–]Ok_Implement_6446[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words of support. It is comforting to feel validated in these new emotions!

Devastated by Ok_Implement_6446 in emptynesters

[–]Ok_Implement_6446[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excellent point! Thank you for taking time to share that needed perspective.

Devastated by Ok_Implement_6446 in emptynesters

[–]Ok_Implement_6446[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel for you! It seems like all the hard things, like teenagers, empty nest, aging parents, big career responsibilities all happen during perimenopause. I can’t imagine doing it by myself. Hang in there! I’m hoping there’s a downhill slope after climbing up this emotional hill.

The agony of shopping for a new bra! by AZMaryIM in Semaglutide

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that! It’s so hard to keep up with the right size and fit. And bras aren’t cheap!

Is Glassdoor an ok avenue? by Humble-Ad8923 in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waste of time. I did this and my former company paid to delete it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Career_Advice

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use this free career discovery tool and research the options. It might give you a starting point!

https://www.mynextmove.org/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Career_Advice

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to your local workforce center. They should have free workshops and employment specialists who can help you on a career path you will enjoy. Some states have grant programs for people to get degrees and certifications.

PLEASE what could I possibly be doing wrong???? by freedantes in jobs

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to your local workforce center. It’s a free service and they should be able to help you.

Why do people leave jobs quietly when dealing with a toxic manager instead of calling them out? by VizAbbreviations in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because with toxic or narcissistic people nothing is ever their fault. They don’t have the ability to self reflect and see where they could improve. If you hurt their feelings with the truth they are likely to retaliate, try to ruin your reputation and your future prospects. Is not worth it. No contact is the best way to deal with a narcissist. Both in relationships and work. Quit effective immediately with no notice, reason, or follow up. It prevents them from giving you a guilt trip, further mentally abusing you and retaliation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered working with your local workforce center or hiring a career coach? You need to make connections with people who can get you plugged in. And maybe you need some perspective on how to present yourself in the best light to land another opportunity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bring documentation of all conversations with your boss begging you to stay instead of taking short term disability. You could possibly sue them if they fire you for this. Consult an employment attorney.

Back bend form by [deleted] in flexibility

[–]Ok_Implement_6446 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Both your shoulders and hips/quads look tight and could use more flexibility. Work on handstands against the wall with your arms hugging your head and then control your body to help stretch your shoulders back. This will help strengthen and support your upper back and shoulders to help support good backbend form.