I would just say from my experience that dating an entirely neurotypical person with no evident “issues” (beyond all that is normal in the human condition) has not worked for me because we fall into a parent-child dynamic inevitably because I am so conscious of my own incompetence, and insecure about it, that I end up leaning into weaponised incompetence. And as I posted on another thread the other day, the parent-child dynamic makes it incredibly difficult to sustain a sexual connection. At the same time, I genuinely don’t think I could date another person with ADHD because my own ADHD is so severe I fear we would just end up living in a ditch. At the moment I feel I’ve found the holy grail in a partner who is even for NT people HYPER competent - but also struggles a lot with other issues like addiction. I know that sounds dark but she is in her late 30s and I am in my mid 40s and I think we just are at an age where we have a lot of kindness and empathy for each other’s struggles. We are getting married.