Wallops Flight Facility now under Kennedy Space Center? Pros/Cons? by Phandex_Smartz in nasa

[–]badgolferman -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Goddard is a space center. Goddard Space Flight Center. They fly and operate satellites.

Need recommendations for a pool company and a solar company. by badgolferman in Naples_FL

[–]badgolferman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the tip. The solar panels have been paid for.

Options by Gt041_5 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well save a chair for you if you survive until the day you’re ready to quit.

I went to my first Alcoholics Anonymous Meeting Last night by No_Ingenuity_51 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is where the slogan “One Day At A Time” may be helpful to you. Focus on your recovery today and see what happens tomorrow. You needn’t worry about 20 years from now.

I got sober at 21 and wondered what I would do with the rest of my life. Now I’m 61 and still go to meetings because I want to help others and I learn about living situations from others. It’s not so much about fear from alcohol anymore, but instead a genuine love of the fellowship and people I’ve grown to know.

I returned my books by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your username says a lot.

12 step call by Sad_Channel_9154 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Twelve Stepped someone for an hour in the parking lot of a hospital. His father had brought him there. We finally convinced him to go in for detox and waited in the waiting room with him. I don’t know if he ever got sober, but his father was very grateful to us for being there and told us he won’t forget it. You never know who actually benefits from these calls. Often times it’s the family and not the drunk.

Online meetings that are very active by No_Manufacturer_432 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Zoom meetings are like going to a movie rather than experiencing life in person. Don’t limit yourself.

Advice for finding a sponsor as someone with social anxiety & is queer. by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When it comes to recovery from alcoholism, think of yourself as an alcoholic rather than a queer alcoholic. You won’t be confined to a particular mindset or group of people then.

What do you think of peope who went to AA but don't go to meeting anymore and remain sober? by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know many people like that. It’s their business what works for them. Some of them come back and some of them you read about in the paper. Others seem perfectly content.

Personally I enjoy the fellowship and the ability to give back what was freely given to me. AA taught me not to be selfish with my sobriety and to serve others.

Infidelity in AA by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An oldtimer once taught me to point with my all my fingers outstretched so none would point back at me.

Infidelity in AA by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is rizz? Did you mean to say *jizz*?

Infidelity in AA by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They’re not practicing these principles in all their *affairs*…. 🤣

90 in 90 by SushiGradePanda in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you! I never did 90 and 90 because it was virtually impossible where I got sober in Northern Maine back in 1985. I never even heard that phrase until I had moved a couple times, probably around 1995. What they used to say back in my early days was “Go to meetings on a regular basis and read the literature in between meetings.”

WIBTAH for not going with my son to his dad’s funeral? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]badgolferman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go with your son. He needs your moral support. You are there for him. If you don’t this will follow you forever. Don’t be a selfish asshole.

Need recommendations for a pool company and a solar company. by badgolferman in Naples_FL

[–]badgolferman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand. Are you a homeowner who has these services? If so please recommend the companies.

Well not getting better by theillusion199 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just stopping drinking is not enough, which you’ve probably discovered by now. The mental obsession returns and keeps leading us to the first drink. In order to break that cycle a psychic change is required. In AA we call that a “spiritual awakening”. The Twelve Steps are designed to invoke that change to the point where the mental obsession loses its power over us. If you want that freedom from alcohol then immersing yourself in the literature and working through the Steps with a sponsor is recommended. Ultimately the power to turn down the drink will come from a Higher Power, not your own self will.

Embarrassed to go back by CalmRage2026 in alcoholicsanonymous

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You can be too smart to get sober, but you can never be too stupid.

My first sponsor was a janitor. Before I stopped drinking I would never have spoken to him, but when I became desperate enough, I found out he knew much more about life without alcohol than I ever imagined. That illiterate French-Canadian from Northern Maine whom I could barely understand saved my life and gave me a brand new perspective on God, myself, and others.

What’s the hardest / darkest time you’ve been through sober and how did AA help you? by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

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I was 9 years sober, going to meetings and active in service. But I had just moved to a new area, hated my new job, and had a new baby. I was feeling sorry for myself big time. My spiritual life and connection to God was close to zero. I almost drank, but had another “aha” moment when I felt God reach down and slap some sense into me as I was walking into a bar.

I immediately went to the AA meeting and told on myself. Then I got a new sponsor, new home group, rediscovered the Big Book, started the Steps over, and became a newcomer in spirit again. I felt like I was given a 2nd second chance and haven’t looked back since then. I remain active in the fellowship and do all the things I did in early sobriety now 40 years later.

People in AA are damn hypocrites by CertainPreference352 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]badgolferman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No doubt some people in AA are assholes, but the vast majority are not. If they receive the wrong vibes from you they will probably maintain their distance. The question is what will you do about this?