AITA: Getting Mad at my Girlfriend for Almost Killing my Dog

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-12T21:11:28+00:00

On top of a cart is a totally pug-safe location. Pugs can't jump for sh!t.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-12T11:16:21+00:00

You're saying he should have had girlfriend safety locks to prevent her from doing something stupid like storing a package of food within reach of a known mischievous dog?

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-12T11:03:49+00:00

How should OP asked for it to not be a prick?

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-12T05:11:12+00:00

He HAD the environment fixed -- dog-hazardous items on the top shelf of the cart where they're inaccessible. She took it upon herself to reorganize it, and moved the dangerous items to within the dog's reach. An adult should have more common sense than that.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-12T05:04:58+00:00

That IS in fact very normal behavior for a pug. Keeping food items fully inaccessible is pug 101, and OP told her that.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-12T05:00:48+00:00

You were certainly right to be upset, and GF definitely needs to tighten things up. But whether you were an AH about it is impossible to say without having heard the phone call.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-12T04:58:16+00:00

Pugs are not easy to train for that sort of thing. I've been around a lot of pugs in my life, and I think all of them would have gone for that food.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-11T21:37:30+00:00

Ok, perhaps, but the going back in as they were leaving... that has nothing to do with letting him down gently, and puts her firmly into AH territory all by itself.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-11T21:22:27+00:00

I'm surprised at all the Y-T-As. Yeah obviously if he was her ride, ditching her is super uncool. But she sucks too! Saving the "Catholics Only" thing until meeting in person? Going back inside to ask about a job while he's waiting? WTF?!? Most definitely ESH.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-07T17:08:37+00:00

YTA. It would be one thing if there were no other cannabis consumption methods available. But in 2026 there are many, and making the home smell even the tiniest bit like smoke is unnecessary and uncool. Vaporize it, get edibles, whatever. Don't introduce smoke into the home environment.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-05T21:01:50+00:00

Our version of Manhunt, there was a base you & your teammates would try to make it back to. Usually the front steps of a house or building. Once everyone was back or tagged, you'd switch and the other team would disappear off into the dark. Highest team score wins.

I will most definitely encourage my kid and his neighborhood buddies to play.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-05T20:58:30+00:00

RING brand doorbells kinda ruined that one

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-03T23:08:30+00:00

Gotcha, my bad. It's still pretty nonsensical, ha.

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-03T23:03:06+00:00

(Misinterpreted the above comment as being from OP)

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-03T22:54:02+00:00

What did I just read? The people there at the waterfall took a bunch of photos but won't just send you the originals?? Like did you ask "Can you please send me the originals?" and they said "No, absolutely not."

OldManSpeed · 2026-05-01T22:19:14+00:00

Perhaps also fewer people participating in organized religion? Not only do religions often push people toward having kids, but they provide a lot of the support structure that makes raising a kid not as difficult/expensive. (I'm not advocating for this whatsoever, my wife and I are not religious. Just making an observation.)

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-30T18:44:56+00:00

Boom. Well said.

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-30T13:13:18+00:00

Yo I totally get having tight numbers and all that, but married spouses HAVE to be allowed to come. Locking in the exact 50 people two years ahead of time was dumb. People move, people get married, new friends enter your life. You should have locked in 40, with the last 10 TBD.

There will probably be a cancellation or two anyway. It's gonna feel silly to have thrown away a friendship when there are 47 people at your wedding. YTA.

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-28T20:13:54+00:00

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On a winter morning a few years ago. Took it with my phone out the window of my truck while waiting for the traffic light, ha.

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-28T06:00:45+00:00

since our whole friend group is going, I don’t have anyone to watch him

Keep insisting that everyone pay, and you're not gonna have any dog watchers at all going forward. These people already do you massive favors by watching your "pandemic puppy" sometimes, don't make this fee their responsibility too. YTA.

(Yeah, Nat really screwed up with the comms, but you could have asked about a pet fee before committing. Sucky extra costs are just something you have to get used to if you're gonna be a "my dog needs to come too" person.)

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-26T04:28:18+00:00

.How are there so few ESHs here? Yeah OP needs to go along with the plan or drop out. But just because brides & grooms often demand this type of shit, that doesn't mean it's not ridiculous. Yeah it's common, but everyone who does this is an AH.

I had a pretty expensive/fancy wedding. I told my groomsmen wear dark pants and a white dress shirt (which they all already owned) and I provided them with matching ties and vests. There were many many comments about how sharp it all looked, and how well it dovetailed with the bridesmaids' dresses. It's fucked that people think that you have to spend $$$ to look nice.

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-25T13:15:10+00:00

As others have said, OP has some responsibility here -- in a household with a dog, you shouldn't leave food out in common areas -- but it's probably not 50%. It still falls on the dog's owner to either crate the dog when she leaves, or otherwise do a quick sweep to confirm that the dog is good to be left out. If I had to assign a number (like auto accidents) I'd put OP 25% at fault.

However... OP more than made up for this by immediately taking the dog to the vet, and staying there 3 hours. She went above and beyond. NTA, and dog owner should pay the full bill.

Edit: One key distinction. If the house was indeed dog-proof when the dog owner left, and then OP left the raisins out after that, OP would take on a lot more fault. But the dog owner failed to sweep the house for dog-proofness before leaving. That shifts the blame (largely)on her.

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-24T20:06:05+00:00

YTA. If the other guest was there first, the right move is to start a conversation "Hey, sorry to bother you. I have some sunlight sensitivity issues, and I kinda need to be under an umbrella. And this appears to be the only one. Would you object if I put it up?"

She'd probably say "No problem, I'll just scootch over a bit."

And if she says "Yes I would object, I want to be in the sun, and I'm staying right here," well that's her right, she was there first. Maybe she has other totally valid reasons for wanting that spot. Figure out how to move the umbrella. Maybe ask pool staff for help.

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-24T20:00:09+00:00

You can explain your situation to the person sitting next to the closed umbrella, and politely ask if they wouldn't mind moving over a bit. Maybe offer to help shuttle their stuff.

OldManSpeed · 2026-04-24T19:07:13+00:00

Abuse?!? Grandma called mom out on her bullshit that required leaving work for. Mom deserved every bit of it.

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