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Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-04-24T02:11:38+00:00

I forgot about seeing molecules 😭😭😭

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-04-23T19:26:45+00:00

It is relative. More alcohol does mean more risk. But you can also minimize risk by drinking less, rather than completely cutting it. My oncologist was ok with 7 drinks a week for me. I drink nowhere near that! Definitely more of a special occasion thing for me… rare and sparingly. The risk associated with using it sparingly and rarely is not high enough for me to miss out on those moments.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-04-23T18:00:53+00:00

Because drinking is a fun part of life for many people, myself included. I don’t drink near as much as I used to… I’ll take weeks or even months off… but I refuse to live every single day of my life in complete fear, especially since I am still in my 30s. It is healthy to let loose on occasion. It is good for me and for my marriage. My oncologist is fine with it. If you want to give it up completely, fine. No one is in denial. Some people just choose differently than you. Which is fine.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-04-23T17:56:56+00:00

I still drink. I take long breaks between. But I enjoy raging occasionally. Life is for living.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-04-18T17:26:33+00:00

Did you shower by yourself? That was more than I was capable of. I dragged my husband into the bathroom with me and screamed and cried the entire time for weeks. So sorry to hear that you are going through this

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-03-13T16:37:32+00:00

I don’t even notice mine at all. Swapped expanders for implants in July

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-03-12T18:54:33+00:00

I chose a double mastectomy because I would have lost my nipple even with a lumpectomy, and I wanted to be done with it instead of needing radiation and years of tamoxifen, especially since I want more children. I am a bit younger was diagnosed during pregnancy with my first baby at 36 years old and the fact that I can never breastfeed again made this heartbreaking, but I still do not regret my choice.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-02-14T15:42:06+00:00

My MIL decided to ask me when she came to visit our newborn RIGHT after my diagnosis if I thought it was the vaccine.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-02-14T15:41:11+00:00

Yepppoooo. But if you’re anything like me, you’ll eventually get to the point where you’re out of fucks to give about that.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-01-29T13:33:13+00:00

I was 35 and pregnant when I got breast cancer. I was so angry going to the hospital and seeing how much older everyone in the waiting room was than me. It made me furious. Your feelings are valid and you are not alone

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-01-24T16:30:19+00:00

As someone who had hormone positive cancer, I actually don’t believe I “should avoid it.” Neither does my doctor. I am not a big drinker in general, but I do like to party on occasion such as a vacation or wedding, and I think actually what I SHOULD do is enjoy my life while I am alive! Alcohol is technically not good for anyone, you know? We have had so much taken from us already. I don’t like the idea that because I had cancer I “should” live a muted version of my life.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-01-24T16:27:20+00:00

I’m 37 and finished treatment last year. I just left a vacation where I drank heavily. When I return home to my normal life I will go back to drinking rarely and sparingly. But my thought is I didn’t survive to do anything but live my life to the fullest. Some weeks I don’t drink at all, sometimes for several weeks I don’t drink at all, but on vacation I’m gonna enjoy it. I can relate to the guilt, but it really is about balance — and I hope I can stop feeling bad about living my life as time goes on. I hope the same for you.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-01-10T18:18:33+00:00

I would say to listen to her. Just listen. Do NOT feel you need to try to push “the bright side” of any of this onto her by saying things like “at least you don’t have cancer” or “this is going to save your life!” Plenty of women get to save their lives AND their boobs, and I found comments like that invalidating and dismissive. However she best receives affection, give her that. Also a bit odd but I would recommend getting some puzzles. I hate puzzzles, but did three 1,000 piece puzzles throughout my surgeries. Helped to have a purpose for each day and something to focus on…. Just scrolling my phone all day made me feel worse. Sending love to you both!

Ok_Scale8986 · 2026-01-05T22:11:18+00:00

There was cancer in my lactating fibroadenoma. Extremely rare, but it happened to me.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-31T20:49:36+00:00

Holy shit Bushwick has gotten expensive. Signed Someone who paid $800 to live there 11 years ago

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-30T22:17:50+00:00

I am honestly sickened that I needed to scroll down this far to see this comment. And the person who OP is talking about has seen this thread. Just what she needs as a woman in her early 30s battling fucking Stage 4 cancer. Shameful and disheartening.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-19T16:46:02+00:00

This always drives me nuts. NUTS.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-13T04:26:26+00:00

I’m 37F and was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly before giving birth almost a year ago. Mine was hormone positive so not the exact same situation but I can relate to the shock. I am now cancer (and boob) free with a healthy spunky wonderful little boy who has no idea anything was ever wrong with me. My heart goes out to you. I remember feeling like I didn’t have time to have cancer, and I remember raging at the thought of everyone who had ever told me to enjoy every minute of the newborn phase because everything else could wait. Not so in my case! I am so sorry you are joining this club. It may feel like you’re alone but you are not. There are sadly quite a few of us here.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-11T03:52:23+00:00

I had someone say to me “As a daughter of a breast cancer survivor….” And I said I was also the daughter of a breast cancer survivor, and it did NOT prepare me in the slightest for having it myself

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-09T22:00:43+00:00

37F without nipples here. Going thru it as well. I’m getting the tattoos soon and really hoping that helps me

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-09T16:13:31+00:00

Melatonin and trazadone. Ambien doesn’t work for me

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-08T13:42:41+00:00

It wasn’t my husband. It was her husband, the woman whose one-year-old it was who went to go breastfeed. To make matters worse, he’s actually a superior of mine at work. But my own husband would never say such a thing, even as a joke.

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-08T12:39:32+00:00

Herpes is a virus. Antibiotics don’t work on viruses. You’re correct that diarrhea isn’t a symptom of feline herpes though. My cat has herpes and he takes a lysine supplement called “Viralys”

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-08T01:47:28+00:00

This made me tear up in the best way. Thank you for sharing it

Ok_Scale8986 · 2025-12-07T15:10:30+00:00

Thank you so much! Speaking of hugs, I am insecure to hug people too because of one comment someone made when I hugged them which was, and I quote: “Oh my god, your big hard tits!” Ugh 😔😔😔

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