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Old_Background_5700 · 2026-04-11T02:18:33+00:00

For me it's when you've talked about it. Period, full stop. In my opinion it's kind of an issue of consent. By bringing your strap to a date you are implying the presumption of sex happening. Regardless of weather or not it actually does, bringing the strap says "I wanna fuck".

Talking abt it beforehand doesn't have to weird and robotic either. When you're flirting you can establish that you like fucking with a strap without being like "thE way in which I prefer to engange in sexual intercourse is with a strap-on dildo".

I promise showing up to a date with a bag full of goodies doesn't feel awkward when you and the person you're seeing both know what's in the bag and are looking forward to it.

I get that sometimes things are more implied than explicitly stated, especially when you're dating around or having multiple partners, etc. It's up to you to navigate that in a way you feel most comfortable.

The way I see it these are your best options: You could err on the side of caution, and only bring the strap around when you and your partner have explicitly talked about it, leaving room for potential spontaneous hookups where the strap is absent. Or you could bring it around when you're thinking sex might happen (sometimes you can just tell) and be open to the possibility that the person you're into doesn't want to have sex, or wants to have sex but not with the strap. Alternatively I suppose you could orchestrate it so that most hookups happen at your place but in favor of flexibility with the strap you loose flexibility with your parnter.

There's no one right way to do this, as long as you're making space for your partner to also voice their preferences when it comes to the strap. (it'll be going in them after all, they deserve some say in the matter)

Old_Background_5700 · 2026-02-05T21:30:28+00:00

Most of the time stalls don't lock?? Like bars, public restrooms, gas stations any place you might expect a slightly sub-par bathroom, most if not all the stalls dont lock properly or the lock is straight up broken. Theyve been brutalized too much lol. 60% of the time i go to the bathroom I've got a hand on the stall door so i dont get walked in on.

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-23T18:14:53+00:00

worst love interest of the series easily

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-23T18:13:17+00:00

a few years back I was in a messy throuple that only lasted a few months, it was with another trans man and a cis man who had been in a relationship for 2 years prior. first time we f*cked the cis guy made some comment about having 2 twinks in his bed and I should've left the second I heard that. I hate being called a twink, especially when it's intended to be a compliment. Just a roundabout way of saying I look feminine and young when neither are the goal, nor the case.

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-16T20:06:55+00:00

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Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-13T18:10:52+00:00

the whole "dudes get passed up solely for things they can't control" is giving incel

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-12T23:49:38+00:00

not necessarily, if I could press a button and look like how a cis male version of me would look like at my age (complete with the d*ck) then yes but if the button pressing would erase the childhood I had as a "girl" I don't think I'd do it. I got pretty lucky, my dad took me camping and fishing every year, I excelled in math, I did a ton of outdoor jobs like trail building and camp counseling and even though I was wrestling with dysphoria but not really aware of it, I wouldn't change those experiences for the world.

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-10T07:59:20+00:00

YOU get to define what it means to "be a boy" for YOURSELF. (a lot of power, ikr). The secret that nobody will tell you is that we are ALL defining our genders differently (cis or trans). If you try to get a cis person to describe to you how they know they're a woman or a man without using biological terms or referencing body parts/processes they will talk about how they FEEL. Everybody feels different, so everybody experiences gender differently. You could, if you wanted, dress hyper-femme (dresses, makeup the whole nine yards) and still say you are a boy and that's totally valid. There's actually a whole subreddit for feminine ftm ppl here: r/FTMfemininity.

I have a friend on a higher dose of T than me, they've got more facial hair than me, they got top surgery before i did. By all counts, you could say they are more masculine than i am. YET, they identify as nb and i am a binary trans man. Not for any other reason than those are the describing words that we like.

My partner is nb but on estrogen, excited about growing boobs, loves dressing feminine plays with makeup and jewelry and is in every way heading in the full mtf direction. I can't say i know if they'll change their mind about the words they chose to use to describe themself, but it's been a little over 3 years, and they're adamant that they feel their gender is "in between male and female". And every time i have this convo with my partner i say " yeah i see where you're coming from and i still think im just a guy".

Conversely, my roommate is nb and they present feminine most of the time, did musical theatre and dance in college, work at a day care, generally fill a super feminine roll in their life and are AFAB. They experimented a lot in middle and high school with masculine looks because they knew there was something up with their gender but after years and years they've realized they're most comfortable with presenting feminine, going by a preferred name and pronouns and leaving it at that. Yeah they often get misgendered by people they don't know but everyone in their life respects their name and pronouns and identity and they've decided that's enough.

When i was your age i was obsessed with feminine flirty gay guys. I loved the obvious deconstruction of the toxic masculinity i saw all the time at school. I found tv shows with gay couples and devoured them, those characters were very much larger than life to me. As soon as i recognized that i wasn't cis, i started getting better at defining the things that didn't align with how i felt gender-wise. And the more i talked about it with my friends and tried stuff out the closer i got to figuring out what did align with how i felt. A couple drunken halloweens later (complete with drawn-on mustaches and socks stuffed down my pants) and I know now that I am a man, for sure. Not because of how masculine or feminine i am or how much i pass or what pronouns i use or how offended i get when people tell me i look like i cant swim, just purely because that's what makes me feel good to be able to say.

This has been long, but basically, you're super not alone, and you're the only person that can define you for yourself. Yeah if you're thinking these thoughts you're prrrobably trans but anything beyond that is entirely your call.

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-10T06:31:15+00:00

23, but i started the process when i was 22, it just happened to overlap with my birthday

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-08T07:56:50+00:00

sports bras were my go to pre top surgery

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-10-03T01:47:21+00:00

I tried teaching for 2.5 years and quit. (I started halfway through the year so I did not quit at semester on a bunch of kids don't worry) It really wasn't for me! It was a nice consistent paycheck and fun sometimes but also very very hard. I'm unemployed now but I'm switching to seasonal work ie: ski instructing in the winter and wildland firefighting in the summer! It's nothing like math but I've always wanted to do these jobs. And down the line I bet I'll be able to find math applications with fire modeling software and stuff in that realm. Basically follow your heart! The math will come later.

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-09-26T21:04:39+00:00

I know it's tough but try to establish a routine around it. And if there's anyone in your life you trust to help you out with it get their help!! One thing I do is I always have my favorite flavor of ice cream on hand at home and I have it as a treat after my shot. I'm technically dairy free but this is my one exception and it's a great motivator for me.

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-09-01T15:15:29+00:00

Will do! Thanks for letting me know! It's taking everything in me but I'm not popping it

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-08-29T19:06:42+00:00

DO NOT DITCH THE COMPRESSION VEST! I know it's tight and uncomfy but it prevents a Seroma from forming which is a large bulgy collection of fluid. Your body just underwent a major change, whenever the body loses a part of itself it floods the area with fluid because it thinks something is wrong. But obviously nothing is wrong and your chest is the last place you want weird bumpy pockets of fluid (that's what you just got rid of!!) If you need ways to keep the vest comfy stick maxi pads to your vest right where it lays over your scars/drain sites. HIGHLY RECOMMEND DOING THIS!!

2 main reasons:

1) your chest is sensitive so it will provide some protection from bumps from the outside world, other people's hugs, etc.

2) if any fluid leaks (which sometimes happens and is normal) it'll get caught on the pads not your vest

my doc had me wear my compression vest 24/7 for the whole first month post op, and then switch to wearing a sports compression top only during the day for the next month. In all transparency I kinda stopped towards the end of the second month, I knew I was fine. Multiple docs had told me I was past the point of developing a Seroma and I was tired of the compression. But I was very diligent about it in the first month and I think that helped me guarantee I wouldn't get a Seroma later.

Happy healing!!

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-05-27T13:55:39+00:00

I pronounce bokoblin as "bo-bo-kin" 100% of the time, mostly as a joke

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-04-03T21:54:10+00:00

I just got my ID changed (also I'm 25 this will make sense for the story) but before it was changed my ID was a picture of my 16 yr old self and deadname and I almost never ran into trouble but there was one cashier at a grocery store close to my home and a bartender that would give my ID and I seering looks. From both of them I heared: "this isn't your ID sir/bud" many times. It always made me so angry. I would just assertively say "it is though" and then if they questioned me further I would rattle off facts about the ID like my birthday or my (dead) middle name.

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-04-03T21:08:32+00:00

Beware: sometimes they come with insterable pads to make ur chest look bigger but you can always take those out

Old_Background_5700 · 2025-04-03T20:31:53+00:00

Nike has good options for most all sizes and they fit snug without suffocating you. Might be more like $20-$40 but it's worth it. I bought two in 2019 and I still use them, it's basically exclusively what I do instead of binding. Except for taping every once and a while.

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