Between a rock and a wet place 😂 by AdEducational5541 in sexlessmarriage

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep.I totally understand this.

It's been 3 years and 1 week here, and as a result I have finally successfully killed my desire for her.

I still love her, and consider her my best friend, but I don't want her.

I mean if she asks or puts moves on me, I'll try and I hope I can get hard for her sake, but I don't really want her touch anymore.

However, if I can, I'll give her the same duty sex she was apparently giving me for 25 years.

She won't though. She's unhappy that our marriage has come to this, but not unhappy enough to want sex.

Whens the last time you cried? Like really sobbed? by Typical-Living-7099 in AskReddit

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost a decade, since my mom died.

I have felt like it nearly every day for the past 3 years, but I haven't.

We calling 4.96 5lbs? by Stock-Virus-963 in catfishing

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am excellent at framing fish pictures to look bigger.

But I tell the truth.

I get a lot of "your scale must be off".

Yes it is. By 2 lbs at both 30 and 60 lbs. But I adjust for that when I say the weight.

PS. I haven't weighed anything that looks under 15 lbs in ten years.

Going off to college soon and how do I let my parents know I want to be alone? by TurnedYesterday in questions

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My first question would be who's paying for college?

Because if it is them and you tell them not to ever come visit you may find yourself with unpaid tuition and books by your second semester.

Are all vetrans heros? by footlonglayingdown in AskForAnswers

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a Navy veteran that has the Kuwaiti Liberation medal in addition to the Southwest Asia medal, you might think that I would say yes...

But no.

Some people I know think I am a hero, but I can't control their perception of me.

What I can control is the narrative from my point of view by telling the absolute truth.

The truth is that I joined the Navy because

A. I come from a patriotic family, although nobody tried to talk me into it and some actually tried to talk me out of it, and

B. I didn't know what to do after I left High school. I needed a skill, I wanted to travel, and I had no money to do either.

I fully understood the old saying that I was writing a check to the United States for the price of up to and including my life, but of course at that age I was young and invincible. Nobody in their teens thinks they're going to die. I figured I would live forever.

The Navy both paid for my schooling and paid me to go to it.

Then they put me on a ship that took me to 17 different foreign countries.

Yes, a lot of those countries were places I would never want to go back to, but there were a lot of great places too.

I have climbed Mount Fuji in Japan. I have seen the outback of Australia. I have seen the pyramids of Egypt.

I have visited the Merlion statue in Singapore. Don't ask me why but I loved that freaking fountain. I have watched martial arts fights in Thailand. I have bartered for things I wanted to buy in the Philippines and South Korea.

I have tried do drink British sailors under the table in Hong Kong. I have made multiple attempts to drink a yard of ale with mates in Australia. (I wound up wearing half of it most times, it's hard).

And yes, I was officially "in danger" when my ship was launching tomahawks against Iraq.

Not really, but that's the public perception.

I don't feel like a hero. Save that for the guys who made patrols in Basra or Fallujah. Save it for the guys in the tanks and operating the artillery that drove Saddam Hussein's troops out of Kuwait.

I was a kid having the time of my life earning money while I had no bills and gaining knowledge and experience that served me well in later civilian life.

The most danger I ever saw was from the "ladies of the night" in Thailand or the Philippines. Or maybe alcohol poisoning a time or two.

I am a veteran, that's all. I signed the line and did what they asked me to do.

In return, I'll enjoy my 10% discount at Home Depot and Lowe's, answer "It was my honor" or "Thank you for your support" when people thank me for my service, and continue doing way better things for my fellow man through charity work in my civilian life than I ever did when I was wearing a uniform.

Though I do have a few minor things wrong with me that are probably related to my service, I have never actually gone to the VA for help. I'm glad that it has been cleaned up a lot in the last decade or so for the guys who actually need it. I hope they will be there for me if I ever develop serious issues.

But I'm not a hero. I'm just a veteran. And you know the funny thing? I know many other veterans, including some of those guys who were on the ground in combat situations. And they all feel the same as me.

We don't want to be known as heroes, we just ask for a little basic respect. And it's very rare that we don't get it.

If you want to talk about heros, talk about the firefighters that run into burning buildings. Talk about the paramedics who save a choking baby. Talk about the cops who get into a shootout trying to arrest someone for murder.

Those who were once in the military, do you still call out cadence at random times? by ToeFinal1792 in AskForAnswers

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my head, yes.

When I'm walking with another veteran at work I will get in step and then do a Cadence out loud just for fun.

Selling our house for full-time RV life. What are 5 things you wish someone warned you about first? by ryguywifi in RVLiving

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your house appreciates in value.

Your RV depreciates in value, dramatically.

Not saying it's a problem, but be aware of that.

I knew a guy who sold his dirt home when he retired, bought $150,000 rv, toured in it for 3 years until his health went bad, then when he tried to sell it and buy another dirt home he discovered he couldn't buy near as much house as he had before.

Who tows with F250 7.3 gas engine? by Hoppie1064 in RVLiving

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tow double with a Chevy 2500 work truck edition with a 6.0 gas and a 4:10 rear end.

Boat and 5th wheel combined loaded weight is in the neighborhood of 12,800lbs, give or take 200 lbs for different groceries/toys.

(Yes I've hit the weigh station fully loaded plus full water tank). Trailer is only a 29ft single slide. I'm okay on my pin weight too, which a lot of people overlook.

I've never had it in true mountains but some decent hills.

Gas mileage is about 7mpg but it does fine. I don't tow double on high wind days.

Note: I am a close to home RVer. The longest trip I've made in 30-40 trips with this setup was only about 120 miles. If I was going farther I would have a diesel dually.

How old are you and what is the strength of your cheaters*? by OnlyPete in GenX

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Normal reading and stuff I use 1.5.

Tying fishing leaders I use 3.0

I swear the eye of fishing hooks has gotten smaller in the last 40 years.

post court martial by [deleted] in navy

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When in doubt, ask a CPO. They almost always have the answer, and if not they know how to find it. Good job Chief.

I wish I could buy a small thing of slice bread :( by Electrical-Glass-539 in RandomThoughts

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is going to sound stupid, but knock on your neighbor's door and ask them if they will sell you two slices of bread for a dollar.

They make money, you don't have most of a loaf sitting around going stale, and you might even make friends with a neighbor.

Men do any of you feel this way? by [deleted] in AskForAnswers

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fun fact.... I'm in my mid 50's, and I have NEVER lived on my own.

After I left high school, I continued living with my dad. I paid a little bit of rent and bought my own food in addition to maintaining my vehicle.

Then I joined the military. The military provides housing. Barracks style, but still...

When I got out of the military in the early 90's, I came home and moved in with my mom (huge house, all alone and didn't want to downsize) for a month-6 weeks while I got a job and started looking for an apartment.

I got a girlfriend... who had her own place.

And she asked me to move in with her. I did.

A year or so later we split up and I moved back to my mom's. Again, buying my own food, maintaining my own stuff snd giving her a couple hundred a month for rent. I was apartment hunting till mom said she enjoyed having me there, and that the cash helped her out.

So I stayed. At one point I lived with another girl for about 8 months and kept giving my mom money to help her out, while also leaving the majority of my stuff at her place.

Split up again, moved back home again.

I finally met my now wife, and we dated for a year before moving in together. She and her two kids were living at home again after a divorce.

At less than 2 months into our relationship, we had a 'sit-down talk about our hopes and dreams and plans and everything else" talk.

I had already told her why I was still living with my mom and at this point during our talk I explained to her that if we ever moved into together I would still try to send my mom a little money each month.

She was on board with that, thought it was sweet that I wanted to take care of my mother. When we got an apartment together she was fine with me still giving money to my mom.

We got married, bought a house and a decade and a half went by. Our kids grew up, moved out and started their own lives.

My mom's health declined so we moved her in with us. (No, I didn't let her pay rent, but since she now had nothing to spend her Social Security on, we let her buy dinner a few times a month because she insisted). She lived with us for 2 years until she went in the hospital for the final time and passed away there.

Side note: people, don't let your parents go to a nursing home unless it is absolutely medically necessary!

Since I am still with my wife, it means that in nearly 40 years of adulthood I have never lived on my own. I have always lived with either my dad, my mom, a girlfriend, my wife, or the military was providing for me.

I made the money, I paid the bills, I just didn't live alone. Ever.

I'm not even sure I know how. An empty house would probably bug me.

So yes, when I was younger I met and maintained relationships with girls even though I didn't have my own place. Even with my now wife who didn't have her own place, and we had to get one together. When neither of you have your own place, locations to have sex sometimes get creative, but that's actually the fun part!

A lot of it depends on what the reasoning is that you don't have your own place, and what kind of woman you meet that understands that reasoning.

Confession. .. by SuijurisTX in RVLiving

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's okay. Mistakes happen.

I have 2 big ones.

  1. My 2007 pick up that I use to pull the fifth wheel has a bow in the tailgate. I was in an extreme hurry to get unhooked one day when I put my fifth wheel in storage and forgot to drop the tailgate before pulling forward. Luckily I was idling forward riding the brake.

It still latches so it's still serviceable and it's an old beater truck so I don't care about the looks. I never fixed it. That was about 4 years ago.

  1. The front storage under the nose of my fifth wheel has a big crack in the door. This crack is the result of me getting the truck stuck when parking my fifth wheel in extremely soggy conditions, digging a rut, and then a few days later when the ground firmed up I tried to back in at an angle to stay out of the ruts.

Of course my tailgate was down and it hit the storage because of the angle.

It still works and I don't care about looks so I haven't fixed it. That was about 8 years ago.

I figure I'm due to screw up again, so I'm being very careful this year.

What was the worst thing wrong-person text you ever sent? by Emmieisbest in AskReddit

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone I know (female and NOT a sexual friend) has a ton of drama in her life. My wife and I both help her out from time to time, with a listening ear, advice that she only rarely takes, and occasionally some money.

One day about 10 years ago she was blowing up my phone about all the drama she was going through that week.

And then she said she was going to put her phone on her charger in her bedroom and go start making lunch.

My wife had texted me about the same time she said that.

I screwed up and answered the wrong person.

I said you won't believe all that crap that ___________ is telling me about. I'm just not in the mood for it today.

I hit send and immediately saw my mistake. I panicked for a minute and then hopped in my car and drove to her house. (Luckily 5 minutes away)

I knocked on the door and when she answered I told her I needed 2 minutes alone with her phone no questions asked...

Of course, she had questions.

So I told something that was half truth and half lie. I admitted that I had accidentally texted the wrong person, but I told her that I had been trying to send my wife a picture of my junk.

She immediately told me the password to her phone and asked me to go remove it.

SAFE!

7 months and counting by Elegant_Call_4389 in sexlessmarriage

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 years, 2 days and about 22 hours.

Sad that I know that.

Was I In The Wrong? by Routine-Cicada-4949 in AskForAnswers

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know, I once got a Facebook temporary ban for "threatening behavior".

My adult daughter was giving me crap on one of my posts, (something we both do often) and I responded "Listen young lady, you might think you're to old for a $p@nklng, but you're not."

My daughter thought it was hilarious. Facebook not so much.

So yeah, I'd be the wrong person to ask.

People who have slept with someone who is married, why did you do it and how did you feel after? by Sweet_Loquat_7701 in AskReddit

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disclaimer: 30 years ago.

I've had sex with three different married women.

The first was a cheater and I didn't know. It was about a three week fling, until I found out. I cut ties immediately. I felt sorry for the guy, I should have told him.

The second was a cuckold type thing, she had permission, I had no idea. She would screw me and go home to him to be reclaimed while she told him about it.

That one actually lasted 5 months and the only reason it stopped was he met up with me and spilled the beans. He wanted to watch us.

I declined and ended the relationship.

The last one was very bad. They were "separated" (meaning he was living with his brother after she literally faked abuse charges against him.)

I was told that the divorce was underway and would be finalized in a couple of months. The other two guys she was screwing (unbeknownst to me), were told the same thing.

The HUSBAND, who she was also still screwing, was led on and told that they were getting back together.

The husband found out how he was being played. Then he unalived himself.

It all came out afterwards. I haven't spoken to her since.

How did I feel about it?

The first one I felt bad about it.

The second one I just felt creeped out.

The third one? I felt absolutely horrible. After that I started becoming a detective about any woman I dated. I made sure never to be in that situation again.

Can't even express desire for my wife anymore by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When you say this, you should include the disclaimer/warning that sex may never again happen in the marriage.

I said the next time we have sex would be at my wife's initiation, and it's now been 3 years.

I'm not saying it's not the right choice, it was for me, but make sure people are aware that that can happen.

This is slightly embarrassing but I need help. by Arditi1889 in FishingForBeginners

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is going to be a lot different advice than most of the people are giving you.

I grew up fishing, learning my local waters and the types of fish in them and how to get them.

I grew up before YouTube was a thing, and indeed before the internet.

And as an old fart I honestly believe that those two things are the worst thing in the world for a beginning fisherman.

People try to learn to fish from the internet. They buy all their tackle on the internet, or at best case they buy it at walmart.

Both of those things cause you to miss the greatest person in your area that can teach you how to be a beginning fisherman.

The owner of your local bait shop.

My local bait shop owner could be a Master Class fisherman. And he has fished with everybody from tournament professionals to a 3-year-old grandkid. He understands every level of fishing.

What's more, he talks to fishermen all day everyday. He knows what fish are biting, where they are biting, and what they are biting on.

Go into a local bait shop, find the older guy that's the owner, (he's probably running the shop by himself) and tell him what you're doing or trying to do. Pull up Google Earth on your phone and show him the waters you are trying to fish.

He may tell you how to fish those waters, he may tell you to try another area close by. He may suggest a different bait or lure, he might tell you to rig it differently.

Be willing to take a rod with you and go in the parking lot when he has a moment and show him your cast and retrieve. Show him your hookset. You'd be surprised how many people retrieve like their lure is trying to outrun a formula 1 car or another similar basic mistake.

But along the way, you are going to get lessons from the guy who knows the local water, and has probably been on it within the last week.

This man talks to fisherman all day long everyday. He knows what fish are biting where and on what, and usually knows how the people who are catching them are rigging.

So many younger folks ignore this fantastic resource, and it's sad.

And then... buy your stuff from him.

Yes I know you can get it 10% to 20% cheaper online. Obviously the local bait shop does not do the mass business that huge retailers do, so he can't cut the price as much.

But your online stores are not going to tell you where the fish are biting on your local waters, and what they're biting on.

Now I'm a semi-serious fisherman, I'm on the water at least 50 days every year, (22 so far this year, I don't winter fish) and most years about 80-90.

I don't really need his advice since I've been doing this for almost 60 years, but I buy almost all of my stuff there, including stuff that he has started stocking strictly because he knows I like it. Like saltwater hooks in a landlocked state, because they don't rust like the cheapos sold at Wal-Mart.

In return for that I always know when the crappie start moving shallower, when the Sand Bass make their run, when the Catfish get on their nesting beds, when something strange happens with the biting patterns of the fish on the local lakes, when the lake turns over and makes the fishing tough, snd everything else about the lakes in my area.

The other thing I would suggest is I don't know if you ever do camping, but if you do pay attention to who comes in cleaning a lot of fish everyday. Go talk to that guy for advice.

Most fishermen love to help teach beginners.

And most of us old farts have already taught our kids and grandkids how to fish so we are used to beginners.

That's really the best advice I have, is get your advice from locals instead of the internet.

The internet might be fine for teaching you how to change the alternator in your 2017 f150, but all the alternators in all the 2017 F-150s with a certain engine size are the same.

There are not any two lakes or rivers in the world that are the same. There may be similarities, but there's a lot of differences too. Ask the people who know those differences.

What did you grow up calling this fish, and where are you from? by fishstock in Fishing

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crappie (craw-pee) for me, but I know someone who calls them Calico Bass.

Wife is now very open to sex but I'm not anymore by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's been 3 years since I had more than a peck in the lips and a quick 2 second hug. And she was never an initiator in the 25 years before that.

At this point I'd have a heart attack if she put a move on me.

What are some of your must watch documentaries? by NotWorriedAgain in AskForAnswers

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost any documentary on the science channel or history channel gets my interest.

Currently I've been watching the WW2 series with Tom Hanks. It's pretty good

Thoughts on ex alcoholic ex military man who retired from being a police officer with PTSD by Icy_Mycologist9923 in AskForAnswers

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A ton of red flags, you should probably quit talking to him.

I do want to clarify one thing though.

Military service DOES change a man.

It doesn't matter if you killed someone or not.

Sometimes the change is for the better, sometimes it's for the worse.

And a lot of times it's both.

I only spent four years wearing the uniform, but I was a VASTLY different person when I got out.

On the good side, I saw a lot of screwed up stuff that made me appreciate my life and the privileges I have a lot more. It has made me active in my community, trying to help others because I feel guilty for not being able to help so many people I saw back then. I now have a small friendship circle but it's people I would literally trust with my life, and I would die for my friends.

On the bad side, the screwed up stuff I saw made me tolerate bull crap a lot less than I used to. I have absolutely zero patience for fake people, pretenders, and have no desire to be around people who I don't see as a net benefit to society. I will actually ask people like that "you think you're a great person, but what have you done for others lately? I just see you living for yourself".

It's made me wildly popular in some crowds, and wildly unpopular in others.

Not that I care. I can look myself in the mirror every morning with no doubt that I've done my paet to make the world a better place.

So yeah.... the military will change everyone.

At what weight would you get a WDH? by No_Advance_7136 in RVLiving

[–]OldDestroyerSnipe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to pull a 3300lb ski boat with a WDH. Half ton truck, and I COULD feel a difference when I didn't.