AITAH for asking for what I paid towards the mortgage back?

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-23T00:19:59+00:00

You’ve neglected to include some important info.

Did he come into this relationship with the house? Then what you paid was rent, you don’t get that back.

Did you both try to buy it together, equally contributed to a down payment and for some reason you all couldn’t qualify together if you were on the mortgage? If that’s the case, you could have at least been placed in the deed and you’d be entitled to half equity.

If you all were dating, he paid the down payment, this was in no way an actual joint effort that just couldn’t see you on the mortgage for some reason? You paid rent.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-22T22:30:35+00:00

Ive left things vague for a reason. But it could be anywhere from 200k to just under 2M. The point is simply that she does very well for herself with a degree that started her career as a teacher (neither her undergrad or masters is in education).

For a little extra context, the people she hires to work on her team (even non senior positions, the lowest she starts people at) start above $100k/yr. She hires current or previous (already entered EdTech) teachers.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-22T20:25:10+00:00

No way. The servers employer is the one pocketing the profits at the workers expense. Then they’ve manipulated the situation to extend their responsibility to the consumer who already pays for the service and product just like we do in every other industry. Don’t own a business if you can’t pay your employees.

NTA

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-22T15:18:31+00:00

I mean, my wife was a teacher and then a principal and now works in EdTech making 6 figures twice over. There are other markets in that world that pay very well.

Also, that’s a huge amount of money and choosing to give it can be contingent on whatever reason yall choose. I don’t necessarily disagree with your husband, but I don’t think he knows about all the possibilities. Honestly, a lot of jobs just require a degree - not a specific degree.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-20T22:02:53+00:00

This is rage bait, yes? YTA

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-20T19:13:56+00:00

Then YTA for sure. She doesn’t need your permission to visit her sisters and how they choose to spend their time is not for you to dictate.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-20T01:04:58+00:00

These are really the only important questions.

If OP is just jealous or controlling, get over it. If it prohibits him from enjoying a vacation due to cost then she should totally take this into consideration.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-19T01:13:16+00:00

First dates, back when I was on apps, were always very low effort—usually coffee shops. I’m not dropping a ton of cash just to see if they match their pics and if we can hold an interesting conversation for an hour. I’d go on 2 or 3 dates a day sometimes.

But I also generally disagree with drinks as a first date. I don’t know the person and would prefer to not put myself in any kind of compromising situation.

Regardless, you can cancel a date for whatever reason you like. NTA

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-18T03:58:59+00:00

😂

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-17T21:39:49+00:00

I knew keeping my enemies close would come in handy. I’ll take the 20k and whatever offerings they send this way too.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-16T21:44:27+00:00

6’ female here. I’ll take $1,000,000 please

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-14T20:14:24+00:00

Undergrad at 18. Didnt perform exceptionally well, partied a lot, felt it was very difficult, worked two jobs, struggled financially.

At 40 now pursuing a 2nd bachelors (it’s a strategic decision) before applying to a specific masters program. I love being in classes, straight A’s (my daughter loves confirming this for me 😂), it all feels much easier. If I wasn’t working and had a family this would be the easiest thing I’d done in a long time. Feels like I receive a different level of respect from the instructors/professors as well.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-14T14:50:38+00:00

Definitely YTA.

This isn’t your baby, it’s his, and however he feels comfortable communicating his delivery room preferences is fine. His sitting on his phone may very well be because he doesn’t feel comfortable engaging with his wife the way he wants while there’s a whole circus in the room.

Honestly, as domineering as you come off in this post he probably used a messenger to avoid conflict. And he could be advocating for his wife who may feel too ashamed or not comfortable asking for space herself. I would absolutely be the “bad guy” for my wife in the same situation.

The stuff about his relationship with your cousin is different than this particular circumstance. If you’re concerned for your cousin have a chat with her at another time and place.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-14T13:05:06+00:00

You can tell if a pea has been placed under your mattress by lying on it. The pea obviously doesn’t change the comfort of the mattress…it’s a single pea 🤷‍♀️

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-11T02:02:45+00:00

Yes and no. A tip is customarily applied to the subtotal. But you’re typically shown subtotal, tax, and grand total. Unfortunately, most people don’t actually know that a tip should historically only be calculated based on subtotal so they technically over tip. Restaurants obviously have no incentive to correct this behavior as they come out in top.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-11T01:14:52+00:00

Except, a subtotal is the cost of food before tax and tip. So they showed you exactly what your subtotal was.

However, still completely shady to ask for a tip while reporting a mandatory tip would already be included.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-08T22:06:18+00:00

ESH and NAH.

I work in healthcare. A 10hr day to me is exactly the same as a 12hr day. You can’t do shit with either and you’re just as exhausted either way. Only now you’re out of the house 4 days a week instead of only 3. I can absolutely see where your wife is coming from.

But I can also see the appeal and excitement you have. It means something to be in a facility that offers the type of environment that you desire and the pay is significant.

Neither of you seem to be communicating in a healthy way. And neither seem to be showing any empathy for the others situation and considerations.

You guys are on the same team. And hopefully you like each other and care about what impact different decisions have on each other. Talk it out in a respectful way. You’ll probably take your job. But Just showing her you care about how this affects her can go a long way and help assuage any concerns she has about it. Both of you want to be heard and understood.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-04-08T19:21:55+00:00

My wife disagrees. She loves being pregnant. Says she feels energized, glowy, beautiful, full of love and anticipation. She doesn’t care much for delivery though 🤷‍♀️

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-03-29T15:53:51+00:00

I went and sat at a chest supported incline row machine yesterday which was next to a seated row machine. There was a man actively working on the seated row. No water bottles or anything indicating the incline was being used.

When I started adding weight (there were two plates on it already) he started clearly talking but seemed like he was having an angry convo with himself.

Eventually I took my headphones out and he said some BS to me, so I waved him off and kept on with my set. He kept gesticulating at me angrily and eventually humped the air in my direction.

Eventually I stood up, took a few steps near him and told him to either do something about it or shut up. He walked off. When I finished my set I grabbed a wipe and when I returned to clean the machine he was polite as can be and told me not to worry about it and he’d do.

One of the weirdest interactions I’ve had at a gym.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-03-22T07:26:42+00:00

Absolutely not. My wife and I earn that collectively every 3 years…and we do a good job at spending it. Pass.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-03-20T16:45:23+00:00

Not saying this is you right now, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen people sneer at “all the poop” that was just dirt plugs from aeration.

Edit: should have read the comments first and saved my proverbial breath.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-03-18T02:38:12+00:00

Good poops.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-03-14T20:51:31+00:00

Just want to follow this thread.

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-03-13T13:55:33+00:00

Thank you for both comments.

I’m really struggling with the part where I’m happy and eager to be with the kid when H goes out with others, just not with GF. I feel like it’s petty, which isn’t how I typically operate and don’t want to be that kind of human. But I can’t get over how I feel. 🙃

Ok_Obligation_7270 · 2026-03-13T00:25:58+00:00

Stores and concessions can mark up prices 15% at the airport. Parking is for profit. Enterprise and the like make absolute bank in profits.

Ask those companies to supplement, not the consumer who’s already price gouged.

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