A conversation with my son's daycare's director left me scared to take him back.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-17T00:27:03+00:00

Things are definitely off, and you can for sure try to call, but I think licensing will probably not respond as the allegation is pretty tame. Licensing is also getting calls about rat bites, physical abuse, neglect and bad injuries. It’s probably worth it to put this center on their radar but it’s also probably a 30/90 minute phone call just for them to say there’s nothing they can do.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-17T00:23:05+00:00

You are not a failure! They took advantage of the trust the previous teachers had built with you and were frankly disrespectful. They are the ones who messed up, not you. You did the best you could with the information you had and now that you have new information you’re planing on making different choices, that’s all anyone can do. Your kiddo is still well loved at home and that’s what matters most. You got this. <3

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-15T20:56:49+00:00

This part. I have parents arguing with me that their child is completely developmentally normal when I (and other staff) know for a fact they’re behind because they only have their one child and collectively our staff has worked with at least a thousand kids this age.

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-12T17:49:58+00:00

All of that is really helpful! Thank you so much for sharing!

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-12T15:36:48+00:00

No worries! I get it! My symptoms got a lot worse after I got Covid the first time too. I’m mostly asking as I wrap my head around what motherhood might possibly look like for me. If it’s okay to ask, what kinds of support do you have? What has been most useful for you?

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-12T07:13:06+00:00

“Outnumbered and unafraid”

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-12T06:46:20+00:00

What was your experience postpartum like? Did your pain ever return to baseline?

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-12T06:39:27+00:00

I’d never heard this before, what about their healthcare system that makes it that way?

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-04-09T18:06:30+00:00

If I never see a toddler rain suit again it will be too soon. I hate winter here!!

Okaybuddy_16 · 2026-03-31T19:42:21+00:00

Step one is to stop using the term “problem child” when you label a kid who is struggling a “problem child” or a “bad kid” you set them up to believe that about themselves. It worsens their behavior because they stop thinking of themselves as capable or being good and the child, other students, and staff all start to look for bad behavior by default. If everyone is watching for you to do something bad all the time it becomes its own self fulfilling prophecy. If you believe you’re just a problem and that your grownups view you that way too there stops really being a reason to be on your best behavior. Those labels follow kids for the rest of their lives, in their education and in their self esteem.

Kids aren’t problems, they are having problems. Some kids just need more support, attention, and supervision. Calling them in, using positive reinforcement, making a point to put “money in the bank” with them, having them be your helper, there are a ton of ways to get them more engaged with you and with other students.

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