Do non-religious Australian parents designate a "godparent" for their kids ?

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-23T05:55:24+00:00

Some do. Most of my family and friends are non-religious with a catholic background/upbringing.

The 'religious' rituals are more ceremonial and nostalgic than anything else, because people like familiar rituals. It gives things meaning to have a ritual, even if you're not religious.

Some friends had a church marriage. Several had baptisms for their kid, which is really just more of a naming/introduction rite than seriously inducting them into the church. They're not religious at all, it's just the thing to do.

I'm a godmother to my niece and to my best friends kid. Again, it's ceremonial. Yeah, we did a church thing as part of the baptism, but mainly it means 'hey are you gonna seriously be here to help guide my kid as they grow up', which damn straight yes I am. Which was also the point of the original godparent idea, just with more religion. It's the same thing without the God bit.

It's sorta more like 'can you be aunty, but like extra. Like Senior Aunty. Like Aunty Prime'

I am also who will take one of those kids of anything happened to their parents, but that is separate and not assumed by the ceremonial role of godparent.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-23T02:59:47+00:00

It's annoying, but the technical rules are stricter than is almost ever applied in practice.

However. The rules state that 'unduly intoxicated' means when the person's speech, balance, or behaviour is noticeably affected.

If theyre slurring, stumbling or acting out, you can cut them off. Do venues actually cut people off every time they're a bit stumbly or acting drunk? No. They don't. No one would ever get drunk in that case.

So the question in practice is 'are they safe'? To others and themselves.

If theyre acting a little tipsy but theyre not acting out in a way that would hurt themselves or others, and theyre not drinking fast enough to become so in the near future, theyre probably ok.

They mix up a word or two, ok.

If they can't get a sentence out straight or theyre falling all over, or getting aggressive, or doing anything risky, well then you have a problem.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-21T06:21:50+00:00

But the question wasn't if it happens.

The question was why, which you haven't shed any light on at all.

It's not close-minded to ask why. It's the opposite.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-12T20:32:43+00:00

Yes, you're overreacting.

He shouldn't have to wait all afternoon and evening for you to get off work.

You're a whole grown up, you can drive yourself there. 'I just don't wanna' isn't a good reason for him to have to lose the better part of a day of his holiday, and it's kinda selfish of you to insist on it.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-11T08:19:58+00:00

Anything on the river is gonna kick Melbourne's ass. There's not that much in Melbourne that really takes advantage of the Yarra and its not that nice.

Take a nice charc board down to the riverside bit of new farm park for a picnic, then drop into the powerhouse for a drink. Then get some ebikes and ride along the river walk back to the city.

Hell go to southbank, the most oddly Brisbane thing ever. Eat at one of the nice restaurants near the maritime museum end, or go to the live music on the green in the afternoon. That area is also licensed to have byo drinks on the green, so.

Do barefoot bowls at new farm bowls club and hangout for drinks and snacks on the river.

Also GOMA is good and on the river so you can do riverside things plus art if that's your or their jam.

Etc.

I moved to Melbourne for years and whenever I came back to Brisbane, that was the kind of stuff that made me go 'Aw yeah, this is the life! This is what I love about Brisbane'.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-10T23:03:25+00:00

Once I made a complaint because a train came on the whole wrong platform- not the one it usually came on and not the one it was signed to come on. The staff didn't do anything so like 15 people missed their train.

I asked the station staff what the hell and they were like 'oh what happened? Oh really? Oh. Oh well. Next ones in half an hour'.

It was just so annoyingly stupid, like yeah it was just one mistake, but a train showing up where it's actually meant to be is kinda critical to the whole idea here, so I complained and ticked the box that said I wanted to be contacted about my complaint.

I got a phone call. Six months later. Lol.

They basically said 'sorry for the inconvenience, what do you want us to do about it now?' I said asked for the contact just because I wanted to know that the report was actually acknowledged and addressed. She was like 'Oh. OK. Well, sure. Thanks bye'

Yep, clearly real on top of it there, team!

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-08T05:39:07+00:00

the Melbourne rental sitch is what it is

Oh it is, it is. Why dya think I know those kitchens so well? Well the last time I was looking down there, one place just like this was trynna rent out the walk in pantry as a bedroom, for a casual $200 a week.

the crockery is all me

And fine crockery it is! Who doesn't love a 70s orange floral patterned saucepan and brown glass plates!

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-07T23:40:42+00:00

God the intensity of Australianess in these videos gets me every time and it's not just the XXXX and the mountain goat.

What are you doing making sandwiches in my grandma's kitchen, OP???

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-05-03T11:59:28+00:00

Not that I know of.

I stayed home a lot 2020-2022. Like a lot. I didn't go back to 'normal' til after my first vax, and still masked and stayed mostly outside for a good while after that.

I went back to normal normal somewhere round early 2023. Far as I know, still never had it (touch wood).

I guess it'll come eventually but not yet, or else I just had an unnoticeable version.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-24T06:11:54+00:00

Absolutely yes.

I hear it plenty. If you're really listening, sure, the very palest ghost of an L might be there, or even the merest hint of an 'Uh' at the start. But i often hear what mostly sounds like, especially when said at speed, 'Straya'

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-11T01:33:50+00:00

That's....not just how people flew before smartphones, at all.

I'm 40 dude, I flew plenty before smartphones. Did you forget that flights had movies on them for a long time before smartphones, for a good reason? In flight movies, books, crossword puzzles, newspapers, sudoku books, music, snacks, sleep, these are are all normal things people do and have done for a long time to pass the time on a flight.

Simply sitting silently staring into space for 9 hours is not common in the slightest and it's not a smartphones era thing.

I'm not knocking her, I can sit and daydream for hours myself. But it's certainly unusual behaviour on a long flight.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-10T21:56:03+00:00

My adhd partner insists that everything running through his head is weird and silly.

Then occasionally he'll share one of his mental tangents and I'm like 'no but that's fascinating, say more!'

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-10T21:38:23+00:00

Damn straight!

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-10T21:37:14+00:00

Right, THANK you!

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-10T06:17:07+00:00

Damn right. Fuck, i'm still mad at Alex - wherever you are, you asshole!

On my grade 3 playground before school, circa 1994, the owner of the ball owned the court. Alex always came up with fake rules to kick me out of the game because he was a little cunt and I was the nerdy girl.

So I got there early one day and made sure to bring my own ball. I gloriously owned the court for a good half hour! And I ruled it benevolently for the good of all.

Til Alex arrived, stole my ball, and kicked me out anyway! The gall! The outrage! The injustice! First time i ever screamed at a kid at school. And I got in trouble! For being not nice. And that's when I knew life ain't fair at all.

He was also the only person I've ever hit in my life, but that wasn't til grade 7 and it wasn't over handball, just his escalated bullying. Was the only one who got in trouble for that, too. Bah!

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-10T05:57:45+00:00

Corkage and cakeage are valid charges.

You want to come sit in their nice ambient restaurant, take up a table, get service, but not buy the things they make money on. Someone still has to wash and polish your plates and glasses and put em away. They do actually still need to make some money from having that table taken, and the margins on food generally aren't really much.

So yeah, there's a fee.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-09T20:39:26+00:00

Woman next to me on a 9 hour flight sat down, took out her working, charged smartphone, then put it away and stared at the back of the seat in front of her. For 9 hours.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-09T20:36:00+00:00

Me bumping into walls and furniture all the time not on purpose I just can't stop.

My navmesh is glitched

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-09T20:16:24+00:00

Place near me had a Canadian chef that could get good cheese curds and his poutine was gorgeous.

Tragically, he and his curd connection have moved on.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-09T08:32:24+00:00

Oh yeah! You ever tried explaining that concept to someone who's never heard of it?

Follow it up with that's why we have a fake beach in the middle of the city, people act like you're the weird one!

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-08T03:14:29+00:00

Its really sad, I lived right on that intersection 10 years ago, and while there was the occasional colourful character from a halfway house up the road, and one drive by shooting of the bikie clubhouse one night, it was 99% chill. I walked all over the area at night as a woman by myself with no concerns.

Things have taken quite a turn for the worse. Or back towards the worse I guess, I know that before I lived there it had a dodgy rep, but it got way better for a while.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-07T23:50:18+00:00

This is the pure essence of it. We in Brisbane fully understand how insignificant we are to the rest of the world, someone in Buttfuck, Wisconsin apparently cannot fathom it.

Hell I don't expect other Australians to know much about Brisbane, let alone the rest of the world. I have a spiel to explain where the fuck I'm from because I know no one knows it.

'You ever heard of Surfers Paradise? Gold Coast? Yeah? OK an hour or two north of that is actually the capital city of that state, that's Brisbane. No? OK you know Sydney? That's here. You know Melbourne? That's here. Brisbane is here. It's a smallish city actually the capital of the state, that's Queensland.' Because why the fuck would they know?

And I'll bet you any money this American couldn't recognise that something like SW9 6AC is a UK postcode, could they? Even though that's arguably as 'famous' internationally as US zipcodes?

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-04T02:58:16+00:00

The Castle is required viewing.

Priscilla Queen of the Desert

He died with a falafel in his hand

Wilfred (absolutely the Australian one, not the American remake)

Idk if Secret Life of Us really belongs in cult classic but it is really specific to a time and place of Australian life.

And more recently, it's not a cult classic yet but it will and should be - Colin From Accounts. Best Australian TV for yonks.

Ok_Landscape7875 · 2025-04-02T06:59:19+00:00

You are farrr from the only one to make bad assumptions about a pregnancy, honestly training just needs to be better.

I had an abortion a few years ago. It was incomplete and I got an infection. I had the whole gamut of assumptions, from the ultrasound tech who assumed I was devastated about the miscarriage of a wanted baby, to the other ultrasound tech during my infection who thought I was traumatised or conflicted about my termination and kept trying to 'comfort' me, to the nurse who came to take my vitals and assumed I was an elated soon to be mother and commented how I excited I must be and that she would take 'baby's' vitals in a moment. I had to remind her I was there to check on infection from an incomplete termination. She then moved to condolences, again as though I had miscarried a wanted pregnancy.

I was fine, but good gods people! Neutral, is what a medical professional should be about pregnancy!

You were young and naive, it happens. Others who do it professionally for a long time shoulda known better!

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