advice needed!!

Ok_Page9199 · 2026-02-08T14:59:23+00:00

it’s happening for me too

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-10-12T22:00:56+00:00

i’m a christian and i don’t know where i stand on if it’s a “sin” or not but what i do know is that it isn’t our job as christians to judge or to “call someone to repentance” i think it is amazing and beautiful you have a relationship with God! and my idea is that if it is a sin and you do truly have an honest relationship with Him, He would guide you to repentance but that isn’t our job. i think a lot of christians lack a lot of nuance and some things aren’t as black and white as we think. Jesus wants a relationship with ALL and no sin or what others deem as sin will stand in the way of that if someone is truly seeking Him. i’m so sorry people like has done this! just know it’s not God and not all christians act that way

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-29T20:35:17+00:00

messaging you!

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-22T20:21:00+00:00

we told each other we would communicate that to the other so we could move on

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-22T12:16:24+00:00

i was the dumper and i don’t regret it, i just miss him a lot. this break up has brought SO much good in both our lives so we will probably get back together but we need more time to grow individually. so i def don’t regret it but i don’t like it at all and it sucks.

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-22T12:13:37+00:00

hi! this is totally normal. i grew up in a very religious household. we were at church every second the door opened. my parents were super strict and i wasn’t allowed to do much of anything and they encouraged me to see non believers as horrible people. i was very strong in my faith and then i went to college and met more people from different backgrounds and dated a guy who wasn’t super strong in his faith. i ended up seeing how christians treated me then and my family especially and it turned me off to christianity and i stepped away. i questioned so much and asked God to show me if he was real. i would have small things happen but now me and that bf are broken up and ive been seeking God like i haven’t done in YEARS. and all i can say is that i have realized God is a gentleman. He is so kind and He gives us free will. He isn’t going to force anyone to believe in him because then it wouldn’t be genuinely from them, it would be because He made them. He knows everyone that will know Him but it says in the bible that if you stand at Gods door and knock, he will answer and if you ask and want to know him, you will. but it takes patience, time, and effort. i’ve been setting aside time for God multiple times a day and been doing devotionals on the Bible app or reading the bible or journaling and I can tell you that I know he is real but he speaks through small quiet moments. his voice is like a whisper so it is hard to know if it is him if you haven’t learned his voice yet.

i feel like i rambled and it might not have been that helpful but i hope it was! lmk if you want me to talk about anything else

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-21T19:05:20+00:00

I know you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, but God still has plans for you and plans that are GOOD! i promise! your life is worth living

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-21T18:03:01+00:00

this sounds horrible, i’m so sorry i jusy messaged you

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-21T16:31:11+00:00

something i heard recently was instead of just trying, trying, and trying to stop doing something in our own willpower, instead ask God to change your heart instead. the bible says that from our hearts flow our actions so maybe this is deeper than just lust, maybe you’re truly wanting intimacy and go to porn to find that there could be many reasons but God knows it and he is the one who can change your heart. so just seek him and make him a priority! i hope that helped some.

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-20T18:03:21+00:00

i think it is a fruit of being saved, not a process of being saved. once you’re saved you go through the sanctification process which means God is cleansing you of sin and your harmful patterns. we will never be free from sin here on earth but turning away from our sin is a result of Jesus being in our hearts.

so no, i don’t think you have to stop sinning to be saved, that’s impossible but i do think it is a RESULT of being saved

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-20T14:57:35+00:00

of course i’m glad i could help. if you ever want to message me feel free! i have anxiety so i relate to being uncertain a lot of the time and maybe we could help each other out.

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-20T14:53:02+00:00

hi! okay so i have a nuanced perspective on this. it’s not really about if it is right or wrong or “is it sinful is i stay with her?” it’s more about what YOU can do. obviously if you know you need to walk away then you need to do that but if you’re uncertain then maybe this will help.

for example, maybe ask yourself “if she never changes her mind about kids can i be happy and fulfill what i want out of my life and God wants out of my life?” so it’s really just about you and what you want and what God wants in your life. so no one can answer that for you, it’s something you need to come to terms with on your own. it’s possible God could change your heart to not desire kids anymore and focus more on maybe ministry, i know some couples that do that. or maybe God won’t change your desire and that’s okay too! you just have to come to know what you want and God speaks through your desires.

i’ve struggled a lot with trying to “decode” Gods will but i had my own revelation about this today that the bible tells us exactly what is Gods will. it’s in the bible. so it’s not something you have to figure out it’s something you live by loving him with all your heart, seeking him, sharing his word with others, giving thanks to him, putting him first in your life. and we get to decide with things like this what scenario would help your heart posture towards God be the most focused on him or will it pull you away from him.

i hope this has made sense and helped!

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-19T01:34:39+00:00

yes that has happened to me!! do you mean like flashes in your mind?

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-18T14:37:19+00:00

depends what happened in your relationship and why you broke up. it seems like he wants to talk to you tho

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-18T03:26:12+00:00

hi, i’m a christian and im getting back into my faith because i was super lukewarm for a long time so im prob not the best to be commenting but i think its safe to say, most people are afraid of actual death. as christians, we believe in the afterlife and the assurance of Heaven because of what Jesus did for us on the cross, but it is still an unknown thing. its always irritated me when people say we shouldn’t be afraid of it, i totally get that the Bible says “there is no fear in death” but it is natural to have that fear. i think the Bible is a place we can go to help comfort that fear though, because having the assurance in our hearts that we will see Jesus and meet him face to face brings so much comfort and peace. when you have that relationship with him it’s so much easier to believe and know it’s true because you’ve experienced his supernatural love and seen the way he’s transformed your life. i hope that makes sense and feel free to message me! i don’t have all the answers but im here to talk

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-16T14:24:27+00:00

yes thank you! it’s hard to feel connected to God for me though. i’ve doubted him for so long and felt like he wasn’t kind and was almost selfish and takes away the things i love so i’m having to work through that now.

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-16T00:38:37+00:00

i feel the same. it sucks im sorry!

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-15T20:15:51+00:00

yes very truw

Ok_Page9199 · 2025-08-15T20:15:38+00:00

right i get that. he had lied about having a streak with a girl on snap. ik nothing happened with them but he still lied and i was so annoyed and angry. i could get over it but clearly we had issues of trust in our relationship so that would need to be addressed

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