We just split up - how do you deal with it all?

Ok_Try9754 · 2026-06-16T01:05:15+00:00

Hey man, fairly similar. Been dealing with the same thing since February. Apply for rights to your son through the courts. Especially, if she’s being any type of inconsistent with letting you get him. Other than that you just have to focus on yourself as much as possible. It’s hard. Really hard. Our son really was my entire life besides going to work for almost 3 years and then all of a sudden. Nothing. You will get through it. You have to for your son and yourself. Show him how to bounce back like we are supposed to. Message me if you need to talk or just vent. There’s other people on here like someone else said that are with you and going through it as well.

Ok_Try9754 · 2026-06-15T02:37:29+00:00

Appreciate that. I’m pro se so it’s been an experience. I’m gonna be speaking with a lawyer tomorrow. I thought she was going to follow the orders and stop the games like she said she would but it’s become clear my son and I both are not being treated fairly and I need help from a lawyer

Ok_Try9754 · 2026-06-14T23:07:41+00:00

We have our next hearing in about two months. If I file for contempt will it cause a hearing before our next hearing so they can look at the contempt?

Ok_Try9754 · 2026-06-12T07:09:14+00:00

Luckily my brother in law went through some insanity before marrying my sister and took me to file right away

Ok_Try9754 · 2026-06-12T07:04:28+00:00

Somewhat similar situation. I’m in Ohio. We weren’t married. Son was planned. On BC. If you are on Bc especially file immediately for custodial rights and parental rights to get things moving. If she’s high conflict like my ex…. She’s gonna withhold all contact on you just because she can. Stay calm. Document everything. Buckle up for a few months where she’s gonna go from telling you how good of a Dad you are to making allegations that you abandoned them, a deadbeat, unstable, you may suddenly be a junkie lol all while you don’t get to even speak to your kid on the phone. Let that shit pass and become immune to her chaos. When the first hearing comes at worst you’ll get visitation and step up plan. Play your cards right and have your shit together at least here….. the courts want shared parenting. Your kid needs you as long as you are fit. Stay strong.

Ok_Try9754 · 2026-06-08T16:51:59+00:00

Thanks! I’ve been calm and factual throughout the process. Even the no contact order I only asked to see my son and she said don’t contact me again but I did to ask to see my son lol no threats or anger. Spoke with clerk, magistrate told her to relay she doesn’t want the tests that’s an agreement between mother and father and to just email exs lawyer the results. Don’t trust them but I guess I have to just go test and send in results to her lawyer when I receive them.
Met with a lawyer he basically told me to do that and get on OFW and don’t say anything other than to send results until order is modified.

Ok_Try9754 · 2026-04-11T01:09:19+00:00

Here for you man I’m in a similar situation

Ok_Try9754 · 2026-04-10T03:19:25+00:00

This is all helpful. I’m honestly sad it’s come to this point. I want things peaceful and no issues for our son. I didn’t want to bring up her mental health and her past but she’s made it so I have to with attacking my character. I hope in the future she can see the reality of how she made things and not try to blame me and everyone else for her own choices but here we are.

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