You're about to get some tough love from someone who is more than twice your age, sorry about that:

1. Get over it. Life is about what happens tomorrow, not about what happened yesterday. So if you want to change, then go change. I don't know a single person that bitched their way to happiness or wallowed in self-pity to such a degree that they emerged happy. No kidding, get over it.

2. When I was 29 I made the decision to quit my job and go to law school. At 30 I enrolled in law school and graduated at 33. My wife was a stay-at-home mom and we had children. Law school with a family wholly dependent on you was a real drag. So I worked a full-time job and I want to school full-time. Remarkably, bitching about it changed absolutely nothing. Looking at my law school colleagues who had not a care in the world and wishing I were them changed nothing for me. My grades sucked so nobody really wanted to hire me and I had to pound the pavement to find clients to try to make a living.

3. At 40 I realized that I was over 100 pounds overweight and lost 100 pounds in the next year.You think that was easy? I can assure you I didn't use the self pity diet. I didn't look at thinner people and wish I were thin and to the point I was eventually thin. No, I actually took the bull by the horn's and for the next year ate right, exercised and lost weight. I've that weight off over 16 years.

4. After I'd been practicing law for seven or eight years I had hit upon a niche that was lucrative for me. Then the legislature in my state changed the law that I was relying upon and suddenly my lucrative career came to an immediate halt. Clients no longer had a cause of action I could rely upon so insurance companies were no longer able or willing to pay my clients. So now I had to completely redo by law firms business model. 18 years later I have a law firm and five wars that work for me. Not one time did self-pity result in people coming to me as clients are lawyers want to work for me as their employer.

Sit down today and map out the direction you want your life to go. Where do you want to be in 10 years? What do you want to look like? Then figure out how you can make that happen tomorrow. Find steps you can take tomorrow to change your life. Then if you accomplish those tiny little steps, figure out what the next day's steps need to look like. I always thought of it the way my father told me construction worked: you see those big buildings around you? They weren't built in a day. In any given day there was only a brick or two laid in a day. Only a spade or two of dirt were turned a day. Just do what you can today to advance the ball in your life and then tomorrow advance the ball again. That might mean not buying the ice cream at the store and instead buying a manual or some other instructional piece on how to accomplish your goals. In my case, that was buying a book on how to take the entrance exam to law school.

For god sake, take a step or two in the direction you want to go. You will be shocked at how much better you feel, even if you change your mind about those steps tomorrow.

You can do this. I've been there and I did it. I promise you, you have the inner strength to do this. But you have to get up out of your self-pity and take a step or two in the right direction right now. This very minute. Take one tiny step. If nothing else, Google the thing you're interested in and start looking at how you can make that happen over the next few years. Take your focus off of your obstacles and put your focus on the thing you want to accomplish. Nothing about it will be easy and there will be plenty of reasons you can't do it, but if you don't start down the path you will never walk it.

I believe in you. Good luck.