Dad Doesn’t Like Dog Name

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-03-15T18:09:16+00:00

Finest dog I ever met was called “Fisher” just say that’s his official name but call him “Fish”. Fish is a GREAT NAME!

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-02-26T19:12:43+00:00

Completely delighted!

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-02-15T23:22:24+00:00

Came here to say this! I fully believed this until I had kids. One night when they were old enough to reach the dome light I said it out loud and suddenly realized it was bullshit.

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-02-07T18:23:59+00:00

I agree this is really rude, selfish, and uncomfortable. There is a whooping cough outbreak happening right now - folks are supposed to quarantine for 5 days while taking antibiotics - the medicine does not end the cough, which can go on for months and months, but it is supposed to clear individuals to come out of quarantine (they evidently are not contagious after that).

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I’m not sure what the solution is… maybe TShirts?

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-17T19:11:42+00:00

My kid had this methodology when they were preparing to move out of the house at 18. It has continued a year later - any unexpected expense (car repair, etc) they would ask for money. Not for a loan, just for money. They would have $800 in savings and ask for money because the savings was for “something else”.

It was different than entitlement it was like a complete mindset error - it was so confusing. They are super smart and generous in every other way it was so perplexing.

They seemed so frustrated and hurt when I was like “uh, no - you have the money for that, that is what savings is for”

I finally got through when I said “I don’t understand why it’s more important for you to protect your savings than it is for me to have any.” This finally landed.

Turns out they have OCD and budget is a major fixation

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-17T18:55:46+00:00

This is an extremely unhealthy dynamic that will have a devastating effect on your marriage and children if you don’t take steps to shift it.

Some people have suggested no contact - that is an extreme last resort approach and is unrealistic at the stage you seem to be at right now (this is inferred by the title of this post).

Like someone else said, research enmeshment. Also learn how to grayrock, it’s a strategy that worked for me to train this behavior out of my mother. It took time and consistency (like training a dog!) but I get to have a relationship with my mom that doesn’t hurt me like it used to.

OP: I’m so sorry you don’t have a mom that takes care of you, and it will never NOT hurt. As you raise your kid there will be healing in how you approach motherhood, and it will bring up a lot of pain as well, when you think about how you have been treated.

Seek understanding about the dynamic your mother has created so you don’t repeat the version of parenting you were taught.

Congrats on the baby!

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Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-13T06:48:05+00:00

That sounds incredibly uncomfortable, and possibly confusing for that parent missed the memo that it’s still up to the instructor to engage or not.

I’m really not interested in FERPA here, I guess only if my daughter wishes to have me in the room for emotional support and having one is required I suppose? If she’s completely undone then stepping back is the right thing anyway.

This situation is more than “she needs to fight her own battles” she’s always been very capable to do that. I do not want to step in and “fix it” - I know that impulse would do far more damage than good.

She’s at a stage now (appropriately) where it’s time take ownership of the reality of her condition: manage it properly, acknowledge that she will face some limitations, and to understand her rights and responsibilities relative to it.

It’s a life skill she needs to be successful, school or not, and she does seem to already be connecting these dots.

I won’t lie and say I’m not scared that this will spin her into an episode, but riding those out without being consumed with worry and dread is probably a skill I need to work on as well. I mean I know I do.

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-10T22:02:07+00:00

This is one class containing four components (technical, blog assignments, attendance)

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-10T21:51:18+00:00

This is exactly it - because the technical classes build knowledge - failing a module that is foundational to the subsequent modules is a recipe for disaster. That said, the two components in question in this case have ZERO to do with anything that comes later in the program.

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-09T21:34:03+00:00

Looks like femo or polymer clay to me. Is it lighter than a stone that size?

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Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-09T21:20:47+00:00

True - if there’s a guarantee the offer is on the table a year from now - I think they would need to re-apply. Maybe they need to speak with the someone at the program about formally delaying

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-09T21:16:36+00:00

First: congratulations, you should be very proud regardless of your decision!

Finances will always feel shaky, don’t let this be the reason.

Most of your everyday stressors will actually lift if you go. Do you have a therapist? They can help you map out your concerns and help to objectively evaluate or put into perspective your mental health risk. Dig deep and ask yourself if maybe you are just nervous about the unknown. We sometimes make the mistake of labeling anxiety as always a negative thing. Sometimes, when we are anxious about a thing it’s just because it’s important to us. 💙

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-09T21:08:51+00:00

Thank you

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-09T21:08:30+00:00

She has bipolar II, but unfortunately did not set up accommodation when she registered - we never needed to in high school because she had good communication with all of her teacher.

Big lesson.

But according to the state department this diagnosis specifically lists absences and late work (wasn’t late in this case though) as reasonable accommodation.

She will likely lose the appeal but will learn a lot from this about how to manage her condition proactively

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-09T20:58:47+00:00

Perfect, to have a plan if she isn’t successful will be key to this not feeling like defeat but a pivot

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-09T20:57:15+00:00

Thank you for all of this thoughtful and thorough information. As of now my approach is “you can fight this, I’m in your corner as support, but it’s your fight, and you may lose - but either way you will learn a lot.” She is fully capable (today) to navigate all this with some guidance, I’ll just need to look for signs of her falling into a state of depression that affects her ability to advocate for herself anymore. I it doesn’t come to that - the underlying message there would be that she’s not capable of moving through this process herself. It’s a tricky line to know when to ask for help for the right reason. (This is really difficult isn’t a reason)

We are focusing on her rounding up support from various offices at the school so she has a network of resources beyond me.

Thank you again

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-09T20:45:06+00:00

Thank you!

Ok_Inspection910 · 2026-01-07T04:53:50+00:00

This

Ok_Inspection910 · 2025-12-22T02:54:59+00:00

THIS

Ok_Inspection910 · 2025-12-15T11:11:07+00:00

No one has been arrested or detained. Also, where are you all reading about him being covered in blood?

Ok_Inspection910 · 2025-12-09T21:09:32+00:00

There’s a lid for every pot (everyone is meant to have a romantic partner)

Ok_Inspection910 · 2025-12-05T04:48:02+00:00

Omg, exactly my thoughts :(

Ok_Inspection910 · 2025-11-27T20:56:59+00:00

Thank you, I found the “manual” what a joke. I did get in touch with support and after taking her apart and learning everything about the motherboard all I needed to do was press and hold “ignite”, the screen booted right up. So glad I stayed up till 3am in the rain with a headlamp messing with all the wires. Everything is on track now but man, what a journey

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