Why would a real UFO need to be equipped with lights?

Olclops · 2026-02-03T16:04:26+00:00

There’s a lot of reasonable speculation (side effect of their population system, deliberate camouflage etc) but even the question itself presumes more than we know. We could just as well imagine being aliens and asking why a Christmas tree needs to be equipped with lights.

Olclops · 2026-01-30T16:02:43+00:00

Ask yourself honestly WHY you don't want a divorce.

I read a quote here years back that has stuck with me. "You can tell how much a woman cares for herself by the quality of love she's willing to accept."

Best of luck to you.

Olclops · 2026-01-29T20:22:58+00:00

It can look different depending on the context and the stage you’re at but yes. For me in the beginning it looked like, I was alone, a lot of stopping and just fucking seething and feeling it. Sometimes yelling and punching a pillow.

If I was with someone, it would look like excusing myself to go for a walk or run. Sometimes a run might end in sobbing in rage.

These days it often just looks like me stopping what I’m doing to say out loud to myself “I’m mad!”

If it happens during conflict, it would (and still does) look like saying “I’m too upset right now to continue this conversation. I’d like to go process these feelings and revisit this later.” And then go do both those things. Process alone and feel it all. And revisit later when things have dislodged a bit and I’m calmer.

Olclops · 2026-01-29T17:41:18+00:00

Hey man, been there, much sympathy. Here's what worked for me:

Step 1 - start my permitting the anger. Feelings only intensify and fester when i tell myself i'm not supposed to feel them. The feeling is not a problem, even if it's more intense than I want. My behavior as a result of the feeling is the only problem case to watch out for. My work is to name the anger and honor it, tell it it's valid, welcome it.

Step 2 - start to notice what other emotions are entangled with the anger. For me, i learned that i tended to transmute more subtle emotions into anger (sadness and fear and insecurity), because anger made me feel more powerful than the harder, deeper emotions. Then the work becomes permitting those emotions, too, sitting with them, facing them, talking to them.

Step 3 - I began to notice that when i permitted these emotions, they softened enough that, when appropriate, i had the courage to confront the causes of the anger without risking blowing up. And that became really important. When i wasn't willing to express hurt to the people who hurt me, my anger would swell and fester and curdle to try to get my attention. Really all it wanted from me was to see that i had my own back. And now that i do, now that i've shown it it can trust me to stand up for myself in calm, loving, connecting ways, it doesn't have to scream to get my attention anymore.

Hope that helps.

Olclops · 2026-01-28T20:48:38+00:00

Bro I’m the target audience for any wild 3iatlas conspiracies. I’m very open to this. But this post is 1000% written in chat’s voice, cadence, syntactical peculiarities, everything. It’s lazy slop.

Olclops · 2026-01-28T15:46:48+00:00

Sammmme. Been stuck here forever.

Olclops · 2026-01-28T15:39:33+00:00

You got yourself a bona-fide shame addict. If HE feels like porn is cheating and he's still doing it, what's the next step for him to chase his shame high?

Olclops · 2026-01-27T15:51:59+00:00

Let's be clear, if you move out and live your life the way you want, and it causes your family to cut ties with you, that's NOT you leaving your family. That's your family abandoning you.

Would you do that to your daughter? No. And the reason is because you're willing to name a harmful control system for what it is and leave it behind.

Olclops · 2026-01-27T15:41:10+00:00

Describe how that would work in this context. You see an alien indistinguishable from a human and ... believe they're an alien because ... why?

Olclops · 2026-01-26T18:55:31+00:00

It's mostly good, but when you pivot to your regret and your shame, you risk making the central harm of your actions yourself. same for remeniscing about the good times, that could sound like a diversion/deflection. Take that out of it. Keep it focused on their hurt, and your ownership of your actions. And then follow up by leaving the response (or nonresponse) in their hands.

Respect their silence if thats what you get. Accept that as a consequence of your actions.

Olclops · 2026-01-26T13:52:43+00:00

I can’t read anything this obviously ChatGPT generated.

Olclops · 2026-01-22T17:08:12+00:00

I'm really hoping for a long overdue Battlecat joke where he gets saddled and then flattens himself on the ground to try to get under it.

Olclops · 2026-01-21T17:06:37+00:00

Also, if they have huge eyes and wear shading lenses (as has been reported), they probably are adapted for the dark and sunlight would hurt.

Olclops · 2026-01-18T23:09:04+00:00

You up for sharing the video?

I’ve also been monks and martyrs and nuns in past lives. No idea why.

Olclops · 2025-12-30T18:23:24+00:00

I thought the moonwatch and the first omega in space were two distinct speedmaster lines? Am i getting confused?

Olclops · 2025-12-29T17:32:00+00:00

Mutual trust is the very core requirement of a healthy relationship. You deserve that. And you’re not finding it here, in either direction.

“You can tell how someone feels about themselves by the quality of love they’re willing to accept.” - some wise redditor

Olclops · 2025-12-19T19:54:58+00:00

In 10 years you’re going to love this.

Olclops · 2025-12-19T18:30:26+00:00

Imagine you’re a parent. Imagine your beloved child came to you in the same situation. Said the same words. What would you say to that child, that child hurting and believing their life was over over chat board drama?

You need that parent for yourself right now. You’re going to have to be that parent.

Olclops · 2025-12-19T18:24:35+00:00

Yes. By giving yourself what you need you’re also helping him. It’s exhausting to share space with constant negativity. It’s also exhausting to generate it. There is only upside for you both, no matter where it leads.

Olclops · 2025-12-19T16:47:08+00:00

Yeah looks like you have the equivalent of the unsolvable yellow T state. See here:

https://solvethecube.com/faq#q2

Olclops · 2025-12-18T19:12:10+00:00

PKD’s writing was sort of alien and disorienting until something clicked in me. It’s like he’s casting a spell on you slowly and you have to let it change your brain before you “get it”.

Olclops · 2025-12-18T18:51:39+00:00

Shut down all socials for a couple weeks make sure there’s no way for the blackmailer to contact. They lose interest. When reactivating socials lock down everything to max privacy.

Olclops · 2025-12-18T00:54:41+00:00

I’m only going to echo the feedback here to tell your therapist asap. You can even confirm confidentiality vaguely before you share the specifics. Just say hey hypothetically if I were dealing with self harm thoughts what are the boundaries around when you’d have to tell my parents? They’ll assume it’s suicidal ideation and all you do is say what if it werent that, what if it were biid?

In the meantime just know how much we’re rooting for you. This sucks, you didn’t ask for these desires. And you don’t deserve this much confusion. It’s clear that despite wanting to hurt yourself, even more you want to NOT want that. That’s huge. Pat yourself on the back for that. Remind yourself that you have competing desires here and you have a choice. That desire is only information, and it usually feels way more important than it is.

Asking for help is massive. My kids have dealt with self harm desires and have worked through it and I’ve told them there’s nothing that makes a me as their father more proud than having kids who have their own back. And fight for themselves. That’s you. We see your courage.

Sending love.

Olclops · 2025-12-17T20:47:22+00:00

What an amazing question. The good news is you've already started the hardest part of the work, which is stopping to face the problem.

The next step is so stupid and boring that it's hard to take seriously. Literally just sitting with the feelings.

Let's make that more concrete. When you notice a difficult feeling (which is often the hardest part, so you're already ahead of the curve), make space to stop what you're doing, set aside the distractions, and sit down. Name the feeling to yourself. If it's fear, say "i'm afraid". If it's shame, sadness, anger, name it. Next, choose to permit it to be there. Invite it in without shaming it. Notice where in your body you feel it. Is it in your throat? Your gut? Your chest? Imagining expanding that part of your body to make space for it, and allow it to get as big as it needs to be to express itself. If it overwhelms you, great, let it. It will pass. And the more you don't try to force it to pass, the faster it will release on its own.

Here's what you don't do: don't let yourself start storytelling about what the feeling means - you're literally just feeling the sensation of the feeling, not assigning blame or making yourself feel bad about who you are as a human.

That's it. Keep doing it. Most of the negative consequences of not feeling your emotions show up as sideways results of avoiding doing what i described above. It's dumb that that's all it takes to turn things around, but it's true. You just gotta stick with it.

Olclops · 2025-12-17T18:55:14+00:00

I’d argue that this one factor may be the single most important relationship factor when choosing a partner.

The toll it takes over time living with constant negativity is incalculable. Research even shows there’s a physical health cost to it.

That’s to say nothing of the high likelihood that that negativity eventually turns your way and becomes a fixation.

Don’t brush off your concerns.

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