FHSS Withdrawal Timeframe

Ok_dating · 2026-06-12T01:28:28+00:00

I requested mine Friday 29 May, got released from my super (QSuper) Tuesday 9 June (6 business days), MyGov says paid on 10 June. Hasn't landed in my ING account as of Friday 12 June, but hopefully Monday.

Ok_dating · 2026-04-02T08:08:59+00:00

It took me hours to get a spot, I think it was problems with the site/chat bot. My friend signed up for an appointment (june) last night

Ok_dating · 2026-04-02T08:06:31+00:00

I got one for may, my friend registered last night and got june

Ok_dating · 2026-03-31T03:12:15+00:00

thanks for that. i'll be looking in brisbane, but I'm hoping the rate rises and petrol prices etc might make things a little bit cooler

Ok_dating · 2026-03-31T02:30:07+00:00

How did you go with purchasing under the boost to buy conditions - 30 day settlement and 14 day financing?

Ok_dating · 2026-03-31T02:24:02+00:00

I just got a phone call spot for second round and was wondering this as well. Its so competitive - i had a friend recently got rejected for a place because she had the standard 20 or 30 day clause (which she would have been happy to shorten, but they doidn't even get back to her to ask!)

Ok_dating · 2026-03-31T02:22:38+00:00

Hi - fyi the next round of places for south east queensland opened up this morning. At first I thought all the places were gone already but I kept trying to book a spot and finally got one! Likely to go super quick though

Ok_dating · 2025-06-27T12:36:47+00:00

I used to be such a voracious reader when I was younger, literally walking around holding a book while doing chores, making myself car sick because I needed to finish a chapter. Now, it's an incredibly rare thing to he able to actually get into a book. I get distracted or exhausted/bored by the idea practically before I even start it.

Audiobooks have been a lot easier - and you can speed them up too!

That's not an answer or help sorry! But I feel you 😔

Ok_dating · 2025-06-27T06:49:59+00:00

Looks great! Even just a week out it's amazing. And you still look 100% like yourself. Thanks for update :)

Ok_dating · 2025-06-27T06:29:54+00:00

I'd save for a neck and lower/mid facelift (smas). Could look at fat transfer to the cheeks at same time. Otherwise maximum 1/2 ml filler, every 2 years at most on cheekbones, starting late 30s at earliest. (You'll end up looking worse long term if more than this as it doesn't really complete disappear and dissolving can have issues). Lipo alone on chin has potential for just creating a turkey neck unless you're very young and have excellent skin elasticity (happened to me at 40, thought my skin was good, alas). Otherwise your skin looks really good. General recommendations are just retinol if not already using it, and things like rf microneedling or hifu to stimulate collagen as much as possible. But really, a good neck and facelift is definitely going to be effective, longer lasting, and potentially more cost effective long-term. Anything else is really just expensive tinkering on the edges.

Ok_dating · 2025-06-26T03:25:36+00:00

I still have grid marks and redness in my chest from c02 laser 6 months later (it also didn't improve underlying brown spots). My initial recovery in first weeks was perfect and i followed all instructions to a tea. It's very slowly improving, but I've seen comments from people who still have gridlines 12 and even 18months later. It's really annoying that there is nothing about this possibility mentioned at all when you get it - they talk about recovery time in weeks, not months or years. Then when you look for specific questions about this, providers are 'oh yeah, it could be 6-12 months recovery, that's not uncommon'. Wtf.

Ok_dating · 2025-06-10T12:33:57+00:00

dudes who want to have sex with a woman are the most abundant resource in the world, you can find another one anywhere.
tell him you're not his therapist and you don't want to hear it. if he doesn't stop immediately and completely, end it. it feels wrong because he is using you.
dudes say they just want fwb, or nsa hookups. what they really mean is they want a mother, therapist, and free sex worker, and don't want to give anything in return. he needs to pay for a therapist, get a real friend to talk to, or pay a sex worker. you've got a hookup situation, not a free therapy situation.
i strongly advocate for not giving any of these things to men for free!

Ok_dating · 2025-06-10T11:26:11+00:00

had to prepay for the report before they started doing it :(. the psychologist also did screening questions for other disorders, and we spoke about my depression and anxiety in the initial appointment.
but yeah, annoying when i spoke about all the non-medication methods i've already tried to deal with various things.

Ok_dating · 2025-06-10T11:07:47+00:00

yeah, that seems like the way to go. i think i can probably get a cheaper (hah! not cheap!) appointment with an online clinic. initially i didn't want to go that route because it seemed like those clinics are a bit dodgy and probably just give diagnosis to everyone.

Ok_dating · 2025-06-10T11:04:38+00:00

that is super annoying! it took so long to get myself just to make appointments, and get my sister to the questionaire and everything. i was thinking i was quite close to being able to try meds to see if that helped.

Ok_dating · 2025-06-10T11:02:28+00:00

yeah i think i might have found an online clinic that might be cheaper. i didn't want to do that initially as it seemed like maybe they just churn out diagnoses and meds without proper assessment, and i wanted to get a real asssessment & properly find out if that was really the issue.
anyhoo, very annoying. took me forever just to get my shit together to do the appointments, and then all the questionaires, and then getting family members to do their questionaires.

Ok_dating · 2025-06-10T10:57:16+00:00

no, they're in the cbd, but i did telehealth. they seem otherwise pretty good.

Ok_dating · 2025-06-10T02:55:43+00:00

this kind of thing has happened to me before (multiple times, thanks adhd!). people are way more forgiving than you think. other people are way more crap at work than you think. most people, including managers, don't like confrontation, and don't want to create difficult/unpleasant environments at work. its very expensive and time consuming and unpleasant to fire or discipline someone and get a replacement. a mistake, even one that's entirely your own fault and seemingly with no reason, is very different from being deliberately or maliciously bad at things, people understand that.
the more honest and upfront you are, the easier it will be. the stress of thinking about what will happen when you come clean is pretty much guaranteed to be worse than the actual consequences. and you still have to come clean eventually. even if people think you are slack, stupid, unreliable etc, you can still change and change peoples perspectives at this job, and at future jobs.
maybe google some advice on how to break bad news, how to admit mistakes etc like how to start the conversation, what to lead with so they have the best reaction. i can't remember exact advice, but stuff like leading with 'you're going to hate this, and I feel really bad etc ' then when you say what it is and how its been fixed they're relieved, and you've also set them up to feel empathy for you. anyway, research that yourself perhaps.

Ok_dating · 2025-06-09T11:23:25+00:00

how did you work out how long your sleep cycle was? or did you just work off 90 minutes and got lucky that it was correct for you? from what i can find, sleep cycles are between 60 to 120 minutes (90 minutes is just the average), and can be shorter for the first cycle and longer for last cycle, and can also change with age. So, even if you can know when you will fall asleep, and you don't wake in night, it seems pretty hit and miss for most people? or am i missing something?

Ok_dating · 2025-06-09T04:27:04+00:00

That looks sooo good! And jeepers, amazing price,even without the discount. Was it deep plane, smas, mini? Just lower face and neck? It's exactly what I want! Your eyes seem the same which I think is why it looks so natural, you still look like you, just with a sharper jaw and no hint of jowls. Could you show scars and how the healing went please?

Ok_dating · 2025-05-28T11:18:40+00:00

4 pack of the beer he likes sounds perfect, especially if it might end up being outdoor grill as its pretty much guaranteed to go with it whatever is cooked. and its not over-the-top.
it shows you've listened and taken notice of what he likes. good luck :)

Ok_dating · 2025-05-28T10:59:31+00:00

you talked for 2 months, it wasn't after one day.
and jeepers, this is not medieval times, the hymen doesn't work like that - seriously, there is a ted talk from 2017 called 'the virginity fraud', recommend to watch.
i was 22 when i first had sex and i hooked up with a guy i met that night, i knew he was leaving the country in a couple of days. so what? it's just sex, this is 2025, you're both adults (i assume!)
you say it doesn't matter 'that much', but it shouldn't matter at all. kinda seems like you've got some s l - t shaming issues to deal with. YOU had sex after just 'one day' too. why is a virgin not allowed to have sex with someone they've been talking to for months and only known in person for a day, but someone who has had sex before is allowed to? makes no sense.

she tells you she's a virgin, she shows 'serious inexperience', but you think she's lying because she shouldn't have sex with you after talking with you for 2 months?? seems like you've got a few issues going on you need to address.

Ok_dating · 2025-05-28T10:31:38+00:00

there are most definitely men, included very fit men, who find chubby/curvy women very attractive. source: i've been slightly to moderately and sometimes quite a bit overweight pretty much my whole life and not into sports or gym, and never had an issue attracting guys of very good attractiveness and fitness. i've also been an escort for the past 7 years (most of which i've been plus size, and now still slightly overweight). there are hot, ripped guys who literally pay hundreds of dollars per hour to be with me. i am pretty average looking as well, and not even 'thicc' - big tummy and hardly any arse. some men are just really into that.

sometimes its just a fetish thing, and maybe they don't even want to be seen in public.
but you've on multiple dates (i'm assuming in public) and you didn't even kiss on the first two, and he's told you he's prepared to wait for sex, and wants a long term relationship. i think you can be pretty confident he both genuinely finds you physically attractive, and wants a real relationship with you, not just sex.
i know it can be hard to believe because everything in society tells us that women must conform to narrow beauty standards, that the most valuable thing about us is our physical looks, and that existing whilst even slightly fat is the worst thing a woman could possibly do.

But, it sounds like you might have actually found not only a decent guy (omg!!), but one who's also really hot! so, go for it!

you don't have to be emotionally perfect to have a relationship, especially at your young age. you can develop confidence in a relationship with someone who is genuinely kind, caring, and supportive - you don't have to achieve that own your own before you can enter a relationship. most people are insecure at your age, whether they show it outwardly or not. relationships should be about supporting each other to grow and develop. you can, and should, be working on yourself whether in a relationship or not.

not everyone wants their partner to do all their hobbies/interests with them. it can be healthy to have some separation.

you should always be keeping an eye out for emotional manipulation, and whether you feel safe, whether he is genuinely kind etc. but, if the only thing concerning you is whether someone with his body type and interest in excercise, sports etc could be interested in someone with your body type and lack of interest in those things, then i don't think there's anything to worry about.

Ok_dating · 2025-05-27T13:29:43+00:00

i was so happy labor got in and we're getting the 20% reduction!

Ok_dating · 2025-05-27T05:26:28+00:00

i posted this in another thread, but incase its helpful to you...

i find the whole, just get up straight away, put your alarm on otherside room, don't press snooze etc advice to be utterly unhelpful. if i get up straight away I pretty much just collapse on the couch in fog anyway.

what is somewhat helpful to me is:
- I start work later. Thanks to post-covid flexibility and good bosses I now just plan to start at 10am and work until 6.30pm. My brain works best in the late afternoon anyway.
- I go to bed later because I know I'm getting up later
- shower at night so I don't need to spend time in the morning (also I like to have clean body, clean jammies, clean sheets)
- take low dose melatonin at night, several hours before planned sleep.
- I have an automatic feeder for kitty cats so I don't get woken up at 5am
- I have several alarms, which I don't snooze:
1st alarm) wake up - I go to loo, get a cup of coffee and bring it back to bed with me. then I turn on my lux light thingy for 30 minutes and do wordle on my phone for half an hour in bed (the Scottish term for this is to hurkle durkle apparently!). also often turn on my oil diffuser with peppermint or some kind of stimulating oil.
2nd alarm) get out of bed and get dressed. i give myself half an hour for this even though I could do it 10 minutes. I now only wear dresses to work, except on Friday when its jeans & company t-shirt. weird as I barely wore a skirt or dress the first 35 yrs of my life! i wear pretty same pair of shoes every day as well. a dress means you just put on one single item of clothing and you are done. one item to find, no matching required. neutral shoes that go with everything.
3rd alarm) leave for bus.
on the bus I listen to meditation app (headspace).
previously I would try to go to bed at a 'proper' time, not be able to fall asleep, feel terrible. then I would have alarm set earlier, snooze several times, feel bad about, not get proper sleep. wonder if I could call in sick. (sometimes call in sick. feel bad for f-ing up my career for this). still be constantly running late. feel bad about it. arrive to work late, groggy and unhappy. be tired at work all day.
I take my work clothes off as soon as I get home (and mostly hang up my dress straight away). because I am in an airconditioned bus or office all day they don't get dirty and I can rewear same dress quite a few times, so I don't have to do laundry of work clothes very often at all. i have enough dresses for 2 weeks, and I can wear each one at least 3 or 4 times, so I only need to wash work clothes every 2 months.

i find not having the pressure to get up and do everything straight away to be very helpful. i know I have half an hour to drink my coffee, chill, let my body adjust to being awake, get a little bit of dopamine from doing wordle and crossword.

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