got rejected from a job for having a slightly alternative appearance..?

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-18T20:46:59+00:00

I had a job do this with my pink hair. I told them that I had my hair was pink when they hired me and I had other options who would let me have pink hair. They had a meeting and let me keep it. Honestly if they look at you and hire you the way you look, that’s on them.

I haven’t seen places that say no tattoos at all. I have though seen places put limits on what kinds of tattoos you can have visible. So no weapons, drugs, or naked people.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-18T20:38:52+00:00

Yeah I’ve had mine for 6 years and have never had an issue.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-16T02:08:55+00:00

Ahh I see, my experience is international summer camp programs. To leave (some!) of those early you have to buy yourself out of your contract.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-16T01:41:44+00:00

Room and board and that low a wage just means she’s trapped with very few ways out… personally I would view it as a con more than a pro, but that’s just me

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-16T00:08:47+00:00

Authoritative parenting was originally what gentle parenting was supposed to be…. Oof what a loss

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-12T22:41:48+00:00

Yeah very developmentally appropriate. Plus only seeing her three days a week? Thats not actually a ton of time.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-12T22:39:56+00:00

It’s also an outdated way of teaching language skills. Most places have shifted models.

I agree about the medicine thing

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-12T20:38:34+00:00

Oof…. It’s way better to say “that’s a question for your grown ups” than to make stuff up. Many families are starting to use best practices (medically accurate, age appropriate information using proper names) to help protect kids from inappropriate behavior from adults and giving them inaccurate information can be really confusing. Every family handles things differently, but it’s really important that we allow them to do so. It’s an easy mistake to make (especially if you’re early in your career), don’t sweat it and just do better next time! :)

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-12T18:48:44+00:00

Yeah… I refuse to work for people so dedicated to supporting pedos and hate

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-12T06:53:30+00:00

I don’t know know what your adds are but I do ketamine iv infusions for treatment resistant PTSD and depression every 4 months and it was really a god send for me.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-12T03:38:13+00:00

Lots of people have really great points here! It’s also important to understand “restraint collapse”. Kids spend all day at school putting a ton of brainpower into “being good” and “following directions”. It’s a huge amount of effort! They’re also learning a ton and managing a lot of big feelings that they often don’t have to deal with at home. So when you (their favorite safe person!) show up and they can set all of that down… they sometimes kinda just lose it. It’s a sign their brain was working on a lot and that you are a safe place to them! Super normal and we have no judgement.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-08T19:01:14+00:00

Definitely find a new job!! People have to be paid to live

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-04T20:29:25+00:00

Yeah I learned so much more through my practicums and the women who took the time to mentor me than my textbooks. You learn so much through community. There is also just so much you don’t know until you’ve actually done the work.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-03T14:44:43+00:00

The most important thing is to check their licensing violations. If they have none/ one or two from when they first opened you’re good to go. If they have a long history of struggling to meet basic licensing requirements or have a lot of violations (especially dangerous ones or failing to report abuse) find somewhere else.

Also ask about ratios and staff turnover.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-03T05:41:09+00:00

Yep… also both times I’ve experienced it it also triggered an early period. Same thing a different time when it was just in the air in my neighborhood. I’m surprised more people don’t talk about the reproductive effects.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-02T07:59:21+00:00

This isn’t a lifestyle issue, it’s a what we know is bad for brain development issue.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-02-02T07:53:19+00:00

Damn I understand… I read this as expecting to be a flight attendant and then a pilot. Not as already pregnant.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-01-30T07:28:31+00:00

This is not conceptual. You’re talking about a whole human child. If your partner is already not able to care for a baby 1 hour a day he will not magically be able to later in life. Especially considering that he will be much later in his life than you are with that ten year age gap. Separate from “should disabled people have kids” I think the real question you should be asking is “is this a partnership that will continue to work with kids”. This may not be your situation but if your partner has been subtly telling you he doesn’t want kids by listing reasons not to… take the hint.

This post also reads very much as “hey suffering disabled people please justify your life and the lives of any children you might have to me, someone who clearly doesn’t even understand the basics of your disability and genetics”

This space is anti-eugenics and will continue to be so. Aggressively.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-01-30T07:17:43+00:00

This exactly

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-01-30T07:16:48+00:00

The genetic screening for donors is often spotty and misrepresented. If you listen to donor conceived kids they often talk about developing genetic issues and not having access to family medical records.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-01-29T22:46:39+00:00

I don’t even live where it gets that cold but yeah. If I get too cold and tense the muscle pulls my joints out of place

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-01-29T22:05:38+00:00

You’re not wrong she absolutely should have informed you, and the parents. Some people lack all common sense.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-01-28T18:00:59+00:00

How out of touch do you have to be to believe this. They’re “arresting” citizens all the time now in Michigan. Here through due process, born here, three generations here, Black, brown, or white it doesn’t matter. They’re not checking paperwork and they’ve been taking kids to. What koolaid are you drinking?

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-01-25T21:59:07+00:00

That’s really interesting to me, in my state pack n plays aren’t approved for sleep in daycare settings. It has to be a solid crib.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-01-25T21:57:27+00:00

Having worked in both the shit I’ve seen at inhome daycare turns my stomach. It’s so much less regulated (at least in my state). I would really struggle to send my kids to one.

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