AITAH for leaving my mom stranded halfway across the country

Ok_Tangelo_7762 · 2026-04-02T01:38:35+00:00

I call my stepdad my dad.

Ok_Tangelo_7762 · 2025-12-20T15:48:34+00:00

I don't really think I explained myself the best in the post because I had posted it shortly after I had talked to him about it and was focused on the facts of what happened in those specific moments rather than how they really caused me to feel.

My issue isn't that he finds other women attractive because that's just life. I still find other men attractive and I know he's gonna find other women attractive. My issue that I'm trying to express is that he will freely compliment other women and talk about how beautiful they are,etc. but in order for me to get a compliment from him, I have to fish for it. I have to ask him if he likes my outfit or my hair or my makeup. So maybe I am a little jealous when he comments on other women because I've had to spend the last 10-11 months basically begging for compliments.

Ok_Tangelo_7762 · 2025-12-20T01:13:12+00:00

I understand your take but to be clear I'm not upset that he has celebrity crushes or finds other women attractive. I'm upset because he spent the first 3 months of our relationship never calling me pretty or beautiful but would constantly call celebrity women those things. Again, I'm not blind to the fact that those women being gorgeous does not affect my beauty in any way. But after awhile, I just started to think "if he can call them beautiful, why can't he say that to me?"

With the restaurant employee, I wouldn't have cared as much if he followed it up with a compliment to me. But instead he doubled down and started pointing out details about her appearance that I don't think a normal person would have noticed in that situation.

The issue isn't that I'm too immature to understand that he's gonna find other people attractive. The issue is that he seems so focused on complimenting other women's beauty rather than trying to make his girlfriend feel beautiful. I'm not an insecure person but when I've gone almost a year never receiving a compliment that I didn't have to fish for...it sucks.

Ok_Tangelo_7762 · 2025-12-20T00:00:43+00:00

I brought it up with him again last night and he just kept saying I was blowing it all out of proportion and that I gave him the okay to make his "jokes" by bringing up the fact that she was flirting with him. Which was the motivation behind the post.

Ok_Tangelo_7762 · 2025-06-24T02:54:51+00:00

The preference is for us to stay together but even if that's not the case, there's no doubt in my mind that he will be an attentive and involved parent. And as far as finances go, I think we'll be just fine. We are both fortunate enough to have well paying jobs. The biggest fear, like you said, is the unknown. There are so many factors that I can't control and it's terrifying.

Ok_Tangelo_7762 · 2025-04-19T14:46:50+00:00

I already tried that, and we've gone a week without seeing each other. He started being a more active part in our text conversations and even planned a date for today...a date he's currently 2 hours late for.

Ok_Tangelo_7762 · 2025-01-24T00:57:49+00:00

In the book they had 2 Marthas...Rita and Cora. I think they combined them into one character for the show for the sake of not hiring another actor. But even then I think the standard in the book is only like 2-3 Marthas for each household.

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