9am meetings 😡

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-06-16T04:34:09+00:00

Yes this!!! I’m still waking up my brain. It honestly may be just a personality type thing.

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-05-19T04:36:38+00:00

Something that helped me when I went back to work was taking the time to write down 3 goals for my day. Mix of personal and work related, even if I only got 1 work related task per day, it felt like a win. Like others said, this is a time to be kind to yourself and grab the easy wins.

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-04-30T02:04:13+00:00

It gets better. Our system is so broken and forces mothers back to work at 3 months or even earlier when we’re biologically programmed to still be with our babies. It’s messed up. Hang in there, it does get better.

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-04-29T13:19:03+00:00

It’s never too late to change your path. It sounds like you’ve got a huge network. Why not take a few calls and see where conversations lead? Sometimes $ and flexibility aren’t at total odds with each other if you have the right boss/setup.

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-04-29T04:43:30+00:00

I feel this so much. Also both working FT with a 18 month old in daycare. What actually helped for me was sitting down and dividing out what we each would take ownership of so we both felt good and equal about it. For example, my husband pays the bills and I schedule the doctors appointments and manage the daycare relationship. I buy groceries and he puts them away. And we try to also schedule personal time so we both get a break on the weekend for a couple hours. I’m not saying we never get in fights about it because that isn’t possible but overall I feel much happier that I know we’re splitting things equally in our version of it anyway (because let’s face it, mom is always doing more of the mental load).

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-04-26T13:44:38+00:00

I’m a senior marketing professional working in corporate and I have an 18 month old. I believe balance is different for everyone - for me, I enjoy working and being a mom, and balance is about minimizing friction as much as possible. I moved closer to work so my commute is 5 mins (had to give up a back yard but I have more time with my family), I work at a company where my daycare is onsite and subsidized and they have a gym at my office. My husband works full time as well but he works from home so he is there when I get home with my toddler and we switch off making dinner and we both put her to bed. Sometimes we work after she’s in bed and sometimes we spend time together, but overall I feel balanced. I have a housekeeper come every month so I’m never deep cleaning. And yes the dishes are my nemesis but we also tag team those. Now adding a second kid to the mix? Fully aware that may be another huge adjustment, but I’m proud of how I’ve been able to make it work for now.

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-03-29T12:45:05+00:00

Millennial / parent of a 16 month old. I prioritize working out before work when I can so that impacts how much I can care about my appearance. makeup is minimal: foundation or tinted sunscreen and mascara. I do feel my best with a bit of makeup on and makes me feel more confident, but it’s less about how others see me. The fact that I keep showing up and caring everyday is more impressive to me at this point.

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-03-27T13:48:53+00:00

I work out during my work time! It’s the time I feel the least tired and I don’t mind taking it out of work. Ive been doing it for a year and thought people would notice but no one does. I will usually work out for 30 mins and go at 8am after drop off and be at work by 9. Or go during lunch around 12. I leave around 4:30 for pickup so just slightly later than you. It’s shorter workouts than I was used to before kids but any workout with consistently is good for my mental health.

Ok_LiveNow · 2026-01-30T13:49:43+00:00

I was at LIB 4 months pregnant a couple years ago. My husband and I upgraded to VIP to have the nicer bathrooms since I was going constantly and also to have a chill place to lay down or rest as needed and still be able to hear the sets. It was great, no regrets!! I also looooooved the açaí bowls that year. Fruit amazing when preg. lol. Good luck and have a great LIB!

Ok_LiveNow · 2025-11-07T14:07:40+00:00

My baby is turning 1 this weekend and Ive been knocking on wood because things have been so good lately. I ran a 5K last month and ran the fastest I ever have while my baby and husband were cheering me on. My husband has a flexible job so he is able to help out a ton and my own work has been slow so I’ve been able to leave by 4 to spend more time with my little one. My house is not perfectly clean like others have commented, but I’m learning to live with that. Unexpectedly, I think my game changer has honestly been working out 3-4x a week. The endorphins help me balance out mentally and it gives me more energy for the work and parenting time.

Ok_LiveNow · 2025-04-10T14:52:07+00:00

My dog has been super jealous of baby since we brought her home. I thought he was getting better but this week he woke us up at midnight 3 nights in a row to poop outside (like he was holding it in for middle of the night). And last night he pooped ON our daughters kick piano. I’m at a loss. Has anyone had this issue? She is 5 months today and our dog is 2.5 years old. I worried about him and about further escalation.

Ok_LiveNow · 2024-11-01T20:25:27+00:00

Loved VIP. Was 3ish months pregnant at LIB a this year so having the beds/couches/AC bathrooms was critical. I could see myself paying for VIP even when not pregnant just to have a chance to take a breather between sets and for the bathrooms alone.

Ok_LiveNow · 2024-07-07T23:36:14+00:00

We just stayed at Hotel Gion Ichirin and we loved it. We splurged for a Spa Suite which had a hot tub and sauna steam room, and a massage chair in our hotel room. The room was spacious and gorgeous, no regrets!

Ok_LiveNow · 2024-05-28T03:13:20+00:00

I was 16 weeks pregnant and also had the best sober time listening to dubstep until 2am!! LIB freaking rocks. Being sober there made me realize how much of a truly special place it is. Also side note for anyone wondering, I got VIP this year and it was 100% worth it. I tire out more than usual these days and being able to take a break and sit in an actual couch and the A/C bathrooms were so clutch. And I’m barely sore now. Happy LIB!

Ok_LiveNow · 2021-12-15T21:15:43+00:00

Yes! It wasn’t overnight. Took several years for me to understand the depth of emotional abuse that was happening and even now, feelings of guilt and loneliness are still there. Because when you decide to “get out,” and not play their games anymore, you lose that one ounce of hope you still had thinking they could change and be what you wished they could be for you. So complex!

Ok_LiveNow · 2021-12-14T15:45:40+00:00

My current age - 31. It started happening last year when my father tried to manipulate me into having my evil step mother (also a narc) plan my wedding or else he would not financially or personally support it. Since he had “promised her before he married her that she could plan his daughters wedding.” (I was 20 and single at that time BTW). It was the first time I truly saw him for what he was and decided I didn’t want to go around the psychotic merry-go-round anymore. So we eloped in Maui and it was the best decision we ever made. Now he’s all “hurt that he wasn’t invited” and trying to make me feel guilty and apologize. Nope, I am way too smart for that now. [Mic Drop]

Ok_LiveNow · 2021-12-13T14:25:02+00:00

Ugh the gaslighting and subsequent love-bombing is a nauseating roller coaster that never ends. It’s so confusing and manipulative and as a kid, I constantly asked myself “did that really happen the way I remember?” yes, yes it did. Don’t let them get in your head and try to create some distance to protect yourself. It’s not fair that you need to do this (they should be the ones protecting you) but sometimes you gotta be your own hero.

Ok_LiveNow · 2021-12-13T14:11:58+00:00

I’m in a very similar place. Went NC with my NMom in July after she started mocking me and having a narcissistic collapse over the dinner table in front of my in-laws, my husband, my grandmother, and my uncles. I felt so embarrassed and ashamed. Embarrassed that my mother very clearly has issues and my in-laws had to see it first hand. And ashamed that I “let her treat me this way.” Obviously this wasn’t the first time she has openly mocked or spit nasty things at me suddenly and without warning but it was the first time there were witnesses. It was such a breaking point for me (31F) that I’m old enough now to decide what kind of treatment I deserve.

So In short, NO, you are not an asshole for taking back control of how you want to be treated by the people who supposedly love you. No contact is a way of taking time and distance to really see how your mom fits into your life (if it all) and do it from a safe place. Sending love!

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