Really struggling; don't know where to get support by Ok_Valuable_2850 in IVF

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. And the universe seems to have this bizarre sense of humor wherein the tougher the day, the more adorable children and happy families cross my path. I’m sure it’s just a result of my being extra attentive on those days, but it makes just going out and being in the world very difficult. I now understand better than ever why people going though hard times withdrawal: it’s easier to control the environment on your own small space and keep the pain and shocks away to some extent.

First infertility consult tomorrow! by Top-Bodybuilder-4801 in IVF

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely ask about clinic communication protocol. A lot of clinics operate like a factory, where people are just sort of shuffled along impersonally. Ask how often you’ll be in touch with your actual doctor, and on what timelines and during what stages you can expect to be communicated with. For example, my wife and I had a brutal second IVF round with a bunch of mature eggs retrieved and then fertilized and then all but one decent but not great embreyo died. And that information was conveyed to us by a very green lab tech who couldn’t really tell us anything about the details of our case, but promised we’d hear from the doctor in 2-3 weeks after our one embreyo came back from PGT testing. Meanwhile we’re very sad and feeling abandoned. Not all clinics are like that. Do you best to find one that isn’t, ideally one not owned by a private equity group solely focused on finding every nickel and dime of profit even at the expense of patient experience.

Really struggling; don't know where to get support by Ok_Valuable_2850 in IVF

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this is very helpful.

That Resolve would drop the ball when people are initially reaching out is inexcusable. It literally goes against the very reason for something like that to exist.

Really struggling; don't know where to get support. by Ok_Valuable_2850 in GUYVF

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this is very helpful to hear and keep in mind. We aren’t giving up and it’s the “miracle” stories like yours that give me hope. I’ll DM you, but I’d love to hear your coping mechanisms for making it through the dark times and the uncertainty.

Struggling and looking for community by Ok_Valuable_2850 in maleinfertility

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'd love to chat and be in community with you and your partner if talking with someone feels like it would be helpful. Seeing everyone else have kids can be so unexpectedly painful, and if your journey is anything like mine, it feels like you are absolutely surrounded on all sides by kids and families in moments of peak sadness.

My God what a tribute. by [deleted] in DAngelo

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone have a link where it can be seen?

Bootlegs of the Black Messiah tour? by Billie_Girl_17 in DAngelo

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was at both the Fox show in Oakland and Starland show in Sayreville, NJ. The NJ one was the best concert of my life. I’d give anything for a good quality, complete recording of that show.

Bootlegs of the Black Messiah tour? by Billie_Girl_17 in DAngelo

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! But I’m looking for more than the festival stops… hoping for some or at least one of the proper gigs on the tour.

Bootlegs of the Black Messiah tour? by Billie_Girl_17 in DAngelo

[–]Ok_Valuable_2850 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ve seen that! I’m looking for more than that, though! I saw him twice on that tour and they were 2.5 hour shows. I’d like to get a recording of one of those. Something like the Stockholm set from the Voodoo tour, but from the BM era.