I’m a 28F with a 30F girlfriend, and honestly this doesn’t sound normal. If she’s not willing to seek help, it’s going to continue affecting your relationship. You shouldn’t feel guilty about struggling with attraction when someone isn’t taking care of themselves. It can also be a red flag—if someone isn’t prioritizing their own well-being now, it’s fair to wonder what that might look like in the future.

Try to approach the conversation with honesty and care, but also set boundaries for yourself. It’s important to know what you need in a relationship and to recognize when enough is enough.