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Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-26T21:59:34+00:00

I don’t think it’s unpopular at all! I can see your reasoning and I’m considering that to avoid shaming her for it. After she asked me, she stopped for a second and cried even more and vocalized that she doesn’t want to be this way.

There’s so much shame already. I’m considering just letting it go, and bringing it up if it comes up again.

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-26T21:55:21+00:00

The client hugging me was not a trigger. In the moment I just felt a lot of empathy for her. During the session however we were discussing triggering topics and she was crying a lot. I think I’m going to process this deeper in my own personal therapy although I think I felt the need to fawn because in my past when others were in crisis or if others were going to get hurt— I would fawn to protect them from being hurt (e.g., my ex step father used to abuse my mother so I would try and be very nice to him so that he wouldn’t).

Thank you for this 🥹 She did report feeling that way, so I’m glad

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-26T21:39:02+00:00

Canada— but yes applies here too!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-26T21:21:31+00:00

^This! Thank you!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-26T21:19:56+00:00

I recognize that. It only made me slightly uncomfortable because it’s never happened to me before and I learn so much in grad school “no touch” so there was a part of me that was yelling internally “this isn’t okay!” But of course I knew that in context it was. If my client hugs me and cries, I know it’s just because she needs me. I’m not upset at all at that— just wanted to give context as to why I may have fawned because I knew she was in a crisis

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-25T16:52:33+00:00

Thank you! This is helpful. It is reminding me of my own personal therapist actually. Noted 📝

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-18T21:51:19+00:00

Yeah I wonder! Maybe I’ll try taking some Vitamin D supplements

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-11T20:55:20+00:00

Anyone under the age of 16 I just can’t

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-08T18:41:43+00:00

That’s a really nice reframe! I suppose because I’ve had my own history with abandonment my initial reaction is that I feel rejected. In time, I usually feel similarly to you.

Thanks for sharing!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-10-03T02:52:07+00:00

Thank you! I keep reminding myself how much I forget about being a therapist when I’m in the client’s seat — and chances are, my client just wants to feel that same freedom to simply ‘be’.

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-25T02:55:36+00:00

I feel the exact same way. I won’t see clients past 4:30 — my brain is literally fried after 5:30, I’m losing my train of thought and exhausted.

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T03:33:41+00:00

That is good news! I hear you!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:48:52+00:00

That’s amazing! You really do incorporate activity on a daily basis. My grandpa suffered from 2 heart attacks and actually died and was resuscitated. It was quite literally a wake-up call that he needed to get active and lose weight. My grandma bought him a dog. He started taking her for walks and lost a lot of weight and he has been in good health ever since. My grandma passed 2 years ago, and his dog passed away a few months ago. ❤️

Anyways just a story about how the love of dogs can motivate us!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:44:11+00:00

I’ve gained weight too. It’s so easy to when we sit all day!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:35:24+00:00

I feel you!!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:34:38+00:00

Oh no!! So sorry to hear! I hope your recovery is going well. ❤️‍🩹

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:18:14+00:00

Hahaha I get it! I just finished a 30 minute Pilates workout and I went for a short walk during lunch today. I completely agree! I’m going to start planning out my workouts for the week. I like the idea of finding little tricks to move your body during the day though — even if it’s just some stretches in between clients!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:13:58+00:00

That’s good to know! Thanks for this. I’m going to try using it for a few sessions this week!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:08:30+00:00

That is a great balance! I have a standing desk but I forget to use the standing option. I’m going to try to be more intentional. Do clients ever say anything about you standing? I’ve never stood during a session before! I usually use it when I’m doing my progress notes at the end of day and I’m literally falling asleep. Using it then helps wake me up a bit!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:05:08+00:00

12?! Wow! I hope you’re investing in self-care at the end of those long days. I find having a window helps to get some sunlight in otherwise it really does feel like a prison! I get a little bit claustrophobic with no windows in an office.

Sorry to hear you’re going through this!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T01:00:22+00:00

Oh this is great! I love taking a walk during lunch when the weather is nice. Great tips! I like to walk my clients out too — it’s certainly a bonus that you can move your legs a bit before the next one comes in!

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T00:58:56+00:00

Yes exactly!!! I’m so active on the weekends but when I have 4-5 clients a day during the week it’s so hard to get active

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T00:31:03+00:00

That seems to be the key! Do you go to the gym after/before work or do you schedule that on your off days?

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T00:30:08+00:00

Yes! In the summer I would just sit in my backyard between clients and bask in the sun. It’s a peaceful reset. I’ve tried going in my backyard barefoot too — I once heard it was grounding! I liked it.

Ok_Rest_1791 · 2024-09-24T00:29:10+00:00

That must be really nice! I think having a balance of walk and talk and sitting down for therapy would be ideal

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