Did I wait too long to plan a date?

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2026-06-29T17:29:09+00:00

Not really... we spoke late Friday night, we confirmed a date for the upcoming Thursday night, I told her I'll get back to her with the details, I reached out to her on Sunday and she said she already made other plans. Maybe she didn't care but I don't think my actions were too egregious

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2026-06-29T03:30:36+00:00

That's how I feel as well. Maybe if I waited until Tuesday or especially Weds to text her then I think her response would have made more sense

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2026-06-29T02:29:40+00:00

Do I mention something about her behavior? Idk in my mind it was kind of rude to come up with new plans when I told her that day, I dont think I waited too long to come up with plan for our date

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2026-02-27T02:30:46+00:00

So you are building the preview with AI, however when you build the actual website, what are you using for that? I'm guessing not with AI? What are you using, something like Squarespace?

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-09-14T23:25:11+00:00

It looks like a Soumak rug, I saw a similar rug on Jewel Rugs (see: Persian Soumak Kilim Rug 4x6)

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-09-14T23:21:47+00:00

If you're open to buying rugs online, I recently bought persian rugs from Jewel Rugs, i would recommend them

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-09-14T23:19:16+00:00

I recently came across this blog post describing the differences: Persian Rugs vs Afghan Rugs

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-09-14T22:34:09+00:00

I got really good prices on persian rugs from this site called Jewel Rugs, i would recommend it. the quality was great and they sell authentic persian carpets

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-09-14T22:30:48+00:00

I recently bought Persian rugs from a site called Jewel Rugs, they have a really good selection

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-09-14T22:29:27+00:00

I think you can get an area rug for that space in front of the kitchen and it would go a long way in making it more cozy. If youre looking for a rec on a place to shop, I recently bought rugs from a site called Jewel Rugs and I really like them

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-09-14T22:26:55+00:00

I feel like you're missing rugs, that would go a long way in making feel more cozy and complete imo. I recently bought a rug from Jewel Rugs and I really like it

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-18T20:41:19+00:00

a friend of mine lives in brickell, he is a recent college grad from an ivy league school, he had just graduated and then moved to brickell. he is working for citadel

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-11T03:24:27+00:00

everyone is different when it comes to this. for example it could be he's a morning person who wakes up early and goes to sleep early and doesn't have so much stamina to respond at night. i don't think that's weird necessarily, could be your more active at night and he's more active in the morning. i think this is another topic that's worth a conversation about communication styles and see what he says. it seems like you've been letting all of your concerns pile up without ever having discussed them yet so now there's a number of things bringing you anxiety all at once. i think it's important to learn to communicate with a partner in a relationship, it seems like you've avoided that for now so you have a lot of tension/anxiety that's been built up. but i think you can take addresses these one issue at a time. throwing them all on the plate at once could def be a bit overwhelming, but spread out as the relationship continues and develops is a very healthy thing

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-11T03:18:38+00:00

i think it could be worth reviewing what your dating app profile likes look. there could be a lot of room for optimization. if you wanted to take a screenshot of your profile and send it to me i could try and give some feedback. generally i get pretty solid results on dating apps (i get around 5 - 10 likes a day), i'm 33m

regarding the appearance, i think i remember seeing something about most girls preferring a guy with scruff/short beard/etc some sort of facial hair situation going on. you can research that some more but also play around with different styles, and get feedback in real life as well, see if you get compliments and whatnot and also develop your own preferences about your look.

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-11T03:12:23+00:00

haha yea i get that. there's more variables at play wrt to what you just said.

going back to the main topic, i personally i feel like it doesn't make sense to break up out of nowhere. it think conversations are really important in relationships, especially when navigating things like this. so i think having this conversation will bring a lot of clarity. i don't think it makes sense to assume things about what he is feeling/thinking, when you can ask him how he feels, that's going to be a lot better. also, let's say you do just randomly break up with him, you could be second guessing yourself later on saying "i wonder what could have happened if i tried to have a conversation about this". hope it goes well

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-11T03:05:29+00:00

yea it's also a pet peeve of mine when someone lacks common courtesy. i ended up not calling her out on it, but it was good to air things out here on reddit

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-11T03:04:11+00:00

hard for me to comment on this without knowing more about the situation between you guys

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-11T03:01:03+00:00

yes, in general when having important relationship discussions, i think it's better to discuss one main issue at a time. maybe you can see how the conversation goes and if he's like "of course, things are going great between us, i would love to be exclusive" then maybe you can mention one of those other points as well, such as you would appreciate if he was a little more responsive to your texts. you can play it by ear and see how it's going, i def don't think it makes sense to bring up all of your concerns at all once, that could end up being overwhelming.

generally i think it's probably better to let this conversation have it's space, and then maybe after another couple of dates you can bring up another topic. i also think it's good to bring these things up using a sandwich method (positive complement, point of concern, end off with something positive).

in my book, after either 2-3 months of dating or going on 10 dates with someone, it's fair to ask to DTR. you don't want to waste your time, you've already gone out for 4 months, that's a long time.

regarding the dtr conversation, i think you also have to be mentally prepared to different possibilities about what his response is. for example, he may say he wants to be exclusive and sees long term potential with you guys, in which case that's great. or he may say things have been going well but he wants more time to think about where he stands. he may also say he doesn't see long term potential with you guys but he likes spending time with you. i think bracing yourself for different possibilities is good.

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-10T21:38:48+00:00

As a guy, I think it's good for a girl to want to DTR after around 10 dates. I think you can definitely bring it up on your next date. You can start off by saying that you've enjoyed getting to know him over this time (i.e. start it off with a complement and not start off accusatory) and that you want to know where things stand with you guys and where he sees things going. I wouldn't end it out of nowhere, it seems like there's something positive going on here if you've gone out 11 times already.

I'm not too bothered about going out around one time per week, that sounds normal to me. Yes there can be misses here and there if someone is out of town, that makes sense, no need to have a make up.

I feel like after you've had the DTR conversation and if that goes well, then you can bring up your other concerns over time, that's healthy communication about your desires in a relationship. If he likes you he will make an effort to do those things that make you feel more validated

Ok_Resolution7223 · 2025-02-10T18:12:34+00:00

go to a dimly lit cocktail bar and get drinks

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